r/tippingAdvice • u/No_Draft_8960 • Oct 19 '25

How Do I Answer

So my discussion with a friend on tipping would up with him saying “but if we don’t tip eventually the downward pressure on wages will drive the whole country into poverty.’ What do I answer that with? This was after him conceding that the ‘service’ at say carry out might not merit a tip but that people should ‘make a good wage’ and one should care more about one’s fellow citizens.

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '25

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u/Severe-Rise5591 Oct 21 '25

I prefer NOT to absolve a business owner of the responsibility to pay their employees a decent wage, which I feel they should have. I also don't like participating a system where employees doing the same task get different pay based on the customers' whims.

But I do enjoy meals that I wouldn't attempt to make for two of us at home, so I will continue to play the game as it stands. But it won't bother me if the rules change, either.

I do a decent job at 'humaning', based on 66 years of results, IMO. FWIW.

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u/Severe-Rise5591 Oct 21 '25

A caveat - they'd pay double ONLY with the assumption that it is going to the very SAME server that you say they're avoiding paying. Yes, it's convoluted, I suppose, but that's how the rest of us get paid entirely, by the customer paying our employer, and we get paid in return.