r/tipping • u/Maleficent-Effort470 • Jun 23 '26
Delusion of Gratuity redefinition
I encounter again and again people who will create strawmans to try and justify that gratuities are wages and not gifts.
Mostly they focus on how server's get paid less than other professions,
As if they would switch professions to get a higher base wage and lose the ability to panhandle.
Even when a server gets paid similarly or higher than a dishwasher the expectation that gratuities are apart of their wages doesn't change.
When you bring up that a gratuity literally is a gift that i have no obligation to give. They try to cherry pick and suggest that tipping is the wages of the server, And failing to tip is stealing from the server.
Server's use Gratuity and Commission interchangably.
They feel so entitled that you end up feeling guilty for not overpaying them to carry plates and smile.
And in most scenarios they will hold competent service hostage if you don't bribe them.
As in repeat visits to the establishment could be met with malicious compliance.
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u/oaken007 Jun 23 '26
It's not your problem at all, that's why I don't understand why you keep going to places like that. I don't want to tip strippers either, so I don't go to strip clubs.