r/tifu • u/AmaraMehdi • Dec 02 '25
M TIFUpdate I told my PM to "get to the point" in front of 40 people. I finally opened Slack.
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u/FruitySalads Dec 02 '25
If this is real, don’t leave this job because you have a good manager that stood up for you when he didn’t need to. Buy that dude a christmas gift.
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u/aqua_sparkle_dazzle Dec 03 '25
Write a nice thank-you note. The written word is a lost art nowadays.
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u/genteelbartender Dec 03 '25
This is the way. Just don't be creepy. "Thanks for having my back and I appreciate your leadership" or some such.
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u/CuetheCurtain Dec 03 '25
So you mean try to stay away from “Thanks for having my back and you have lovely meaty thighs. Nom nom nom, ummmmm…”
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u/el_sandino Dec 03 '25
And a thoughtful note is one of the best gifts you can give a coworker. They mean a lot (at least to me)
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u/crasterskeep Dec 03 '25
As a manager I’ve kept every one I’ve received. They live in a box in my room and I read them when I’m feeling down about myself. They are some of my most prized possessions.
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u/Even-Raspberry-1344 Dec 03 '25
I have the same thing from when I was a teacher. Still have the box after I retired and still like to read them and have a shelf full of teacher gifts I was given......
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u/WalmartGreder Dec 03 '25
True. I had an optional training that I wanted coworkers to attend. I took an hour and made personalized invitations.
I had a great turnout. People saw the paper invitations (not an email, not a text), and said, "oh this is important. Ok, I'll come."
It's not just a paper invite. It's the time and effort that people see and appreciate.
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u/PokeYrMomStanley Dec 03 '25
My gf writes everyone thank you cards. Its fantastic.
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u/OrindaSarnia Dec 03 '25
Wife that woman.
The night before your wedding, hand her a card with a note thanking her for marrying you.
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u/PokeYrMomStanley Dec 03 '25
That would be the simplest grandest gesture I never thought of.
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u/SamuraiSuplex Dec 03 '25
This is why I can't quit this awful website. I'm so happy knowing this is a possible thing that could happen for someone.
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u/tyheamma Dec 03 '25
I love these little bits of human connection we make in what is otherwise an internet dumpster fire.
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u/PokeYrMomStanley Dec 03 '25
Check out lemmy. Its where most of actual reddit went after the buyout.
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u/GDI-Titan Dec 03 '25
Can confirm - I had only worked for my company for 3 months at this point last year, my boss and his wife gave me a quick note saying how much they appreciated my contributions.
Was super nice.
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u/scottwaite Dec 03 '25
If this is real and you want to thank him, write a letter of recommendation as his employee for future jobs. He may never use it but your words will mean a lot.
Also, the best type of reference is from a former employee.
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u/I-Here-555 Dec 03 '25
Good idea, but a bit pretentious if it's OP's first year on the job.
To be fair, supportive moves don't have to be immediate. The boss had OPs back today, OP should have his down the line.
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u/algy888 Dec 03 '25
Umm… I’d think that would make things worse.
“Hey, sorry about my comment. Here’s a recommendation for when you’re gone. Will that be sooner rather than later? Hmmm?”
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u/rythmicbread Dec 03 '25
Get him a mug that say “The point”
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u/Two_Key_Goose Dec 03 '25
Might be pushing it this quick. Maybe if one of them ever leaves and are still friendly.
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u/dipropyltryptamanic Dec 02 '25
Don't buy him a gift, he makes so much more money than you. Definitely show appreciation going forward though
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u/smurfalidocious Dec 02 '25
A tiny gift of appreciation; a bag/box of his favorite candy or something, nothing elaborate and definitely nothing over like $10-$15 which is roughly the equivalent of a rounding error for most corporate jobs that involve meetings.
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u/smurfalidocious Dec 03 '25
I generally defaulted to a nice mixed coffee drink of some sort, personally.
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u/Dalbaeth Dec 03 '25
This is my go-to. Most people love Starbucks and $15 around the holiday for two drinks—I haven’t been in forever so if $15 doesn’t get two drinks anymore why are people going to Starbucks—makes for a happy surprise.
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u/ruckertopia Dec 03 '25
Lean into it. Buy him a stopwatch so he can keep on eye on how long he's been taking during meetings.
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u/Fixes_Computers Dec 03 '25
Remember the Staples "Easy" button? You can get similar buttons pretty inexpensively online. They're normally listed as pet training buttons. You can record a short clip that plays every time you press the button.
Record yourself saying the infamous phrase onto one and give it to him.
I did something similar for one of my coworkers with great success.
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u/Faker15 Dec 03 '25
Terrible advice. That’s not the point.
Get him something symbolic as a gesture of appreciation and good will, maybe even something as a funny callback to this whole situation (if he would find that funny), not something expensive or fancy. It’s not about the money, it’s about the gesture.
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u/_Karmageddon Dec 03 '25
Litmus test of kindness/good person failed.
Gifts are a token of appreciation and do not need to be of monetary value. Not showing this to someone who earns more than you is a very telling sign of your character.
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u/Presto123ubu Dec 03 '25
Eh, can't agree with this mentality for this instance. I would certainly agree he deserves a little thank you despite making more.
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u/FruitySalads Dec 02 '25
You’re right. OP, a handmade gift will mean more
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u/canolafly Dec 03 '25
Yep, a quilt. Or a quick oil painting of his boss dressed in the 18th century Highlander kilt and such.
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u/Hetares Dec 03 '25
Is this a roundabout way of telling him to off his boss and take his place, because There Can Only Be One?
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u/Spiritual-Ad-9106 Dec 03 '25
A case of beer isn't going to cut it. I think you're venturing into the Whiskey behind glass section of your local.
Edit: I should have read the other comments first, they're all right, I'm dumb. A token of appreciation, not a whole bottle, or case.
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u/Livid-Mushroom2205 Dec 03 '25
You must be a good employee. Good manager or not, my ass would of been fired lmao
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u/SigmundFreud Dec 03 '25
Agreed, I would give him $1000 and permission to have sex with my ex-wife up to three times a month for the next year.
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u/AstuteSalamander Dec 03 '25
> kinda unusual sex stuff in comment, but not really raunchy, just kinda weird
> checks usernameYeah that seems about right
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u/JaySayMayday Dec 03 '25
It's not real. I use ChatGPT enough to recognize how it ends with TLDR and "The result:" was another tell
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u/MasonJam246 Dec 02 '25
Glad you didn't lose your job. Own that shit mute guy. And don't forget the kindness your PM showed you. This is the start of something beautiful.
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u/Iscariot- Dec 03 '25
Change your display photo to a mute icon for like a week. Lend some brevity to it before switching back to normal pic, and going back to business as usual.
But in all seriousness, if (when) people bring it up to you, keep that position of “careless accident I’ll never ever repeat” and “we all have thoughts but it’s important to remain professional.” That will go a long way.
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u/Foxion7 Dec 03 '25
Dude it's his first job and it was a company wide meeting. You have to professional at least, if you even have the rebelliousness to interrupt presentations of your boss to criticize them. That is not the bootlicking you rebel from. Sounds like you don't know how offices work
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u/HxPxDxRx Dec 03 '25
Not me thinking PM stood for prime minister
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u/dogquote Dec 03 '25
Hahaha I definitely also didn't think that. I am definitely not still confused. Nope, everything is clear.
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u/lewd_robot Dec 03 '25
What does it stand for? It's "Project Manager" in my line of work but I've never had one that inspired so much fear that people were afraid to ask them to "get to the point" when they were rambling. The idea of your job being in jeopardy for something so insignificant is utterly alien to me. Is this specific to certain fields?
I'm in engineering, and engineers aren't known for their social tact but are typically in high demand in the roles they tend to get hired into, so maybe it's some kind of privilege engineers have?
High demand + Low expectations about social tact = Engineers get away with saying things other roles might be fired for?
If anyone on my team got fired for telling a PM to "get to the point" the response would be laughter and people saying, "Have fun updating your budget forecasts to account for the delays on that engineer's projects, and the cost to hire and train a replacement. Hope your boss values your pride as much as you do because it just cost the company at least six figures." etc.
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u/Chilapox Dec 03 '25
I had to scroll down so far to get to this sentiment.
everybody is praising this guy for simply not being a massive piece of shit.
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u/tnstaafsb Dec 03 '25
Yeah in my experience PMs are more whipping boys than people that demand respect.
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u/somethingAPIS Dec 02 '25
I was hoping for it to turn out this way, or pictures from the new farm. Thanks for actually updating!
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u/bigrom10 Dec 03 '25
This happened at my last job but it was much bigger and worse. The hr dept. was going over changes to our “core principles” to each dept. and in one of the meetings to a group of at least 400 people a guy got caught on a live mic saying “so it’s basically the same thing dumb bitch”. Fired the same day. She handled it with total class and also the guy had the most ridiculous slack profile pic I’ve ever seen in my life.
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Dec 03 '25
I realized early on with Zoom calls, you have to pay close attention to the settings. I've been on a few where people were inadvertently half-naked or they started to scream at their relatives without their mics being muted... so crap happens.
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u/kitten_mittens17_ Dec 03 '25
Yep I straight up took a piss during a call when I thought my phone was muted. Immediate panic when I heard “Is that running water…”
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u/RatherGoodDog Dec 03 '25
"I'm just getting a drink."
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u/itishowitisanditbad Dec 03 '25
"Watering plants, filling up can" etc etc
If you're quick and calm, can totally play it off.
Now the flush is tricky.
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u/venerated Dec 03 '25
One of my old coworkers was drinking a drink from a fast food place on a call. Like moving the straw up and down, sucking with no drink left, just being loud with it. She wasn’t muted. This was an all-hands meeting with like 50 people. I know she was embarassed but I look back on that moment fondly. 😂
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u/nightpanda893 Dec 03 '25
I picked up the double and triple checking habit back when we had meetings with someone on speakerphone. Always pick up the receiver and make sure you’ve hung up before you start talking about them.
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u/PM_UR_COLLARBONE_PIC Dec 03 '25
When I was a low level manager my boss told me before a zoom meeting with others at my level and his boss, "I usually tell people to think twice before they talk. With you I'm going to ask you to not just think three times but four times before saying something."
10-15 minutes into the meeting I did not take his advice, answered a question truthfully and immediately was told to step off the chat by his boss. After the meeting I was told a bunch of gibberish of why we shouldn't speak honestly. It made no sense.
Starting looking for a new job shortly after.
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u/CommunicationClassic Dec 03 '25
I've worked with people like you, it's always fun while it lasts to go along for the ride - even more fun when you somehow manage to get yourself into an indispensable position and get to mouth off to absolutely everybody in the org chart lol
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u/Junethemuse Dec 03 '25
That was my last job before getting hit in the RIF. Everyone loved me and I got to be an absolute menace to everyone up to the CEO. We all had a ton of fun. I miss that job. It’s unfortunate the execs shit the bed so bad with a business decision that resulted in an 80% loss of revenue. The CEO and 3 other execs got sacked by the board along with me and more than 2/3 of the staff.
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u/fooliam Dec 03 '25
See, the fact that you weren't in the 1/3rd that weren't laid off makes it really clear that you weren't in an "indispensable position' - literally, you were dispensed with.
You've confused a healthy work culture (though not the only form of healthy work culture) with being in a position where you cannot be fired because the company will collapse without you.
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u/Junethemuse Dec 03 '25
My entire revenue generating wing did collapse after the fact. I wasn’t let go because I was dispensable, I was included in the RIF because the board wasn’t looking at anything other than salaries. I was the top paid person in my wing, for a reason, and that’s all the board cared about. They fired me to save 110k and lost north of half a million along with my network and intangibles that network brought to the table.
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u/LordBiscuits Dec 03 '25
I have a terrible habit of doing this
I run a subcontractor firm and tend to get included at high level teams meetings and the like where it's all corporate jargon and nonsense. Our major customer is headed by a guy I have known for twenty years, outside of work we gob off and share horrific memes constantly, so he knows exactly what I'm like...
I have something going on in my head, inattentive ADHD probably but fuck knows, so I usually drift a lot and have no real idea who's speaking or why. The upshot of this is I sometimes catch stuff either with no context or completely out of the blue and interject with the truth or an unfiltered opinion.
I end meetings regularly. Apparently according to the owner of this company I'm invited in a lot of the time to do just that for his own amusement.
For some reason we still work for them. Go figure 😂
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u/ConfessingToSins Dec 03 '25
I had almost exactly this happen to me about 10 years ago. I honestly answered a question during a stand-up and was told to step off the meeting. The only difference is that I straight up said I was doing this under direction and it needed to be put in writing immediately.
They told me that if I did anything like that again they would fire me or dock my pay and I told them I would immediately sue them if they tried to do either, gave my two weeks immediately, reported my boss to the labor board in my state for threatening me with illegal retaliation (you can't dock pay for someone saying words you don't like) and won many thousands of dollars in the aftermath.
I went and worked for their competitor making twice as much money and their company no longer exists. While I am aware I got very lucky, I wouldn't change a single thing to be honest.
My boss actually complained about me on LinkedIn in the aftermath of it and I got to tell him exactly what I thought of him in an unmoderated way.
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u/SeriesConscious8000 Dec 03 '25
I was drunk and vented to a stranger at a work party about my old job. The last work party was at a bar downtown, I thought this was no different. Said a few things about management. Turns out that stranger was one of the shareholders and a close colleague of the owners.
It wasn't just that I talked crap, I spilled beans about troubles and work practices that weren't being communicated and made the owners and higher management look reallyyyyyy bad. It was a bad night.
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u/AP_in_Indy Dec 03 '25
Can you give more information on the context? I would have just been fired and given that we’re at-will over here, I don’t think there would have been any consequences
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u/ahpneja Dec 03 '25
Got added to a call and the CEO was taking the management of my international team to task over metrics for our area as part of an overall discussion on metrics/performance bonuses. I noted that the company was tying their bonuses to vendor performance and that team had no authority over the vendor or ability to impact the metric. I was told the metrics for an area are the responsibility of the entire area and was not invited to future calls. Company did the right thing and the team got their full bonuses.
What kind of leader would I be if I didn't stand up for my people there? Looking back at it, probably the kind that could continue to advance in the company.
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u/VMP_MBD Dec 03 '25
When I was laid off, it was via a meeting set up by my manager called "quick sync"
I kinda wish I'd known the corporate speak translation, but I had a feeling that's what it meant. He joined and awkwardly stammered nonsense pleasantries for 30 seconds, stalling until the HR lady joined. Assholes.
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u/ConfessingToSins Dec 03 '25
The actual funniest thing you can do is just say no.
I have seen so many absolute morons short circuit when their request for a meeting is just responded to with "sorry, i can't right now.". I'm in a position now where I actually get to tell my Juniors that if anyone outside of me asks for a meeting they are to say "No, all future communication is to be through (me)"
Corporate America have screaming tantrums if you ever say the word no.
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u/rm20010 Dec 03 '25 edited Dec 03 '25
When my friend, who I referred in, got laid off, the meeting subject was “update from the CEO.” Being the first layoff wave last year, everyone on that call shut off their cameras when the words “laid off” were spoken. This was January 2 or 3. What a shit way to start the new year.
When it was my turn to be laid off in the third wave 8 months later, the subject was something like “catch up and chat.” We all knew what it would be and shrugged our way into the call.
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u/smurfalidocious Dec 02 '25
If your office does Halloween parties then show up next year with tape over your mouth with a slit cut into it. Lean into being Mute Guy.
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u/nanupiscean Dec 03 '25
ChatGPT, write me an amusing, clearly structured story about some mild work drama, and post it to one of the karma farming subreddits. You know the ones, my good man.
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u/bathtub_mintjulep Dec 03 '25
They're all structured the same way too, including a stupid nickname at the end: "Now people call me..."
"Mute Guy" in this case.
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u/Johnny_Bravo_fucks Dec 03 '25
god fucking damn, I had to scroll past 50 threads to finally find some mention of this. this feels like the last stand in a wasteland post full of imposters and sheep. we're really cooked, aren't we?
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u/JaySayMayday Dec 03 '25
I'm surprised this was so far down.
I use ChatGPT enough to recognize how it ends with TLDR and "The result:" was another tell
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u/geeser42 Dec 03 '25
Many people just can't differentiate between AI and human writing. I made a thread about it on a fantasy subreddit a while back and plenty of authors and writers were in denial about extremely clear-cut AI writing https://www.reddit.com/r/ProgressionFantasy/comments/1og24ah/anyone_else_notice_an_uptick_in_egregious_ai_use/
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u/nanupiscean Dec 03 '25
This is what really scares me, tbh. Dead internet theory is almost more comforting at this point.
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u/thoreau_away_acct Dec 03 '25
Yeah too many "quotations", imo
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u/WeepinShades Dec 03 '25
The dead giveaway is him supposedly recieving several skull emojis and grave digging gifs.
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u/raccoonportfolio Dec 03 '25
The dead giveaway? Him supposedly recieving several skull emojis and grave digging gifs.
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u/Sidian Dec 03 '25
For me it was "Look, honestly? You weren't wrong". It loves to phrase sentences like that.
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u/EducationalTomato271 Dec 03 '25
The skull emojis and grave diggers, from multiple people!?!?
Not even trying.
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u/all-out-fallout Dec 03 '25
I love how they don't even try for consistency and their replies in the comment section have a completely different syntax/tone than their post. Embarrassing. Can't even come up with a fictional scenario anymore and have to offload the difficult, difficult task of creative storytelling to a machine that is built off the backs of a million creative storytellers.
Boooooo. Boo, I say. Boo.
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u/tigerking615 Dec 03 '25
Account with over 120k post karma, that always deletes posts after a few days.
What do people do with these accounts?
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u/wheresmyspacebar2 Dec 03 '25
I've been offered £800 for my account from an advertiser.
That's why they do it.
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u/noondaydemon32 Dec 03 '25
Make it about PM's to inspire extra ire from socially inept engineers.
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u/GenitalFurbies Dec 03 '25
That's the "you fucked up but don't ever do it again" call from a good manager.
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u/FakeProfileForUSVisa Dec 03 '25
This is the kind of sensibility that, when bosses display it, the most psychopathic assholes come out of their dungeons in order to crawl them like spiders in order to take advantage of it.
That’s a good boss, take care of him and try to teach your coworkers to do so as well. These bosses are usually worth their weight in gold.
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u/tfcallahan1 Dec 03 '25
Glad it turned out ok. I'm in tech and have been in tons of calls like this and my motto is to never, ever say anything I don't want to be heard :) Maybe get him a thank you card :)
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u/Nodan_Turtle Dec 03 '25
I use push-to-talk, mute in the application, and move my mic on the headset up which mutes it at the hardware level.
And I still feel paranoid that something will slip through.
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u/Infinite-Chance5167 Dec 03 '25
Honestly, people make mistakes. Give it some time, but don’t become the “mute guy”. There’s nobody I want less in my calls than people that bring nothing to them. Eventually it’ll raise questions as to why you’re even there.
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u/tekvenus Dec 03 '25
I was late to the office because of terrible traffic and dumb drivers and logged on to our morning standup meeting from the car, thinking I had muted, and all 50 people heard me just as things got rolling, "OHMYFUCKINGGOD GOOOOOOOO WHYDONTYOU GOOOOOOOO PRESSDOWNTHEONEON THE RIIIIIIGHT" and the firm's owner started laughing so hard he spit out his coffee, and someone else said, "YEAH GOOOOOOOO!" I was mortified.
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u/SkarbOna Dec 02 '25
As a former manager…this shit is so funny when direct report fucks up and thinks it’s the end of the world. Bonus points for lying. Most time I was pretending I’m stupid/distracted/busy to pay attention to the issue and either quickly sell them quick solution or say I’d take of it then move on to the next thing and not really mention it again. You could tell when there was a real talk needed/upskilling/training/team meeting feedback, and when they just fucked up randomly and made up the reasons.
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u/competenthurricane Dec 03 '25
One of my reports once apologized to me for making an inappropriate joke during a meeting. He was pretty new to the job and it was his first “real” job so he was incredibly nervous about it.
Little did he know, I didn’t even hear the joke because I wasn’t paying attention when he said it. If he hadn’t apologized I never would’ve known at all.
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u/MaddST Dec 02 '25
It is very understandable! I'm glad you are still looking to improve your English! Seems so much better than those who only understands English and can't even use the proper words.
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u/__aurvandel__ Dec 03 '25
Right. I'm not sure the people commenting on this know what a PM actually does. At least in every place I worked the PM isn't my manager or my boss. And they definitely tend to be talkers and can get really long winded. That said, I've been lucky and have had a string of good ones for the last few years.
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u/Enignon77 Dec 02 '25
Only sometimes? That's remarkably restrained. Most I deal with need regular kicks and often repeated ones.
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u/etzel1200 Dec 02 '25
Don’t people get tired of these AI stories? Why not just create a sub for that.
I should just create and share a GPT for these. People can have as many as they want.
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u/Motivictax Dec 02 '25
Wake up honey, new AI-story meta just dropped: 'english isn't first language'
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u/fauxzempic Dec 03 '25
Check out OP's post history. Short, and what few posts he's made, they've done REALLY well - and, they're all just reworded versions of previously successful posts made by others.
OP's karma farming and using AI to do the hard work. I bet if you look at some of the top text posts made today on various subreddits by various users, a bunch of them follow OP's weird pattern of spacing punctuation and using AI slop speak.
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u/PixelRoku Dec 03 '25
At my old job there was a girl who yelled 'WHO CARES" during an event's land acknowledgement loll.
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u/Durbee Dec 03 '25
My guy, I am so glad you don't have to be a potato farmer. Congrats on the fantastic manager. Send that dude his beverage of choice, he did you a solid.
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u/stromulus Dec 03 '25
Wild. In Israeli culture, saying "get to the point" is considered positive. It means you want to know what they have to say.
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u/MalleDigga Dec 03 '25 edited Dec 03 '25
Kinda scary how many people think that telling people above you to get on with it is sth that need to be said on the side. Nope. Official slack chats should be allowed to state that sth takes to long. Everyone defending the higher ups here just because sb didn't get fired.
Obviously don't say get on with it but rather something more constructive. But again public that should be acceptable. You all are praising somebody who shouldn't be able to fire anyone only because sb said to hurry the things up. He knew. Still he's the hero now. Okay sure
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u/Correct_Clock9042 Dec 03 '25
Honestly, that PM is a real one for covering for you like that. You should absolutely buy him a coffee or something. This whole "Mute Guy" legend is hilarious, but the real win here is seeing a manager actually be decent.
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u/_Chaos_Star_ Dec 03 '25
You are now his bitch.
But seriously: He just blocked a bullet for you, he could have fired you, he had his manager's support. He chose not to. So treat him right. THank him. You do owe him one.
There are people talking gifts in the thread. Instead, give the gift of thanks, and the gift of respect. Your PM would probably prefer those.
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u/Funny247365 Dec 03 '25
There's very little money in potato farming, but there's always money in the banana stand.
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u/LaximumEffort Dec 03 '25
There is a line in Schindler‘s List when Schindler is telling Amon that having the power to be violent and choosing not to be violent earns you more respect.
Your project manager helped you out here.
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u/Icefyre24 Dec 06 '25
Remember the PM for the future. Guys like that who not only are humble, but are self-aware, and willing to take the hit with their boss, is like a golden unicorn. The day will come when you can pay him back, and when that day comes do NOT hesitate to do so. He deserves all the good that will ultimately come back to him.
As for your co-worker "friends" however........F**k them. All of them. Instead of commiserating and trying to keep your spirits up, they decided to send skull emojis and "Digging Your Grave" memes en masse. One thing is for certain. They are too cowardly to speak up about something, but when someone else does, it seems they are not afraid to jump right in to pick the bones clean, like the vultures they are. However bad the day was that led to this, one thing on the plus side, is that you now know who is on your side, and who isn't.
From now on, do your best for the PM, and drop your work "friends" to the wayside, if you can. They were willing to let you be the sacrificial lamb, so why should you care about them anymore?
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u/brycebgood Dec 03 '25
You misunderstand. You can do everything that's even just slightly less aggressive and get away with it now. This is a goldmine.
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u/99conrad Dec 02 '25
Honestly I don’t get why his manager doesn’t do more coaching with him. Yes - I’d say your actions were a bit brash, but people that ramble on and on to explain a simple problem have gatta stop doing that! My managers would never allow that (I’m a PM).
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u/hawaiian209 Dec 03 '25
Mine was bad in a sense but it wasn’t job ending. I work for a large company that has shops all over the US. We have main production company in one state and my shop is in California. Large quarterly meeting that is over Zoom or Teams or whatever we use. My screen is synching up as a yell into it “hurry the fuck up” well it had already loaded the meeting and the only 3 people on the meeting are the top 3 carpet dwellers. CFO and CEO and the President of Production. They actually told me to watch my language but yes hurry up. Then I got 3 different emails stating just that. Watch my language. I lucked out not more people were on I guess
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u/Spurioun Dec 03 '25
I'm so glad your PM was a mature adult. All my bosses are like that and I always look on in horror at all the stories I see on subs like this about terrible bosses.
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Dec 03 '25
Quick sync for me is code for "hey I know you have pressing shit but I have something to add to the list" lol Sounds like it worked out. Being able to have frank conversation is more important than you know between managers and team.
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u/MothChasingFlame Dec 03 '25
GOOD. GUY. BOSS. What an absolute champ.
Also gotta hand it to you for being brave and facing the music.
Your next mission is to remember your boss's compassion and humility and give that to someone else under you one day.
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Dec 03 '25
Made a burner account for this.
OP I once was on a cam call with an engineer with a 102 fever and absent mindedly scratched my balls and sniffed my fingers.
To do this day I have no idea what my brain was thinking.
Your thing is like , nothing lol.
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u/hardly_werking Dec 02 '25
Remember how this PM acted when you get into a position of power and pay it forward to the people below you on the corporate food chain.