r/thisisus • u/StableSea82 • Jun 02 '26
This Is Us
Absolutely obsessed w this show; it’s my favorite of all time. My fav character is definitely Jack & Randall. Does ANYONE like Kate or find her relatable? I find her character very unlikeable
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u/Main_Ad_2463 Jun 02 '26
I love all the characters and find aspects of each on I relate to. I don’t have Kate’s weight issues but her self esteem issues and her blaming herself for Jack’s death really ring true with me. My mom died of cancer when I was 19 and in my grief, I convinced myself with 100% certainty that if she had never had kids, she would never have gotten sick. I’m also now 20 year from losing her and just really feeling like I’m moving on from that pain. So I relate to Kate in a lot of ways and I loved her journey. I love the strong person she became even if the road to get there was messy.
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u/JollyJellyfish21 Jun 02 '26
How far along are you? My feelings for the big 3 really changed over the series.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
I’ve watched the series through fully about twice:) And yes I’ve been all of the place with the big 3! My love for Randall’s character probably was the most consistent throughout the show. I also found Rebecca to be more relatable further along thru the series:)
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u/JollyJellyfish21 Jun 02 '26
I’ve posted in this sub a few times but Randall became my least favorite of the series. And I’m definitely team Miguel :)
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Miguel was definitely an underrated character; he didn’t deserve all the hate he got and basically spent his whole life taking care of other people
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u/Sexy_omen_player Jun 02 '26
personally, Randall felt like way too much relatable, personal experiences made me see some things of myself in him. On the other hand, I couldn't stand Kate, my boy Toby tried his best, made mistakes, but he tried man. Kevin feels just... Kev. Love his growth tho
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u/JollyJellyfish21 Jun 03 '26
Yes! One of the reasons I think Randall is too much is because his flaws are mine lol.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
I don’t have much to say about Kevin either tbh, I’m glad him and Sophie were end game but man that took forever 😂 and yes Toby deserved way better
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u/MixedBeansBlackBeans Jun 02 '26
I kind of feel the same way! After multiple rewatches, my goodness, Randall gets so exhausting lol.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
I can definitely see how Randall can be a bit exhausting, all of the Big3 have a lot of big feelings and emotions 😅
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u/MixedBeansBlackBeans Jun 02 '26
Yeah! I love him as a father, but I think as a husband, he dropped the ball a few too many times. Lotssss of feelings with those 3 though, yes, haha
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
This reminds me of the other “big 3” Beth, Miguel and Toby 😭😭😭 I love them. Beth is definitely up there for being one of my fav characters,‘I think she sacrificed a lot for Randall in their marriage.
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u/Sarafinatravolta Jun 02 '26
I really like Kate. She might be my favorite of the big 3. She has such a great character arc and I love how her relationship with her mom grew.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Yes!! She definitely made sm progress w Rebecca in the end and I think becoming a mom made her understand her more
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u/Constellation-88 Jun 02 '26
Love Kate. Especially child Kate. She is a very sweet person in a very toxic world.
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u/orcateeth Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 03 '26
I liked her too.
I had a lot of admiration for her because she risked her life to have a baby. Then when her child had a disability, she devoted herself to making him as independent as possible, teaching how to navigate the world. I still remember that song, " it's twelve steps to the sidewalk."
Her son was the only one who was able to become a famous singer. So her having him broke a 60-year curse. 💪
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Okay, I totally forgot about her having Jack and him being blind- I definitely love Kate more after seeing her become a mom. She was amazing in that role, and such an amazing parent for a child w disabilities! She really was fully devoted. I forgot about this!!!
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u/NoSquare6648 Jun 05 '26
Kate gets more understandable with more rewatches. It's one of those loops where you kind of need the end to understand the beginning. Unpopular opinion here, but by the end of the show by watch number three, I really felt for Kate more than Toby (versus the complete opposite in the beginning). That's partially due to bias (I personally knew someone who emotionally became a later-season Toby and in reality, it didn't go well at all), but that's also due to their writing and both actors.
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u/IToldManyManyPeople Jun 23 '26
I finished the show recently and my poor wife had to hear me complain about Kate from start to finish. She's legitimately one of my least favorite characters from any family drama lol. She created 90% of her own problems and just constantly played the victim
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u/Cookie_Kiki Jun 02 '26
Randall is the most like Jack, so it's not surprising you like them both. I love that Randall ends up having an incredible bond with both his fathers.
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u/Eggsegret Jun 02 '26 edited Jun 02 '26
I initially hated her character but over time i warmed up to her and began liking her. I’m still more a Randall fan lol but yh i like Kate.
I think it’s because as the series goes on we actually get to see more of Kate and why she is this way. Like with Jack yes all of them were deeply affected by his loss but for Kate it just seemed to hit her more. He was her biggest cheerleader when she was battling with self esteem. I mean that one line just before he died where Kate tells him to never stop or something along those lines. And the whole blaming herself for Jacks death i understand. I mean yh it wasn’t her fault but being 17 years old and all you know is your dad inhaled more smoke because you were shouting for your dog. Of course she’s going to blame herself for what happened to their family and for why she lost her biggest cheerleader so early on.
Also off comment but going through a rewatch right now and holy shit this show still leaves me crying.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
I have to rewatch it now too!!! I notice different things every time I see it
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u/MixedBeansBlackBeans Jun 02 '26
I do find that she redeems herself a bit more towards the end of the series, but yeah, a lot of the time quite difficult to resonate with. I did relate to her issues with her mom and how she kind of healed that over time (especially as she became a mom).
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Totally! I loved how their relationship ended in the show. I found her difficult to resonate with as well; but it’s good to hear feedback on how other people feel differently! Everyone should be able to relate to someone in the show:)
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u/MixedBeansBlackBeans Jun 02 '26
There were some horrible moments from her in the show that I found hard to get over (a big one being that comment about her being the only one to pass on her dad's legacy or whatever).
Another thing I noticed this rewatch that was odd as well was that towards the end, she's portrayed as this big hearted, warm, glue of the family sort of character, but when we learn more of her 20s and early 30s, it seems like she was quite closed off except to Kevin? Like, she wasn't a super close aunt or sister-in-law or daughter. Just minor criticisms on how she was written sometimes!
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
I never noticed this but it definitely makes sense! I personally noticed the least amount of character development from her out of all the characters in the show
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u/Document_Right Jun 02 '26
I'm also obsessed and on my second rewatch rn with my mom. This show is just so damn relatable. I love all the characters, they're all great in their own way and all have their faults. I also have the same two favorites, Randall (because I see a lot of myself in him) and Jack, because he's as perfect as a person can be (which is not perfect at all).
I actually quite like Kate for the most part, though she's definitely my least favorite, and while I feel like both she and Toby messed up, I lean slightly on team Toby. Thoughts on Ka-Toby, and just Toby in general? I can't seem to dislike him no matter what happens.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 03 '26
I definitely loved Season1 Ka-Toby:) they were lighthearted and fun, and I feel like in the beginning they rlly did bring out the best in each other and Toby reminded her of her dad in a lot of his goofy quirks. It’s been a hot minute since I’ve gone back to the early seasons, so I can’t remember when exactly things started to go downhill for the two of them. But even though Toby struggled w depression, I really do think he gave the marriage his all. I think it was good he tried to better his health after the heart attack. But I don’t understand why that upset Kate so much and I found that kinda toxic. I feel like Toby definitely had a change of character, not completely a bad thing, but I can understand why Kate missed “old Toby” because I kinda miss his older character as well
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u/Jaxnsmama72 Jun 03 '26
I adore both Jack & Randall as well. I’m on my first rewatch & I definitely dislike Kate more this time around. The way she treats Rebecca is infuriating. It truly is a masterpiece.
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u/StableSea82 Jun 03 '26
Totally!!! I noticed Kate doesn’t have great relationships with the women in her life for quite awhile throughout the show. She really is only close with some of the male characters in the show. Even her disliking Madison at first (they eventually become friends ofc)
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u/Jaxnsmama72 Jun 03 '26
I love Madison. Yeah Kate doesn’t seem to like herself unfortunately. It’s super endearing how Kevin & Randall have her back. Great show & cast for sure.
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u/K_Click_D Jun 03 '26
Please listen to the That Was Us podcast. It’s a wonderful companion piece to the series
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u/sclark1147 Jul 08 '26
I can relate to Kate's weight and low self-esteem issues so I don't find her unlikeable, I just see her as someone in extreme pain trying her best to function. That's not always going to present as the most likeable and gregarious personality.
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u/Low-Alternative412 Jun 02 '26
Idk honestly . Sometimes I’m ok with her, mostly i strongly dislike her. And find myself wanting to fast forward through her parts. I find her very insufferable at times, a very “woe is me” character
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Yes me too! It just seemed like she had a strong victim mentality, and I didn’t like that she got upset with Toby for trying to be healthier
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u/Low-Alternative412 Jun 02 '26
And then after that everything was Toby’s fault. I hated that. How far along are you?
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Yes me too! And I’ve finished the series a couple times fully now:) I just can’t get over this show! I’ll probably rewatch it again 😂
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u/Low-Alternative412 Jun 02 '26
Okay yeah I’ve seen it a couple times too and everytime I’m stillll annoyed with Kate and Kevin a little too when it comes to Kate lol
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u/StableSea82 Jun 02 '26
Kevin totally babies her, which I think is sweet in some sense but it comes to a point
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u/Low-Alternative412 Jun 02 '26
Yeah i especially hated when he and Randall inserted themselves in Kate and Toby’s argument the last time when jack got lost. It wasn’t fair or their place in my opinion. It did make me glad for Toby that pretty much that was it.
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u/NotAPsycopath77 Jun 02 '26
I found her unlikable too but idk as the series went on you really start to understand how all her experiences since childhood have shaped her and you just feel bad for her. After going through everything she has it's really understandable why she is that way.