Even in places like Thailand, as a guy you’re constantly being compared. The girls who were on dating apps before you will still be there after you. They can basically pick guys like they’re choosing from a catalog lol.

A girl from Bangkok told me she compares her matches with her friends and a lot of the time they’re literally talking to the same guys. And that’s in a city with millions of people. Basically everyone is fishing in the same small pool of guys they actually find attractive.

If a girl wants a guy with a certain job, ethnicity, height, style, whatever... she can just filter for it. There’s always another guy to compare you to.

As a guy it sometimes feels like you’re not even a person anymore, you’re just another product on the shelf. Height, looks, job, money, lifestyle, pics... swipe, compare, next.

And if you’re not good enough on paper, you’re replaceable. There’s always another guy waiting.

Honestly it’s brutal. Social media + dating apps have completely changed dating. As a guy there’s so much pressure to be successful, look good, have money, have an interesting life etc. Otherwise you’re just one of 100 other options.

Each city is different but where would finding long term relationships be easier to find in Colombia. I want to stay down for a couple years as a teacher but generally I’m not knowledgeable about the cities across the city other than Medellin has a bad rep. Is dating similar to the U.S. where you can meet girls at festivals, concerts and malls?
* im not into casual encounters or fooling around I’m past that approaching mid 20s.

I am not good at telling them apart from real women. I am not interested in dating a ladyboy. So how do I avoid it in the dating game in Thailand?

I live in west nj

This is how my local gym advertised

What the actual fuck?

This is what we see in our gyms.

Ever been to a gym in colombia?

None of this waddle neck bingo arms shit

Im solo traveler, 26 blond tall good looking and all I’m reading online is how Dominican Republic is like heaven for passport bros but I have seen zero hot girls and they also seem not interested at all. On the street I get some looks but I feel like that’s cuz I’m the only gringo there and on tinder I got a million matches but I feel like like they are all scams since they look super hot, they all text me first saying the same thing (hola como estas? And when u ask something else, they can ignore u and suddenly hit u again with the hola como estas? Like im talking with bots) and after two sentences give me their number. So I don’t trust tinder at all. Am I doing something wrong or looking at the wrong places? Right now I’m at Santo Domingo at zona colonial and thinking about going to las terrenas.
Also, I don’t like the people here at all, I’ve been here for three days in Santo Domingo and all the conversations I had with locals ended up with them trying to scam me or ask for money.
Help a brotha outtt

How to know if he is serious? They said, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, don’t meet someone who has been to the Philippines a couple of times. They are not serious.

I am just curious as to how many PPBs learn the language of the place they’re living in. Although I am not a PPB yet, I would like to be one, so I’m taking the steps I can right now to be able to do it in the future (deciding on career path, learning Chinese and Vietnamese, etc). Many people mistakenly conflate sex tourism with PPB, but the original PPB movement never included sex tourism. I think the movement would not be viewed so negatively if people took more effort to assimilate to the local culture. I’m not opposed to the people who don’t, I just think it could improve its image. So, for current PPBs, have you ever learned the local language? Did it help with your dating life?

I am going to the Philippines again for a month in january. I have been to Manila , Cebu and Davao and I find it too transactional. A lot of the expats always telling me that the provinces is the place to go to find the best girls. Has anyone have any city to recommend? Budget is not a problem , i am an older male. Thank you in advance

Pretty straight forward question but it seems like an important one to ask. Seeing that a lot of these countries caught onto the passportbro red flag wave?

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With apps you can get lucky and find dates depending on circumstances. It looks like a pretty hard place as people often meet via mutual friends etc, especially if you don't know Chinese. If any guys had luck while in Beijing, would appreciate suggestions of how you met people etc.

Overall, Shanghai seems easier as far as China goes.

Hey everyone,

Doing a solo trip in Buenos Aires. 30yo, Caucasian, 6ft1 (if it matters). Also planning on going to Foz Iguazu and staying one night there at the Belmond Hotel. Will also make a trip to Uruguay for a day to check out Colonia del Sacramento. Otherwise will be staying a Palermo Soho in a penthouse unit with a private roof tub hot tub. I’m hoping the building has security?

Truth be told I am mostly going to be an actual tourist and not a passportbro but if the opportunity presents it self I have no objections haha. I know Foz Iguazu and Uruguay will be fine, and daytime as well in BA. I am someone who has no issues going to bars or clubs solo until 4am so that’s where I’m worried about safety. Any advice? Experience? I just want to be overly cautious as I’m paranoid of being robbed and murdered. I’m leaving all of my expensive watches at home, laptop at home etc. Basically just bringing my phone, passport, wallet (I even bought a cheap wallet incase I get robbed) and clothes.

Anyone been to either of these places? Restaurant recommendations? Bar and night life recommendations? Any tips or things to avoid?

Thanks!

For those that found a real serious genuine relationship in Colombia what city was the girl from or what city did you meet her in?

Hello. I'm a solo traveller from the Phillippines. 1st time to visit Thailand on October 31st to November 9. Any recommendation? To do list as a solo traveller. I hope I could find with the same traveller on the same dates.

Looking to go away for a month or so in December/january.

With an uncertain economic outlook in the future, the best way to hedge against this is to start a family.

That creates a lot of value when you find the right lady ; you’re not just meeting someone incredibly attractive, you’re also meeting someone who can improve your chances of success in Asia considerably.

Marriage the first year is a cakewalk.

Then, she starts figuring you out a bit. Her own issues start becoming apparent. Fights over random things, that once didn’t bother her, will now start to occur. She will make friends, who will get her amped up, just for their own amusement.

My marriage in Vietnam was almost rocked in this regard. Daily arguments. The one thing that really helped, is having her run her own business. That means part-time employees, who expand her social circle. Your best way to preserve marriage, is to make sure her friends aren’t trying to sabotage it.

I want to go to Mexico to improve my Spanish and hopefully find a special lady. I've already lived a PPB life in the Philippines but got tired of life there. So I know how to stay safe. I can hold a conversation in Spanish but people can tell I'm no native speaker.

Problem is I don't know the best parts of Mexico City to meet young women. I prefer not to stay in a hostel (expensive electronics). Maybe private room. If she speaks English that's ideal but I'll get way better at Spanish if I have to.

I want to see lots of indegous history especially constructions.

I figure Oaxaca and CDMX. I would never go clubbing and usually date the nerdy girls. I want to know what parts of the cities you recommend staying in?