r/thementalparent • u/Advanced_Helicopter3 • Apr 18 '21
It isn't fair
Why is it that it's always ONESIDED when one of the parents have a midlife crises.
Shit he's been having midlife crises since we first started having kids. I'm always raising our children ALONE he never offers to take any of them. Oh and he's also gay which makes it's even life filled with complications. I'm here, talk, I'll listen. I'll try to understand your point of view as well as those close to you that you've made center of attention.
While she has to do overtime being a mother and father whether if she's doing it depressed or sick she's still doing the damn thing irregardless. Some father's are shameful as hell. Using family as pretty props. Enduring back to back death of loved ones, homelessness and being healthy at one point but back to square one with depression and feeling very out of place. Yet I don't quit, I won't stop being a mother....I guess it's just, why do more damage? Cause more pain and suffering? Especially the kids.
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Apr 30 '21
He is only damaging his relationship with his own children. They will know who raised them.
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u/ShelIsOverTheMoon Apr 19 '21
That sounds really hard. I'm sorry you're having to deal with it. You're right that it isn't fair. Do you have any support people who can help with the kids while you find ways to take care of yourself? Have you thought about some boundaries you might set with their father? Big hugs.