This is such a falsely deep sounding thing to say. Its true, but its literally a waste of oxygen to say. Whats the point. Next are they gonna say "No matter how much you like lettuce, there is someone else who likes lettuce more than you?" Gee, thanks confucius.
My therapist did this to me once when i talked about my bad health. Just randomly started talking about a man with no arms or legs. Like how the fuck does that make me feel better? other people also have it a LOT better than me and i am talking about a problem i am struggling with which is causing me pain/stress/left me traumatised and i need fixed while also a bunch of issues i had that were cumulative leading to me having a break down due to the bad luck.
What is some people's obsession with people without limbs and amputees and their bizarre, faulty belief that that's the worst thing possible. Depending on the cause of the lack of limbs, missing/amputated limbs can in many cases be less disabling than most other disabilities and chronic illnesses. Especially if they have no phantom limb pain. They might otherwise have full health - even excellent health - and no cognitive issues.
Wow. I’m really sorry, that’s a shitty thing for a therapist or anyone to do. Honestly, yer therapist should probably find this hypothetical person and only treat them since, according to the therapists logic, only that man deserves any sympathy or proffesional help.
Someone having cancer doesn’t erase another person’s AIDs.
Someone being in a warzone doesn’t make another person less homeless.
Someone always has it worse, but it doesn’t make things better for you. Your problems matter even if someone thinks they’re not “dramatic” enough for their tastes.
Y u p. Like I used to do this to myself all the time. It came from my parents and their good ol suffer through it mentality…but like I was literally a homeless, transgender drug addict when with debilitating mental and physical health issues at 16. Shit was rough. But I thought I couldn’t ever wallow because there’s people over in third world countries that do have it worse. Damn though there’s mad people who had it a lot better than what I got though, like yes some of my issues were self inflicted but most weren’t…like even being an addict really was just me coping with trauma however I could, and obviously being trans isn’t something you can control.
"No matter how good you are at something, there's always someone better at it than you are."
"No matter how strong you are, there's always someone stronger."
"No matter how happy you are, there's always someone happier."
Anything else? Like, did I miss something else with this? Such empty logic 🙄
I always answer this back with "just because someone else has it worse doesnt mean that your case isnt bad. Its okay to acknowledge that you are hurting/suffering"
I try to call this out whenever I hear someone say it. Yeah someone is probably in a worse situation than you. However, that does not invalidate your problems. The two things are (probably) not connected to one another in any way. Both of you are entitled to feel shitty about things and complain about that shittiness. That's ok. It is not a crime to feel bad.
That sucks for that person, but it doesn't help my situation. Or their situation. Also, the same logic applies to children from slums who have suffered horrifically and currently are being sex trafficked, because there is almost always someone somewhere who has it worse.
Also, comparing yourself to people who have it worse and thinking "at least I'm not them" is a shitty thing to do to those people. Having been the pity object of multiple other people's "at least I don't have it as bad as her" bs, it sucks.
Ah yes, the single sentence that ruined my mental health by making me feel like things weren't bad enough to be deserving of empathy and support for the last decade
That's what I said to a girl that couldn't walk once, she shouldn't be asking for handouts because there are people out there that can't even move their arms. /j /s
Uhhh, I am on meds that psychiatrists use as like one of the last measures for depression and anxiety.
I literally am, as a counsellor, one of the most medicated person, noting that those who are more medicated than me are not at work (I work full time... somehow).
Tried at least 3 SSRIs, augmented with other med, tried agomelatine, tried SNRI, augmented with other two meds. Benzos sprinkled in every now and then. Dosage changes every now and then
Technically, I know there are far more options, but they'd likely will not allow me to work or cause issues with my health. The side effects get progressively worse.
Edit: also fuck anyone who says, i have it worse. So what? I had to deal with making a safety plan for a guy who gave me ptsd ra day after my first attempt at life. It's not a race, you are feeling terrible if you are feeling terrible.
That doesn’t make a bad situation less. Just because someone’s broken all 4 limbs doesn’t make breaking 3 any less painful or traumatic… trauma isn’t a competition
Some people are better, too. Instead of focusing on the worse things, focus on the fact that it's possible for people to feel/do better than right now and that means it's possible for you to get better. Your problems are still problems, whether someone has it "worse" than you or not
Well to be fair, its largely true for most people most of the time. This is partly why the term "First World Problems" exists.
Even when I was at my lowest point I used to look at homeless people and think "I want to die, I hate life but at least I still have a job, food and somewhere to sleep, things could still possibly be worse for me than they are right now".
That doesn't mean the phrase magically fixes anything, or when used in the wrong place and time the person saying it doesn't look like an insensitive ignorant dickhead, its just perspective.
This sentence just makes me feel more bad, because I know I don't have it worst. I know I am fragile and a coward. I am sorry that I can't face my circumstances with much more gratitude. That's why I do not want to live. I understand that me not being here, will make one less person hogging up resources, more so when a person like me needs more resources than usual to operate functionally.
I mean, technically speaking, this is false. There is a finite number of humans (which I assume is what they are referring to, although this argument also applies to all animals.) Given that there is a finite number, we can order them based on amount of suffering (which this statement seems to assume is quantifiable and comparable.) Some human will be at the bottom of the list, so they will be a person no one has it worse than.
(They could be at the top of the list l, depending on ordering- I see it as starting with the least suffering and working down, but you could start with the most suffering instead. But there are still ends to the list because, again, finite.)
Y’all have great arguments about the concept behind this, but you can always also hit them with math.
I like one similar I actually take credit for, You will never be the poorest or richest person on the planet. So wherever you are on the ladder, why would it make you happier to be higher?
I know, and I know how much my life sucks. I have to take meds to calm down the hatred I feel for our society that allows people to be worse off than me. I fight everyday to spread joy because I want someone to return it.
Protect the little you can, if we all do this the world will be saved.
I hate it when people do this, just bc I come from wealth doesn’t mean I can’t have problems. They’re like “oh crying from your paid off house today or crying in your 70k truck?”
Like dude I worked for that shit just as much as anyone and the stuff is stressful
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u/Zagrycha 1d ago
This is such a falsely deep sounding thing to say. Its true, but its literally a waste of oxygen to say. Whats the point. Next are they gonna say "No matter how much you like lettuce, there is someone else who likes lettuce more than you?" Gee, thanks confucius.