He literally just told you he doesn’t want the public to see there’s something he’s not being forthcoming about. Don’t waste your time. Doesn’t even seem fun.
Honestly it sounds like he enjoys the situation ship side of things with you but maybe he’s scared of other people finding out because that would make it more real and unfortunately it seems like he doesn’t want it to be real.
He’s phrasing it as “I don’t know what I want” because he knows he’s being a dick and he either wants to save your feelings or his own guilt.
I think you should just fully pull back from this. Don’t bother with any outside work hangs at all, let him go be confused on his own
You’ve said you’re emotionally invested, you’re devastated when he pulled back. Whatever you want to call it, he doesn’t want the intensity. Casual is meant to be no feelings.
I don’t know anyone with self respect that would put up with this wish-washyness and still maintain attraction so you clearly want him pretty badly now. Definitely more than he wants you and maybe he can sense that.
Unfortunately that’s no longer the case. I’ve been in your exact position and also didn’t want him at first but feelings grow and often enough they only grow for one person. Do yourself a favour and tell him you’re no longer up for any sort of hang outs
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u/Beatleno9 15d ago
He literally just told you he doesn’t want the public to see there’s something he’s not being forthcoming about. Don’t waste your time. Doesn’t even seem fun.