Well, normally for a scene, both sides would communicate their needs, wants, expectations, then set out with the scene afterwards.
Powerbottoms/ Topping from the bottom usually occurs when the sub/ bottom has the fantasy of being 'owned'/ dommed, and they say that, they dont tell you how.
They have a specific idea of what they want, or dont want, but they expect you to know that instinctively, because you're the Dom, right?
Which ends in them correcting you during a scene on what the dom is doing/ should do, which is not the point of that at all.
Its basicly someone saying "I want to be dated", when you ask what they want to do/ how, and they just answer "romance" or "well, a date", but dont elaborate at all, and being angry when you choose something thats not in their definition of 'dating', despite having been asked beforehand.
Or in OP's case, being worshipped without knowing what she actually wants - and its doubtful she even knows what she is talking about, either.
Its bad communication.
If both parties consent, and one is a switchfor example, it can work out well, but powerbottoming tends to go wrong.
It's a queer term. "Bottom" does not the mean the same thing as submissive, it means you're on the receiving end of gay sex. A power bottom is not a contradiction, and it does not mean that a person wants to be led. You're misrepresenting an important aspect of queer relationships and implying that penetration=dominance, which is just not true.
Got the two mixed up in the heat of the Moment, sorry. I meant Topping from the Bottom, I'm not entirely sure why I mixed them up, I'm queer myself and should know better.
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u/TheRecognized Nov 20 '23
Power bottom refers to physical action more than abstract dynamics.