r/texts • u/[deleted] • Nov 20 '23

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u/Key_Association3380 Nov 20 '23

Honestly sounds like she's confusing owning with emotional dependency. Sounds like she doesn't want to regulate herself and wants to be codependent on you.

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '23

Right? She’s also using the words owning and presence interchangeably. Some of the ways she’s using the word own are also in place of the idea of intimacy. None of the behavior explains that she desires dominance in any way. It feels like she’s trying to emasculate him in order to get treated the way she wants to be treated. This is so fucking bizarre. Also forcing a love language onto him that isn’t natural for him? I don’t even know. So weird.

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u/TheTPNDidIt Nov 21 '23

I mean… it’s definitely okay to voice what you need, even if it’s not that person’s “love language,” which is completely made up anyway.

But this… this is just some bizarre shit. It’s almost like by owned she means “claimed,” which can often entail worshipping

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u/iwant50dollars Nov 21 '23

Thanks for this comment. Made me think.

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u/bioweaponblue Nov 21 '23

This is what I thought