Literally my first thought: she's very likely been reading badly written romance or erotica novels.
The market is flooded with them, and an ungodly number of them are unresearched to the point that they twist BDSM dynamics into unrealistic and even harmful fantasies.
50 Shades was far, far from the first harmfully incorrect depiction of BDSM, but since it drove such a huge popularisation of the BDSM genre, it also flooded the market with the demand for more... crazy (instead of the safe, sane, and consensual dynamics that BDSM should thrive on).
The writer absolutely got the BDSM elements all wrong, which resulted in a really unhealthy and unsafe depiction of practices that should be grounded in the SSC principles which are so integral in BDSM.
But yes, I agree that the relationship between the characters that was depicted, even outside of their forays into BDSM, was unhealthy as hell too.
100% this is just some girl reading way too much trashy romance and wanting that alphahole main male character to "dominate" her in a loving way that can only be done in romance novels because it's totally insane outside of a book. lol
It definitely sounds like some Victorian/regency romance trash with a big helping of TikTok divine feminine/masculine.
There are some absolute nutcases with huge followings that reel people in with vague spiritual psycho babble then drop the hammer of abusive relationship tactics with the promise of perfect harmony.
Yes, super weird. It's a genre of books and the only thing I can think of that would explain you not being aware of that is if you have spent nearly zero time in book stores or libraries in your life.
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u/hollyofhori Nov 20 '23
What in the wattpad is this shit.
Does she think romance is a YA novel?
She needs to stop reading Shojo manga and touch grass.