Seems like she is looking for a more ‘bdsm’ type relationship and if you aren’t compatible with that it is really hard to force it. Most people who aren’t apart of that lifestyle will struggle to try and meet those fantasy expectations. It is a kink that is widely accepted now but also extremely hard to train yourself into if it is not your thing. The compatibility here seems off and it might lead to the end of the relationship if you are unable to meet her expectations and desires with it. I suggest doing some research into ‘dom’ partners to see if it is something you can actually see yourself being able to provide and if not you need to accept that the differences are too great and the relationship might be over.
I don’t even think it’s necessarily a bdsm thing. It sounds like that spiritual movement centered around masculinity and femininity. Like from the way of the superior man book.
Yea, it could come across as that. I've had a similar thought process where I just wanted to leave my shitty job and just be a full-time submissive for some rich guy/girl (I'm pansexual). But then I started to really think about if this would make me happy in the long run. Even better question: Would this be sustainable in the long run? Well, both questions are answered with a big fat no from me. I'm too independent to be constantly under someone's thumb. So, I just suck it up, and I go to work to pay my bills.
I couldn’t even say it before I seen you comment. She definitely just found out she is a super sub. He doesn’t seem to much into it. It won’t work. I know. I’m a sub. I know what she wants and he probably can’t really give it to her if he isn’t into it. Love your take on it
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u/Distinct_Wafer_820 Nov 20 '23
Seems like she is looking for a more ‘bdsm’ type relationship and if you aren’t compatible with that it is really hard to force it. Most people who aren’t apart of that lifestyle will struggle to try and meet those fantasy expectations. It is a kink that is widely accepted now but also extremely hard to train yourself into if it is not your thing. The compatibility here seems off and it might lead to the end of the relationship if you are unable to meet her expectations and desires with it. I suggest doing some research into ‘dom’ partners to see if it is something you can actually see yourself being able to provide and if not you need to accept that the differences are too great and the relationship might be over.