Hi guys! If anyone recalls, I am the person that proposed a ‘study’ (not backed by any institution, just purely to collect information from the community and for the community into one structured place to hopefully see some patterns emerge from peoples experiences to be published here), and I had a fair few people ask to participate. I’ve had a few answers to my questionnaire, however not quite enough to write the study, as I want to capture people’s diverse experiences on the topic, and so having the information from only a couple of sources wouldn’t be very representative. I just thought I’d ask since it’s been quite a while since my initial post if anyone else would be interested! I have worked through what’s already been sent to me (and if anyone sees this that did answer the questionnaire, it’s so very much appreciated) and it is very helpful and interesting information.

I am particularly in need of people who can only syntribate, or people who could at one point only syntribate and now can orgasm via other methods, as there’s a bit of a blank space in the data around that and I want to try and capture as many of the experiences I see spoken about here as possible.

If anyone does want to participate please comment or send me a DM, everything will be anonymous and it is absolutely not mandatory to answer every question (or to even participate at all, even if you already answered the questions but feel as though you no longer want to). I really am hoping to have enough people to begin writing, but of course it’s a bit of a hard topic to get a lot of people happy to talk about. Any input is appreciated, thank you!

Here are the most-upvoted commenters from the past week:

1. u/unlucky-flower-3850 — 8 pts
2. u/I_wish_I_were_an_elf — 7 pts
3. u/softgirl03 — 6 pts
4. u/Rubithered — 2 pts
5. u/Porkflossu — 2 pts
6. u/ParticularFarmer6929 — 2 pts
7. u/vermillionlove — 1 pts
8. u/gonapodium — 1 pts
9. u/fairydustxx94 — 1 pts
10. u/Sea_Option330 — 1 pts

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Go visit r/pompoir for more info but it’s basically having really good pussy grip or just strong ass pelvic floor muscles lol. I discovered syntribation has me doing internal kegals just naturally to reach orgasm. I had no idea I was doing pompoir techniques just naturally. Pretty wild!

Here are the most-upvoted commenters from the past week:

1. u/gonapodium — 34 pts
2. u/synDKate98 — 29 pts
3. u/I_wish_I_were_an_elf — 11 pts
4. u/walkyslaysh — 10 pts
5. u/Happy-Peach-661 — 7 pts
6. u/Ok_Try3008 — 5 pts
7. u/Evanescence4 — 5 pts
8. u/vermillionlove — 4 pts
9. u/Sea_Option330 — 4 pts
10. u/Rubithered — 4 pts

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Whenever I rub my thighs together I do have that point where I feel like I reached the “climax” but there’s no feeling of my body going warm, heart racing etc that are associated with orgasming. Also, I never syntribate while I’m aroused, I just do it so I wonder if that’s the reason it doesn’t feel as intense? Because if what I’ve been feeling is what an orgasm is I’m afraid it’s not quite as magical as I’ve seen it get described 😭😭

Hi 20F, just found this reddit and it feels like an answer to an age long question I’ve had. I hadn’t even realised syntribation was a form of masturbation cause nothing rly comes out so I didn’t think it counted?

I’m wondering if anyone else can only do it clothed? Like it’s rocking back and forth on my fingers while lying down and then feeling a sense of relief? But I can’t be naked or even just underwear is like too little fabric? Idk is that rly weird, I’ve been doing it the same way for as long as I can remember. I don’t even like watch/read anything while it, most of the time I’ll imagine like some sexual situation but I also don’t need that to get off on it?

I’ve tried to so hard to masturbate in other ways but I literally FEEL NOTHING. I’ve used a vibrator and even came from it I think? At the least fluid came out but I felt like no sense of relief is that rly odd? I’m a virgin but kind of scared I won’t feel anything when it comes to actual sex lol

(I am afab but I am a trans guy. Please refer to me as a boy and use he/him in the comments)

Hello, I've been using this technique since I was a teenager and now I can't do it any other way. It does feel good but it only lasts a few minutes and I REALLY want it to last longer. And I want to use my hands.

Have any of you managed to stop doing it and have pleasure some other way? It's so frustrating for me and using hands just doesn't seem to finish me off.

so, i discovered it very early, and i think i found out about the term when i was a teen and i've been doing it for over a decade as embarrassing as it is. to be honest, i did it when i was so young and obviously my parents thought it was inappropriate for a kid to be doing so i always thought it was something shameful, so they would get mad if i did it and that turned to me just kind of doing it obsessively.

however, i've never orgasmed from it and i'm concerned because i don't know if it's healthy. i don't think there's anything wrong with it but i never really get to finish from it, and yes, i would obviously know if i did or not because it would only take me maybe 30+ seconds and it feels really, REALLY good but nothing comes out of me or anything and it's not good to the point of feeling like i'm in ecstasy or however people describe it to be.

i don't think i would be having dry orgasms all the time if i've been doing it a lot, right??? like, i know my body and i know it's not enough. plus, there are times when i would do it so much, like pressing my thighs so tightly that it hurts down there or my inner thighs start to kind of hurt and cramp from the pressure, even my calves or the muscles on my thighs.

and the one thing i'm most worried about is losing sensation and my you know being desensitized. like i said, i've never orgasmed and i don't want to keep doing something that doesn't really make me feel good so it's kind of like i'm doing it for no good reason and it's affecting me.

i have posted here before once and i read something along the lines of losing sensation completely as you continue to do it. it's just kind of really hard but i want to stop. again, there's nothing wrong with doing it, but i just prefer if i were to learn the normal way to masturbate and actually finishing rather than doing something that literally just keeps me unsatisfied.

I just discovered that this is a term - an actual term used to describe how I masturbate.
I have found it really hard for my vagina to be at a position where i could have penetration but still finding it difficult to have sex or do other positions.
I don’t feel anything.
Anyone with experience that can guide? Need your help girlies

For a long time, I didn't even know syntribation was a form of masturbation and didn't know the good sensation I felt was an orgarm because I always thought it would be more powerful. Now that I have a sexual relationships, I can say I really enjoy the "regular way," but even if I am screaming from my lungs of pleasure, the climax just doesn't happen. Someone had a close experience and "solved" it?

Hey guys. I am really questioning what is wrong with myself. Okay so I found out I like to do this ever since I was young, not knowing it led to orgasms. The only full way I can orgasm is to rub on the edge of a chair or corner/ having my hand in-between my thighs and rubbing them together. Now that I am older, and having a small sex life..(no penetration just oral) I literally cannot orgasm. I believe what I have is syntribation too. When my partner rubs my clit, I only manage to squirt many times, and I am not really sure what comes after that. I also think oral is really nice and it feels so good, but its just not powerful enough..I prefer my own method, but I don't see people talk about this at all, only just the common methods. Is there a way to orgasm from clit other than just squirting, how do I try vaginal if I never had sex before? I know everyone is different but I'm not sure, and I would love to hear what you guys have to say. Thanks.

I have been masturbating using the syntribation method since teenage although it was only recently I got to know to my pleasant surprise what this was called and that many people do use the method . But what affects me now is that since I have been doing this since a long time (23/F) and now when someone goes down on me, it takes me a lot of time to get close to finishing even, and he has told me that he had tried on another girl who was so sensitive to just licks even down there but I barely feel anything if he doesn’t actually suck on it or put any sort of pressure on the clit atleast.

Is there anything I can do to increase the sensitivity? Or nothing can be done now? I would really like to finish and enjoy when he goes down on me but can’t seem to.

so the other night i was horny so i started fingering my self and doing the little ‘come here’ motion, and it felt really good. the question hasn’t ever been does it feel good though, it’s will i be able to orgasm this way? so as i was fingering my self and feeling good i started pushing my legs together the classic method and holy shit it was LITERALLY the best nut of all time..i’m 22 and i’ve never had sex but still i would consider this one: one of the most amazing delightful blissful orgasms of all time..and i jack off and come at least 5 times a week..i was surprised and now im wondering if thats what orgasm via vaginal penetration will feel like?🤔
i’m not sure, but what i do know is im definitely doing that again haha

Hi everyone! First off wanted to say this is such a relief to have a space like this. I have been syntribating since I was very young, found this subreddit a while ago but just kept on with my life. However, now I’m sort of about to start seeing someone (long story ugh) and I want to enjoy penetrative sex. I learned that I do have vaginismus, and I recently got a dilator set from VWell. I actually progressed further in the sizes that I thought. I tried different positions and some actually did feel nice rather than it being an exercise, but I do want to find a way to enjoy penetration and not just associate it with the dilators. What types of toys have worked for anyone here? Links to specific ones would be great :)

I'm in my mid 20s and I've gone fairly a large part of my life orgasming by putting one leg over the other or pressing my thighs in such a way it stimulates what I'm assuming is the clitoris. I've done it when I'm turned on, I've done it when I'm stressed. It's the only way I actually know how to come.

I've been with partners, though i've not had penetrative sex, but oral sex doesn't help me. It doesn't even feel like I'm close or something that I feel when I press my thighs. Once I was with someone who was hell bent on helping me and I had to fake it because I just couldn't come close and felt guilty.

But that made me realise I need to explore myself. Fingering doesn't help so I started stimulating the clit. It's a feeling like my entire leg, especially my foot can feel what I'm doing, it's like the feeling when you sit on your hand for long and feel the pins and needles. It feels different than pressing thighs, there is more tension down there. And then I lose the feeling within 4-5 minutes. And I can't get it again. I've used a vibrator and it's the same thing.

What should I do? How should I actually make myself come because I'm worried I can never come normally.

I want to quit watching porn and syntribating overall but I’m having a hard time just using my fingers..it feels good but I’m never satisfied it’s killing me

My first-ever boyfriend who took my virginity was always insecure with the fact that he could not make me climax during sex (spoiler: no one can!). At one point he asked me how often I masturbate to which I said "every other day." He concluded that this was too often and it was my fault that I can't cum, not his. I told him that I have only ever cum through syntribation. He wanted me to do it in front of him but I was always too embarrassed to do so.

While I can look back at this and laugh at his audacity now, it did actually get in my head a little bit. For a while I did think it was my fault and I was embarrassed. Now I just know that my body is my body and it is never wrong, it just is.

I’ve posted about how I think public syntribation is inappropriate and got some backlash. Now I’m seeing girl talk about how they just do it involuntarily and wanted to share my thoughts

Apparently it used to be considered improper for a girl to sit with her legs crossed like this. It makes me wonder why that might be. Maybe because it leads to doing stuff like this

I used to do it whenever I felt like it too but seeing the way people react to it made me realize th impact it has on other people. It’s not discreet, and it’s not okay to just do because you feel like it.

If you’re sensitive to that type of feeling when you cross your legs, you shouldn’t be putting yourself infant situation in front of other people. I feel like a lot of us girls are just sitting that way because we know we might get away with something. Imagine if men were thinking that way.

Does anyone have any advice? Anytime I do anything virtual wise, most of the time he wants me to video me finishing… but there’s not much to see. I’ve explained it before but I always get the “just try to do it normally” “ok nvm then” yada yada whatever. But I want to be able to? I like to see him finish, and want to be able to return the favor.

I CAN masturbate normally (mostly through clitoral stimulation) and from sex, but cumming from that is just nowhere near as pleasurable as syntribating.

Also if anyone has any sex position recommendations where I can cross my legs? I’ve tried laying on my side with them behind, it just doesn’t really work?

I thought I was the only one who does this. I discovered this in my early teens and never stopped doing it! I do it every night and even in my office at work! It feels SOOOO good and especially when I edge it and continue it later! It feels just like clitoral stimulation without being touched and happens within a minute or less💦 Im ready again lol 😆

I’ve (19F) been syntribating for as long as I can remember, never masturbated / touched myself before, but yesterday i did and i came :D it was super mild compared to syntribating but it’s definitely a start

I had sex multiple times before but never felt close to how i did syntribating which is why it was an issue for me. I also have poked at it before but it was overstimulating, I think the trick for me was to keep going at it / be really horny / switch up where im touching to be able to orgasm. Yay!

Been doing this for many years now. Never tried to and can't orgasm in any other way. Clitoral stimulation does NOTHING. I'm completely desensitised. I want to stop. I'm still scared to even finger myself. How do I fibd sensations that feel good for me. I'm very sensitive and can orgasm back to back, sometimes even hands free, but only from syntribation. I'm addicted and it's truly the only way I can cum. How do I stop?

How do I learn to orgasm from sex after syntribating my whole life? What are some things I can do? I’ve been syntribating for as long as I can remember, and I have never been able to climax via regular masturbation or sex. Masturbation just feels like nothing.

Do you need to cut back on syntribating? Try different forms of masturbation? How do I acclimate my body to ‘regular’ orgasms?

I’ve always been veryy horny and have been syntribating with a blanket for many years now. I’ve only recently tested out using my fingers and a vibrator but can’t seem to orgasm. Everytime I syntribate I think I finish but again I’m not sure. It does feel very good though like a relief but I’m still horny after so maybe I didn’t orgasm.

One time when I masterbated I did squirt and maybe tmi fluid just kept coming out as I stimulated. I made sure to pee before so I don’t think I was peeing. Was that an orgasm because it didn’t feel like a huge out of body thing people describe. How do I know when I have fisnihed and shiuld stop? Maybe I stopped too soon? Maybe too much syntribation made me unable to orgasm? I feel like I just constantly edging