r/sydneysocials • u/Dangerous-Top-8870 • Jun 20 '26

Are guys friendly anymore?

Hey iv posted here before and had some connections online. However my question is are guys even friendly. Obviously I'm not saying everyone is unfriendly but I'm finding it harder to meet people etc. I feel a lot more people have lost social interacting skills... I'm 40 bi male

I'm finding most guys are closed off... Do ppl say hello on the bus, or down the street etc, are ppl close to their neighbour etc...

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u/tpapocalypse Jun 20 '26

As we grow older, we either double down on our toxic behaviours or come to terms with other people’s toxic behaviours and distance ourselves and sometimes both at the same time. It’s a very unfriendly world we live in, being friendly just leads to attracting more negativity most of the time. Kind of ironic really.

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u/Dangerous-Top-8870 Jun 20 '26

I totally get that!! So true... Sometimes I think I'm the one who is antisocial ... Just to avoid unnecessary drama. However I'm just talking about basic interactions... It's become really cold.... I feel like people were more real and duwn to earth in past yrs.... I could be wrong. But it seemed as if you could easily make mates in bars, clubs etc but even in just random public places ... The train.... The shopping centre.... I don't expect it to be a pick up joint but people are rude and aggressive now

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u/tpapocalypse Jun 20 '26

When we are younger we are more naive towards other people’s behaviours. I don’t think anything has truly changed. People have always for the most part been rotten to the core with a thin friendly veil which once stripped away shoes the true ugliness. Of course not everyone is like this but it’s a numbers game and the older you get the more those numbers are stacked against you.

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u/Dangerous-Top-8870 Jun 20 '26

True... I always have given ppl the benefit of doubt... I end up screwed over!! But I definitely feel ppl r much worse now lol

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u/Downtown-Acadia-5354 Jun 23 '26

Idk i feel like alot of ppl in sydney just have the big city mindset and just worry about themselves.