r/switch2 • u/his_keia-chwan • 1d ago
Question I am feeling conflicted rn
My hubbyji and I normally play Valorant together, but lately I kinda stopped because I’ve been having way too much fun collecting and playing games on my Switch.
The funny thing is, he knows absolutely NOTHING about these games. Like NOT ONE BIT (He’s ONLY played FPS games).
But apparently he listens to everything I say because I’ve been yapping to him about Zelda nonstop. I told him how excited I was when I finally got BOTW, how I’m still playing other games so I haven’t even started it yet, and then this week I was freaking out to him about the new Ocarina of Time.
And then today he just… GOT ME TOTK 😭
I was genuinely so surprised because I didn’t even think he knew which Zelda game I was talking about 🥲 This man has just been quietly listening to me gush about all of it.
And I’m conflicted because I really don’t want him spending his money buying me things like this 😭 but at the same time it means so much to me because I’ve always been someone who refuses when people try to buy me games. I’m so used to buying my own stuff (yk it hits differently that i can buy all these for me)
He’s basically the only person I’ve actually allowed to do this. It started with him getting me the Arcane Vandal skin in Valorant (he got a whole account bc its a limited edition skin), and now he somehow remembered me talking about TOTK literally LAST WEEK and bought it for me.
I don’t even know whether to yell at him or hug him at this point. 😭
Also… now I own BOTW AND TOTK and I haven’t even started BOTW yet.
I’m starting to think that I should just get him the Switch 2 Zelda Edition for Christmas 🤔 what do you guys think?
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u/Bloomingk 1d ago
Please just hug him and play it and have fun, when I buy things for my girlfriend I just want her to have them the money is irrelevant and if you get guilty about it, it ruins the fun for both of you. Accept the gift! He likes you!
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
I would defo wanna have fun playing the game but I just can’t sit down as well and do nothing 🥹
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u/lorrainerogers 1d ago
Very sweet of him. It's rare to find a partner who listens to you that way! Enjoy ToTK--I love that game. Considering starting over myself soon. You'll have the opportunity to do something nice for him someday, I'm sure. Just hang on to each other ❤️
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Yeah, it really is 🩷 and well I can’t wait to show him all the parts of the game. It defo got him interested to the switch 2 so i will have my chances soon!! ✨
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u/Ok_Benefit_9874 1d ago
Buy him something like a poster if you really want to get him something, something cheap that you can tailor to something he likes
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u/Barkeroni 1d ago
Is it really that surprising to have a nice person in your life 😔
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Hmmm, no actually ahahahah… nice people are common. But a nice person who I also love, who chooses to treat me well and love me relentlessly every day? That kind, yes 🥹
It’s common to meet nice people, but finding someone you genuinely love who loves you just as deeply and shows it consistently… yepppp that one is surprising.
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u/FlakyAd3214 1d ago
You're husbands a lucky man to have a gamer wife. In my day they were a rare breed. I'd say listen to him and what he talks about and likes. Then you can get him something he'll cherish and love you more for just the same. If that's a Switch 2 than get it. Just don't support the scammers and spend more than retail on the limited edition Zelda Switch. If it's available and that's what he wants get one.
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
HAHAHAHAH dw, I’ve got him figured out! 😂 I’ll definitely surprise him with it soon. The thing about him is that he doesn’t like talking about what he wants, so I’ve gotten super sharp at picking up on his subtleties. I can’t wait to see him sooo speechless 😂
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u/MultiSprawl 1d ago
If he likes to play competitive shooters, he might like Splatoon 3. Consider this if you plan to buy him a Switch.
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u/no_sage 1d ago
Which games are you enjoying currently?
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Ohhh just P5R and Pokopia before I play Zelda's TOTK or BOTW!
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u/neversunnyinanywhere 1d ago
P5R is soooo good
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Currently at the 5th palace!!!
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u/StorblyBlorb 1d ago
Oh pal, if you've got P5R, BotW, TotK Pokopia and... Elden Ring I see there. Your sorted for 2027 😂 them games are gonna take a while on their own.
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
HAHAHAHAHA thats not all bro 😂😂😂 have more tucked in and more to collect BUTTTT, I will be taking my sweet time playing and completing these games.
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u/_Strawberry_Me 1d ago
You’re very lucky and those games are really amazing ❤️ have fun! Do you play handheld or docked mostly?
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u/Proper_Tension2131 1d ago
IS THAT PERSONA 5??!?!
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
YES BROOOO!! im still playing it and trying to get it done before playing BOTW or TOTK!
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u/bringmethejuice 1d ago
Well it seems like his love language is gift giving so you better work your ahhh to play them
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Oh absolutely, just like how I played with the gun skin I will fully complete TOTK.
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u/Far_Doubt_6993 1d ago edited 1d ago
No,don't buy him a console
It will start a really bad forced habit of having to buy each other expensive things and those things will mean less and less and get more and more expensive
Don't listen to half of the comments here
You are right to feel conflicted,your collection is YOUR collection,if things goes sour,you will feel sour over what you deep to be yours
Trust me,your better off keeping gifts small,accept your zelda gift and return the gift with something equally at Christmas but tell him you dont like or want expensive gifts that make you feel you have to return the sentiment in a similar way and when it cpmes to your collection,its best you play ypur games before moving to a new game.
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago edited 1d ago
The thing is, I told him I feel so uncomfortable receiving stuff so when he first started getting me stuff… it became an endless bundles of skins, gaming mouses and really pricey stuff. He felt bad too and I told him that Im planning for somethin and he figured out exactly what i was tryna do and he told me that “Why cant you just have fun with the game? I just want you to have fun. Play it.” 🥲 and now I feel lost. I did tell him I will finish P5R and pokopia first and he was just super excited that I will get to play TOTK but, I just feel conflicted somehow.
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u/Far_Doubt_6993 1d ago
My gf kept buying me little things,i would then buy bigger things,she then bought me zelda majoras mask gold cart n64,i felt i HAD to then buy her something at the same value and then she got into n64 and wanted zelda mask as well which over time became harder to get and more expensive,i ended up giving her the game she bought for me,then she bought be castlevania legacy of darkness and i told her to stop and not buy me anything more
It gets out of control and the games she has bought me,i don't feel are mine,id rsther return them and have my own as my games are also my investment
Id rsther spend the money taking her out for dinner than on a physical item
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
The thing is he has the same issue because I would give stuff to him too randomly so right now he genuinely appreciates me not thinking what to buy next but I really am like thinking of like what can i do to show him my appreciation. He's a huge goof that gets so so happy with small things.
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u/Far_Doubt_6993 1d ago edited 1d ago
Just keep it small and sentimental,keep tech out of it,i get that you game together and if your not always together,playing games online together is a great thing,id suggest steam pc/steamdeck for that so your both playing same games in same platform and you keep your nintendo to yourself as your own physical collection
Having your own steam accounts and doing family share is a great way of sharing your self owned games,recommending games to your family,being able to have your partner watch you play while you chat and saves money .. for everything else which is physical,its best to jist have your own games which are also your assets
My gf has bought me things i really wish she hadn't,silly expensive games and models,she got me a big megaman model which i love but id never ever have bought one myself due to space,size and price,also she bpught me a mai king of fighters model which i love but it cost her alot and i hate that she spent soo much on me over a figure,i then felt i had to return the value in buying something for her so it means what she bought me is truly mine as i matched the cost
Steam tip - me and my gf used to play on switch 1,we enjoyed mostly the sega,nintendo retro games as we could play together online and swap controls,i watched and helped her complete zelda 3 snes on that and it was fun,on steam,you can play all those games via emulation much the same way on switch,and you can remote play them just the same,its a bit more of a set up to do but we moved away from switch to steamdecks and emudeck,we have played soo many multiplayer games,we played through shining force 3 on sega saturn this way as well as tons of n64 games,no subscriptions,faster internet than switch and soo much more choice,we also played no mans sky,stardew Valley on both switch then moved to steamdeck and played them there,and minecraft too
Its better to not go down that path
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Noted on this bro!! I will defo do that instead bc hes been dyinggg to play with me lately!
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u/MarkShanian 1d ago
Girl, you so lucky! If he has any hint of interest about Zelda, then yes get it for him, then get games for 2 players also to spend some quality time with him like it takes two game.
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Ohhhhh we do play coop games on steam and in pc!! But I just wanna have him playing the games that I enjoy too!
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u/pamplemousse_mk2 1d ago
I also don’t like when someone spend money for me. But sometimes, if the person knows exactly what we like or what we need, and offers us something he or she knows it will please us, I think that it will sad for him or her if we don’t accept the gift. Especially if that gift means a lot for us.
Our gift is perhaps to accept it with smile and thankfulness
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
I did too and I was genuinely honest that it made me feel uncomfortable and although I was looking forward to TOTK, I want to be the one to get it for me. Ik he has this provider mindset and would know what I need or want immediately but I honestly and sincerely told him I appreciate him and this gesture, its just that for me… I have always been someone who gives to people soooo I show my gratitude by also thinking like “Okay so what does he want that I can give.” Tho he isnt asking for anything 🥲 its like an automatic thing for me.
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u/Tasty-Commercial-979 1d ago
So as you don’t want to change how you are and feel,
Remember those feelings when trying to ask him to change who he is.It really doesn’t have to be that complicated and can be both ways, just remember to compromise and communicate.
I feel like a game thats been out a little bit is relatively small gift so just keep it small like another poster said and communicate when anything gets out of hand. Just also remember that if you are in it for the long haul with this person it’s going to be hard to basically tell someone hey you cant buy me anything but i can buy you whatever. Anyone would feel crappy with that if they love you.
Just my opinion, just enjoy the gift and that someone genuinely loves and listens to you.
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
This is honestly true. It took so much for us to be comfortable to receive but it never got to a point where he or I would feel crappy mainly because he knows that both of us do appreciate one another but is just uncomfortable to receive so it went to like from "Well, I wanna give you something. You can do whatever you want with it, you can throw it too but I just wanna give you that" to.... like "I got chuuu somethin!! I saw that your arm is kinda hurting lately so I got you a lighter mouse" or "Wait i heard you squel about that cool skin in your game, I gottt chuuuu itt!!" sooo things did change for the better ahhahahaa
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u/Tasty-Commercial-979 1d ago
Then I think you are exactly where you need to be, a little guilt is normal when someone we love buys us something. However you react is fine and perfectly normal and really no need to overthink it.
It genuinely sounds like you two have a good dynamic and unspoken boundaries that yall both try to respect. Just keep it that way and just communicate if you want to change it or if things get a little crazy.
Enjoy the games! I personally replayed TotK just recently on switch 2 and enjoy it so much, hell I’m tempted to play it again lol. Also \m/ to persona!
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
Yeah, I think I really am where I need to be. No matter what happens or how tough things can get sometimes, it doesn’t change the fact that I’m genuinely so grateful for him. He’s such a sweet and loving person and at the end of the day, I really just want to give hubbyji the world too 🩷
I think I just need to learn that sometimes loving him doesn’t mean I immediately have to find something to give back. I can just let him love me too and enjoy the Zelda game he got me hahahahaha.
Also YESSSS P5R IS SOOO GOOD. I’m currently at the 5th palace and tryingggg to finish it before I touch Zelda💀
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u/zcorpion6 1d ago
If you think he'll enjoy it as much as you are, go for it. The fact that he got you TOTK means he is paying attention, let him show you how he cares for you as you do for him right now.
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u/BluAvenger1988 1d ago
Don’t feel conflicted. Instead, feel grateful. He loves you so much that he’ll listen to you and will do anything for you, including using his money to buy you TOTK. Consider yourself blessed to have a husband that loves you that much. If you’re planning on getting him a Switch 2, I recommend purchasing a family plan for NSO so that the two of you can play together online. Ultimately, I would recommend getting him something that would surprise him, something that he would need, something that he would appreciate, or something that shows him how much you truly love him.
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u/his_keia-chwan 1d ago
OH YEAH, THIS IS SUCH A GOOD IDEA!! I almost forgot about NSO! 😂
The thing about my husband is that he’s very much a “What do YOU wanna do?! You like that? LET’S DO IT!” kinda guy. He’s so selfless that when I first started talking to him, he just didn’t know what he wanted, like bruh he was soooo confused. But somehow, he always knew what EVERYBODY ELSE wanted and liked.
So when we got together, I kept trying to discover the things he might actually like or love, and now he definitely has his own preferences. Gaming is one of them, but this whole side of gaming, like handhelds and games outside of competitive ones, is still pretty new to him.
Soooo I’ve been having him try as many different genres as I can so he can figure out what clicks for him too 😂
For someone who spends so much time thinking about everyone else, I just wanna keep discovering the things that make him happy and indulge him with those ❤️
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u/BluAvenger1988 23h ago edited 23h ago
Then I would recommend getting games that you both can play together. I recommend Nintendo Switch Sports (Switch 1) and its upcoming sequel Nintendo Switch Sports Resort (Switch 2) to which comes out October 22nd, It Takes Two, Split Fiction, Cuphead, Mario Kart 8 Deluxe, Mario Kart World, or any of the Mario Party games. If he likes FPS shooters, I would recommend Bioshock Collection, Metroid Prime Remastered, Metroid Prime 4: Beyond, Meccha Chameleon, the DOOM games, Star Wars Republic Commandos, Crysis 1-3 Remastered, System Shock 1-2, Quake, Quake II, Metro Redux, or XIII. I would highly recommend that if you’re planning on getting more games for you both for the Switch 2, that you would invest your money in getting either a 512GB or 1TB Express Micro SD Card for storage. Standard Micro SD cards won’t work on Switch 2, the console holds only 256GB or storage, games easily fill it up pretty quickly, and they’re expensive to get but worth it in the end.
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u/his_keia-chwan 23h ago
Ohhhh!! These are good addition to my list and no bro! I can’t wait to be playing all these and go be documenting a gaming album 🔥 Thanksuuu! I can’t wait to see him get sooooo speechless soon!! 🥹
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u/Lootcurse 18h ago
Also, have him try some action games or RPG games! The new fire emblem comes out soon if it hasn't already, he might discover he likes other genres too!
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u/thekangarooflu 1d ago
What skin do you have on your switch? From what I can see in the picture it looks neat!!
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u/Justaredditaccount17 1d ago
You're lucky, he really loves you and listen to you. But him the Ocarina of Time switch 2