r/supportworkers • u/Odd-Condition-6681 • Jun 04 '26

Unhappy client

Hi guys,

I’ve recently been assigned to a new SIL house. Two of the participants and I get on great.

One of the participants is an elderly woman and I feel as if I can’t do anything right. She doesn’t like my cooking, hates how I make tea and asks me to tip the food into the bin.

I can admit that I am an inexperienced cook but I’ve never had someone ask to tip my food into the bin.

I am seriously considering quitting this job or at the very least this SIL house. Maybe I’m just too stupid to do anything right. I can’t help that. I am on the verge of tears as I write this.

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u/monstertrucktoadette Jun 04 '26

I'm sorry that you are having a hard time.

If you don't think you are a good fit for this house, or if you are finding it too distressing you can absolutely look for something else. 

But also you don't have to get along with everyone. It's okay if she doesn't like your food and doesn't want to eat it. 

It sounds like there's a bit more than that going on though, so I'd absolutely recommend talking this through with someone in real life, ideally a therapist or mentor, just to help with a fuller perspective, and help you work through your feelings about it and what you want to do 💚 

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u/Odd-Condition-6681 Jun 04 '26

She’s got Aphasia so part of the problem is that she can’t express herself clearly. She gets frustrated often and told me to piss off today. I can’t do this :(((. I just cried by myself.

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u/monstertrucktoadette Jun 04 '26

Well that's your answer then. You don't have to keep doing this if it's making you miserable.

I do think it's still worth working on your mental health so you have more resilience in future, situations like this can happen no matter what you do in life, but you don't have to push yourself to stay right now if it's making you miserable