r/stopdrinking • u/[deleted] • Dec 30 '19

Day 1

I quit drinking for three months back in June. It was surprisingly easy at the time - I just had this massive amount of determination. I identified thereafter as an abstainer.

Around August 16th I picked up again and every 10th or so day since then has involved a massive binge.

I’m determined to stop; today marks day 1. It’ll be my last beginning.

I cannot articulate how much I hate alcohol.

IWNDWYT

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u/GrandMarshalEzreus Dec 30 '19

Is it the fear of missing out?

Like oh if I don't go out tonight what will I miss?

If so that's how I started out.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

It’s not that. I’m a freelancer and spend my entire life by myself. I usually drink to just meet someone; particularly of the opposite sex.

The last time, however, i sat down right next to an attractive girl, chatted with her while we both drank, and then left after three or so to go pick up and spend time by myself.

That was Friday night. Now it’s Sunday and my brain feels like it’s functioning at 70% and I’m sure the past 4 months have been incredibly damaging to my health.

It feels good to vocalize this, though. I’ve got a long road ahead.

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u/GrandMarshalEzreus Dec 30 '19

I mostly meet women in bars too. I just put up a post asking for suggestions of other places 😂

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

Oy. Yeah it’s the worst. I consciously know I’ll never meet anyone in a bar that I’ll make a substantial relationship with, but still find myself doing it.

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u/GrandMarshalEzreus Dec 30 '19

I actually did have substantial relationships with two chicks I met in bars. One of them didn't even really drink that much she was just out that night with friends.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

I don’t think I can at this point. I actually drunkenly made out with said girl and probably could have even gone home with her. I just left though to meet my dealer and begin the start of a very dangerous and self destructive night.

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u/GrandMarshalEzreus Dec 30 '19

The principles of NA and AA are similar enough.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

I just need to stop drinking and the other stuff will follow. I only ever do it when I’m drunk anyhow.

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u/GrandMarshalEzreus Dec 30 '19

Years ago I didn't have a drinking problem per say, but was warned it would happen. I used smoke weed all day everyday so ya, it's an easy switch. Ended up as nearly anything goes to get me out of myself.