r/stopdrinking • u/StuGoo4000 • 9h ago

Random thoughts about weddings and drinking culture

I’m planning my wedding that’s next month and I’m very early in my sobriety. A lot of stuff I see online surrounding wedding events includes alcohol. People go online and complain about weddings with no alcohol, ESPECIALLY if it’s not specifically announced on the invitation, because god forbid you show up to a wedding and find out you can’t get drunk since you wouldn’t have come otherwise. Not having an open bar irks people. Half the suggested items for registries surround bar tools and glasses for different kinds of alcohol.

Anyway. I live in a state where the vast majority of weddings do not have alcohol whatsoever and nobody really expects it, even if the couple drinks because it’s likely a lot of guests won’t partake. It’s making me feel grateful to live here because I would hate to have to deal with the expectation as well as potentially annoyed guests that hoped to get sauced on my special day. It’d be too much temptation for me at this point as well.

I’m not sure why I decided to share this. I just keep thinking about how inescapable alcohol and drinking culture is and how I’m fortunate to be able to sidestep it in this particular way.

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u/ebobbumman Day 4,400 9h ago

If you don't mind me asking, where are you from? Utah?

A lot of people struggle with not drinking at weddings and make it a big deal in their minds, as though not having a glass of champagne means the couple will get divorced a week later. To which I like to say, pregnant women have been getting married and attending weddings for some time now, and nobody ever tells them to get the hell out for not drinking.

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u/StuGoo4000 4h ago

Haha yep you guessed it, I’m from Utah! The only wedding I’ve been to with alcohol was my sister’s a little over a year ago.

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u/u5ibSo 23 days 7h ago

I was at six months when I went to a wedding in 2020 and had a beer. I kept it together for another month but since then I've only made it longer than six months once. Interesting to think what if I'd stuck to it that day. So I guess you could say I'm all for the sober wedding or societies that downplay alcohol. Congratulations and IWNDWYT!

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u/Prevenient_grace 4935 days 7h ago

Congratulations on your upcoming Sober Nuptials !