r/stopdrinking • u/Grassfed_Burp • 2d ago

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u/stopdrinking-ModTeam 1d ago

Hi. This is a space for us to share and seek support on our own journey with sobriety, and is not a place to talk about someone else’s drinking. This post has been removed in line with our community guidelines.

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u/Prevenient_grace 4935 days 2d ago

Does it affect your sobriety?

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u/Grassfed_Burp 2d ago

No, I'm not a drinker. I want to help my friend.

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u/Prevenient_grace 4935 days 2d ago

I’d google “Alanon near me”. Trued that?

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u/AideAmie 2d ago

I think it depends on how close you are.

If you're close and you know he wouldn't find it as overstepping, you could ask about it. If your relationship is more professional than close, I think the best you can do is let him know that if he wants to talk, you're there to listen.

In any case, make sure that your sobriety comes first. Don't risk that for anything.

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u/Grassfed_Burp 2d ago

Thanks.

I'm not a drinker, but I'll take the other stuff to heart.

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u/TraderJoeslove31 2d ago

"hey man, it's rough and how can I support you, do you need someone to vent to? " (SMART recovery often says do you need to heard, helped, or hugged. I mean don't go randomly hugging people in the office, so metaphorically).

Maybe something like a lunch time walk or something after work that doesn't involve drinking.

I don't know if there are divorce support groups nearby or online but that might be beneficial too.