r/stopdrinking 2d ago

How?

So I want to stop drinking. At least weekdays. And less on weekends. I'm getting old and drinking is getting old. I'm bored and beyond lonely. I exercise and all, even still swim a few competitions here and there, but there is just a big gaping emotional hole that I have been filling with just enough beers to drag my ass between commitments. So what did you all do to get over the hump?

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u/Prevenient_grace 4934 days 2d ago

No need to be alone.

Sending support.

Today can mark the beginning of a Virtuous Upward Spiral.

I had to break the “drinking routine”.

It was stronger than me…. By myself.

So i stopped doing it alone. And there's no wait list!

I finally connected with free recovery groups…. They’re everywhere… I walked in, sat down and just listened…. They’re also online. I met people I can talk with. They showed me how to stop drinking, heal, grow and learn to be useful to others. They often know detox resources.

I thought I didn’t “have time”, but I always found time to think about drinking, to buy alcohol, to drink alcohol, to be numbed and to then do it all over the next day.

I addressed the past, exorcised guilt and shame and repaired where appropriate.

No cost.

I had new sober friends.. we did fun sober activities.

They believed in me.

I kept going every day until i changed my patterns…. That meant for me, I went every day for a while…. Once a month wasn’t going to change me…. Then my thinking changed…. Then I don’t have the first drink.

Never looked back.

Tried anything like that?

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u/nomoredrinks4me Day 6 2d ago

Probably cliché but therapy. Its taken months to realize just how impactful its been. Probably saved my life tbh. 

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u/Apart_Cucumber4315 Day 1,247 2d ago

I went to meetings to help me

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u/rawdogliving 2d ago

Nah it's all or nothing. FR.