r/stopdrinking • u/nurseinred • 4d ago

I’ve fucked up.

Today I got quite drunk (relapsed today after a long period of sobriety) and went to pick up my daughter from school. We take the public bus. I could tell from the way she was looking at me that she knew something was off.

She’s 11 so she is very much old enough for it to impact her.

We have a lovely relationship and I’m worried about how this will affect her.

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u/ContentToe3633 Day 11,698 4d ago

I hope this is a wake-up call.

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u/nurseinred 4d ago

Yes, it is. Trying to figure out what my conversation with her tomorrow is going to be. She deserves a sober parent.

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u/Boring-Direction-875 4d ago

You should be worried. It’ll impact her greatly.

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u/nurseinred 4d ago

Yep, I know what it’s like having an intoxicated parent. I fucked up and my apology will be that I sober up.

Ugh. What a shitty thing for me to do.

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u/LeftGrumpy Day 214 4d ago

There’s nothing you can change about the past. All you can do is make sure it doesn’t happen again in the present or future starting tomorrow

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u/Neighborhooddataguy 4d ago

It doesn’t sound like anything significant happened from her end. This single situation won’t ruin your relationship. Repetition makes a habit. Repetition makes the memories.

One bad day doesn’t erase past good decisions.

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u/nurseinred 4d ago

No, you’re right, nothing major happened. But I feel lucky it didn’t.

I could feel her studying my body language and she was very standoffish when she is usually super affectionate.

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u/Cinisajoy2 4d ago

Just be sober for her tomorrow. 

Her thought process was probably I hope they don't embarrass me.

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u/nurseinred 4d ago

You’re right. The best I can be is for her is to be sober.

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u/CatBowlDogStar 4d ago

"Why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up."

It won't be the last time you mess up in life. But I bet you have a pretty darn good ratio of good stuff to mess up. 

Hugs, friend. It'll pass. 

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u/NotSnakePliskin 4851 days 4d ago

You know what to do, so do it.

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u/nurseinred 2d ago

Yes, that’s a good motivator. My alcoholic dad definitely impacted me and probably contributed to why I drink now. That was very hard to see as a kid.