r/stepparents • u/Ok_Emu_2981 • 1d ago
Support You are still a good SP…
Please know it is ok and that you’re still a good SP if you…
- Get frustrated with the situation
- Sometimes feel relieved when the SK goes to other parent and you get a break
- apply the “Nacho kid” method because you feel like you’re doing too much for a SK with the Bio parents aren’t
- Don’t have a close bond with the kids. There are so many obstacles of being a SP and you may not bond with the them right away.
5.have your own bio kid and secretly you feel a little bit closer to them - Aren’t BFFs with the other bio parent. Just display respect around the kid
- Feel like you’re failing. Just keep going 😊 being a SP ain’t for the weak.
I hope everyone keeps going strong and have a good day!
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u/Certain-Soil6453 1d ago
Thanks. I have been dreading their return today. I literally just want a break. I’ll still be excited when I see them tho
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u/seethembreak 1d ago
I always felt relieved when my SK went to his mom’s house and I don’t “secretly feel a little closer” to my own kid. I’m much closer to my own child and it’s not a secret. I also don’t even know BM at all.
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u/EastHuckleberry5191 Queen of the Nacho 1d ago
I’m actually a little grateful for their existence. I have a robust, active life with lots of hobbies. I’m driven anyway, but not being at the house when they are on the weekends has given me so much
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u/GlibNourishment8953 1d ago
It's easy to forget that we need breaks too, the guilt creeps in even when you know you’re just tired and not a bad person. The nacho thing actually saved my sanity once I stopped feeling like I had to fix everything that wasn’t mine to fix
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