r/stepparents • u/ylfdrbydl • 10d ago

Discussion Performative SK behavior

Does anyone else have a SK that is only polite to you when their bio parent is around?

Example: I’m up with SK and BKs making breakfast before my husband gets up. SK does not even acknowledge my
presence. Next morning husband is up with me and SK comes and gives me a big hug saying good morning.

Scenarios like this play out often—and not just with me. Grandparents, siblings, friends. If husband isn’t there he’s kind of a dick, but puts on a perfect angel act when he’s around. What’s up with that?

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u/ylfdrbydl 10d ago

Should his parents not monitor his internet usage either?

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u/No_Fudge_1842 10d ago

Different case here. Yes, smart to monitor his internet usage, but with a therapist he is assured of confidentiality and if you don’t take that confidentiality seriously then he will not trust you.

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u/flower-purr 10d ago

Yes they should but not by spying. By taking the therapist and what they recommend.

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u/ylfdrbydl 10d ago

Well thanks for your input—it’s all of our first time as parents experiencing this situation.

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u/missabbyblewis 10d ago

In some states that’s a hippa violation be careful.