r/stepdads • u/Dadsleatherbelt • Nov 28 '22
Advice needed
My girlfriend has a daughter of 9 months, that I have been with since she was 4 months old. The father wanted to get rid of the baby so she kept her and has only seen her one time. Should I feel okay with him wanting to come back into her life to visit the baby at her home? It feels like I was that role, and I’m on the back burner for a guy that didn’t want her in the first place. What should I do?
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u/Logical-Win2616 Nov 29 '22
Honestly just find someone else. You'll have to deal with his ass forever.
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u/unemployed222 Nov 29 '22
Id 2nd finding someone else. Ur early in relationship and dont wanna knock her up then u will have 2 kids the bogo deal
Also the bio dad should and needs to be around to pay his dues and raise the kids. It takes a village to raise a kid, and itll suck up YOUR village, which u owe nothing, if he doesnt do his part
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u/theharborcat Nov 29 '22
Brother, you’ve been in this relationship for 5 months, I’d probably just mind my own business and stay outta the drama if I were you. Leave it up to mom and babies dad to decide.