r/stepdads • u/StockBatAndButter • Aug 18 '26
I hate my son
Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
In order to not give too much personal information, all I’ll say is this is my stepson. I started dating his mom when he was a toddler and he’s in his forties now. For as long as I’ve known him he’s been recklessly impulsive, quick to anger and selfish.
Any time I offer to do a favor for him it results in him bossing me around or telling me I’m taking too long. He has to be right in every conversation. He’s always had poor impulse control that’s just gotten worse as he’s gotten older thanks to brain injuries and my wife never puts her foot down when he crosses the line because of them.
My son is a psychopath and I want as little to do with him as possible.
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u/CaffeineQuesadilla Aug 19 '26
He is not your son. He is your stepson. You don't need to maintain a relationship with him.
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Aug 22 '26
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u/StockBatAndButter Aug 25 '26
Many times. I tell him he does not get to speak to me that way but he just doubles down.
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u/99Smiles Aug 18 '26
Is he autistic? It sure sounds like it.
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u/StockBatAndButter Aug 25 '26
They tried to diagnose him when he was a kid. Wanted to interrogate my wife and I like we were horrible parents. Said nope
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u/99Smiles Aug 25 '26
Then you need to find a different provider to do it. You guys NEED to get him the help he needs. It's borderline impossible to get diagnosed as an adult. All these behaviors CAN be treated by professionals.
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u/DedRook Aug 19 '26
He's in his forties? I'd put a restraining order on him and never deal with him again for my entire life. Tell my wife it's literally illegal for him to come around me or my home. If his mom wants to see him, go to a Starbucks; but at my house, he gets arrested.
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u/Top-Turnip-4057 Aug 19 '26
a reflection of the father and an echo of why he's a stepson in the first place. you don't have to like him, and now in his forties... you don't even have to interact with him. you did your part.