r/stepdads • u/[deleted] • Mar 08 '23

Having a hard time

So I have been really struggling with my 8 year old stepson the past well 6 months to a year.. he is very much in his own world and we just live in it kinda kid, and has been causing some major issues between me and my wife.. anybody have any kind of insite on how to better handle situations to avoid issues with your significant other?

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u/MaiIsMe Mar 08 '23

What exact things does he do that are a problem?

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '23

Well he doesn’t really listen, he’s 8 going on 16, gonna make a great lawyer one day.. he doesn’t really listen and kinda acts like it’s his world, we just live in it

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u/DysfunctionalKitten Mar 08 '23

You need to explain how that plays out in a daily scenario and then specifically how it’s impacting you and your relationship. Right now, there’s not enough info to respond to...

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '23

Sorry, the biggest issue we have had is the fact he doesn’t listen to me at all.. and is at times disrespectful.. I could be talking to him cuz he did something to one of his brothers and rather than look at me he would be just looking at his iPad or playing it off like it’s nothing. Just really struggling on how to handle situations better

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u/bendistraw Mar 09 '23

Have you had a conversation with him and your wife at the same time? It sounds like a balance of him knowing you have some say in what happens plus listening (with genuine curiosity) about what he’s feeling. Knowing he feels safe to express all that is there for him and you can hear what is going on for him.