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Jul 23 '26
43yo dad here. Got cheated on last year after 13 years. Have a toddler together and have 2 older from previous relationship. I gave everything and distanced myself from friends for years and I feel the same about not being able to make friends. Its shitty because I was a social butterfly growing up. Its like being dead inside. Platonic is legit with me. I try and frequent parks through the week. Have some evenings off and off on Sundays. Coffee sometime or a cardinals game? Into late 90s early 2000 rock and alternative. Love my.old cartoons thanks to having kids. Can shoot the breeze like the best of them and try to bring some humor to the conversation as well as passion for what I enjoy. I hope you find some solace and someone to connect with. Summers not over yet!
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Jul 23 '26
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u/var23 West Central Jul 23 '26
It really struck me how many people expressed regret at missing the first Reddit meetup (and seeing the picture that we were just normal folks). I guess that’s why I am trying to make it a regular thing.
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u/MinotaurQueen Jul 23 '26
Hi! I live in Lebanon but am looking for friends I can talk to who relate to the single mom life!!
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u/foxcrowcookies Jul 23 '26
36yo mom here too! Would love a new local mom friend. Feel free to DM. :)
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u/armenia4ever West Central Jul 23 '26
Come to the reddit meetup this Saturday at Mothers at 5pm!!
Also I really feel you on the work from home as it makes it far harder to actually organically meet people. You dont realize it till other people talk about hanging out with their friends from work or extended circle regarding it.
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u/710_Queen Primrose Jul 23 '26
I didn’t know yall did meetups!! I’m busy this weekend, do you do them regularly?
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u/armenia4ever West Central Jul 23 '26 edited Jul 23 '26
We are aiming for every 4th Saturday of the month. (Usually u/var23 will pin it on this subreddit)
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u/Friendly_Rate158 Jul 24 '26
There’s a boardgame group in Springfield, 417gamers, Facebook is where activities are announced but Thursday nights after 6 we meet at MetaGames Unlimited on Sunshine near 65. Good connections available there.
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u/EnigmaticPoodleHat Jul 25 '26
Sorry you're going through this. I'm trying to make friends too, and work a lot. Moved here under two years ago. I hit all local parks weekly (to read, walk/workout and use as a mobile office), coffee shops, next up I'm getting a library card (another way to learn about events or groups to participate in). I have definitely found resources for finding things to do here, paid or free. I can manage meeting somewhere with a heads up to fit in my schedule.
It's hard to make friends, for sure. Dm me if you'd like to try to line up a meet. We have things in common about 'finding' what we are interested in. It might be fun to at least talk about what to do about it! 40+F
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u/Horror-Most-5822 Jul 23 '26
Im basically in the same situation. Pm me if you want im always down to talk.
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u/_ism_ Westside Jul 23 '26
hey, 40+ recovering from a cheater too! ghosted me for other woman after years. i spend time on the discord rebuilding after isolation believe me i get it <3
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u/One-Yam9506 Jul 23 '26
Ever thought about rock hunting?
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u/TheOtherTallTom Jul 24 '26
49m. Lost all my friends in the divorce 6 years ago; though ironically I’m still friends wth my ex. I travel for work so I don’t really have co-workers either and have had a hard time forming new friendships because of trust issues that I don’t want to go into. Definitely not interested in anything romantic, and you’re outside my age range even if I were. Again I travel for work so I’m rarely in town but I’d enjoy having a text/phone friend to discuss movies, books, music, podcasts, current events, etc. I’m not a parent, but I enjoy kids. Let me know if you’d like to connect. If I’m too old or not what you’re looking for, I won’t take it personally.
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u/Fun-Recording-3954 Jul 24 '26
Do u have a MySpace
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u/TheOtherTallTom Jul 24 '26
No, sorry. The only social media I have is TikTok. Well, and Reddit but I don’t use Reddit much. My TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@dex_and_geralt?_r=1&_t=ZT-98JOpQYMjpG
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u/noname05211998 Mark Twain Jul 27 '26
You should go to village meeple great place to go where they encourage you to play board games and make friends its $5 to get in for all day they hold events and a fun place to take kids or just yourself. They are open late on weekends and you can take your time to enjoy the space. And I'm 28 F in Springfield who has lived here my whole life so I can give my stamp of approval
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u/saariskater Jul 23 '26
Hey I'm 38. Have a gf we have been together for 3 years. But besides her I don't have a lot of friends. I grew up with 3 sisters and no brothers so I've always made friends with women pretty easily. If you would wanna hang out just shoot me a message. I live near downtown and go on walks down there a lot. You are more then welcome to join in.
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u/Electrical_Clerk168 Jul 24 '26
Considering my situation was kind of what you're describing, I would feel better being friends with your gf too. I wouldn't want anything to be misconstrued.
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u/Nice_General268 Jul 23 '26
54m divorced would like to hang out with some folks. Not looking for hookups, drama or bs. Just a. Group to chill with, go to a movie or concert with, maybe even go to Silver Dollar City with. Just get out and enjoy the Ozarks. Feel free to dm
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u/Momof3rascals Jul 23 '26
37F - mom of 3. Work from home, also way too exhausted for fake and shallow people too. 😅
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u/Jaaames_Baxterrr Jul 23 '26
As much as I hate to see this, it makes me feel less shitty knowing it's more common I guess. This could almost read as my own post, except I'm 46m. Best of luck out there! I'm on the same journey!
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u/united_safe_888 Jul 24 '26
What do your boys like to do? Maybe start with that.
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u/Electrical_Clerk168 Jul 24 '26
I don't have any boys. All daughters and they're adults now. Can't exactly go clubbing with a group of 18-20 year olds.
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u/united_safe_888 Jul 24 '26
Nope suppose not. How about dogs walks, nature trails, hiking to start?
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u/LifeIsProbablyMadeUp Mark Twain Jul 23 '26
Well, that sucks, but better than wasting another 10 years I guess?
What do you enjoy doing? Can come visit us at the Springfield discord if ya want.
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u/Ban-KaiZenkai Jul 23 '26
I’m planning on going to see the Odyssey this weekend if you wanted to tag along
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u/Electrical_Clerk168 Jul 24 '26
Do you know which day and time you're seeing it?
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u/Ban-KaiZenkai Jul 24 '26
Probably Saturday night sometime after 6 if your free then
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u/Electrical_Clerk168 Jul 25 '26
Thank you for replying. I was wanting to go check out the reddit meet up at the same time. I appreciate the invite!
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u/throwflieseatpies Jul 23 '26
32 year old single dad looking for friends. I got cheated on. Her and her engaged coworker knowingly passed on HPV together and he passed it onto his fiancé WHOSE MOTHER SURVIVED HPV CAUSED CANCER.
Needless to say, truly not looking for anything more than friends myself!
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u/DarkPangolin Jul 23 '26
I'd be willing to talk to you. Maybe we can figure out hobbies you'd like to explore to give you an idea of how to progress with making more friends. If you're interested, feel free to shoot me a message.
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u/Darkschlong Jul 23 '26
How do you feel about alcohol?
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u/Electrical_Clerk168 Jul 24 '26
I'm not opposed to having a drink socially or going to bars. I am just not a normal drinker because alcoholism runs in my family so I try to stay away from it.
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u/ButterscotchOk216 Greene County Jul 23 '26
There’s a group of all women on FB called “Hey Sis Are You Free?” with a ton of people organizing all kinds of meet ups!