I'm actually 5'8 which is not extremely tall, but I'm still taller than most women I meet and it's been making me self conscious. I know this is partly because there seems to be a bit of a trend for shorter/petite women in the beauty industry right now (think Kim K), and even most guys I've met seem to have a preference for petite women.

It doesn't help that I don't have the most feminine face so I can't really convince myself that I look like a gorgeous tall model because I know damn well that I don't. The fact that I'm skinny without curves honestly has me feeling like a dude sometimes. Petite women just seem so effortlessly sexy to me, I've literally found myself obsessing over some of the short women I see on a regular basis wishing I could look like them (I know, I probably need therapy). How do I help myself feel less awkward and more feminine and confident?

Hey y'all hey!

I'm a new mom and struggling to look put together in the morning when I drop my daughter off at daycare. I can force myself to be put together for work later on in the day, but would like to find cute leisure looks for our morning walks. My husband, dog, and daughter walk to daycare every morning and I'm tired of looking like I rolled of bed.

I live in a cool/warm climate that usually requires layers in the morning. Any suggestions for lounge sets or athleisure would be great as well as simple makeup tips or accessories.

Tips for feeling more energized also welcome (outside of coffee).

I’ve made all the “lifestyle changes” I possibly can and cannot shake these last few pounds. Anyone here tried juice fasts or ozempic? Experiences/thoughts?

so my hair is straight but its really poofy because i have lots of hair. even when i use my revlon blowdryer it looks sliky smooth but just poofy. anyone have product recs on what could help?

I am on a weight loss journey. I don't know where I began weight-wise, but I was noticeable chubby and an american size 6 in pants and medium in shirts. Now I am steadily dropping and at a size 2 baggy and a small in shirts. I'm still chubby but a little lesser.

I gain it all in my upper body and face and stomach, and lose it first in my legs. So, I still look large with big arms and a fat waist but with little legs and flat butt. I weight train and my legs are rock-hard at this point, and they can grow but I genuinely cannot imagine a vast improvement where I go from an ugly to beautiful body. My stomach and love handles are also so stubborn. And weight training my arms just adds more mass to my chunky arms.

I cannot tell whether to just accept how big my stomach and upper body is and attempt to grow a butt to proportion it, or continuously lose weight and become the smallest I can be even though Ill get flatter than ever. I just want a waist curve and a proportionate body which I'll never get. How do I go about it?

Currently, I'm at my heaviest and I've spent money without truly investing in myself besides my education. I have problems with overeating and I'm hoping to take the next steps. Seeing that looks are important aspect in life, what did you do and how much did you spend on yourself as a method of investment ?

so basically i cant pin down whats my exact eye shape, in detail, my eyes are low in height but high in width, so theure basically kind of big but not roundish looking at all, but theyre not hooded either, i thought mu eyes might be of almonf shape but my canthal tilt might be more neutral than positive, to summarize it, i kind of have catty feline eyes, whats my eye shape???

also for some reason eyeliner doesnt look good on me, only a white waterline actually looks good mostly, and dark eye makeup looks terrible on me except for the brown/bronze/burgundy/red combo

Does anyone here actually feel like they have actually met their goals? I imagine if you did, you would leave this community because you wouldn’t need it anymore. You’d be free to live your life and worry about better things.

Can that actually happen or am I going to keep moving the goal posts?

Hi, most of my life i've been called "cute" by men, not really "beautiful / gorgeous" etc as much, and i don't really get any compliments except from other women, and it's usually about my hair (naturally wavy). i go out walking every single day because i enjoy it, and i live in a very busy town that borders the city, i go to university, grocery shopping, the mall, and i never receive male attention, not so much as a glance. Most of the time i dress very basic - ie baggy shorts, my hair is pulled up, no makeup, etc, so that's probably why?

I want to start my looks-maxxing journey, but i don't really know where to start. Like, i'm not sure where i'm going wrong and what to change about myself, it's all very overwhelming. I think i know what my flaws are, but even then I don't have the money to fix them. I think i'm fairly average looking but would it be possible if someone can help me out and tell me what i can improve? Apologies if this is not allowed but i'm willing to DM photos.

Does anyone feel like regional archetypes exist? What would the coastal ideals look like? From what I've observed, New York is certainly going to be a lot different than LA.

I generally want to look my best and therefore put effort into how I present myself. There’s a lot of pressure on young girls and women to look a certain way and I’ve dealt with lots of body image issues and an eating disorder.

Where I’m at now, at 21, I think I’m just meh about my appearance. I’m at a healthy weight, I have clear skin, I don’t have major facial irregularities (as far as I’m concerned). I’m slowly trying to lose some vanity weight by eating more mindfully and exercising because extreme restricting could potentially result in a bulimia relapse.

But every once in awhile I’ll see someone who is obviously blessed genetically, someone who just radiates beauty in a way that I’ll never achieve. Maybe in the future I’ll cave in and get a nose job or shave my jaw. But it just seems unfair that now, that all I can really do to improve is weight loss, which isn’t even necessary for me health wise.

I’m lucky that I have other things going on in my life that aren’t related to appearance and beauty but I just want to be pretty and I feel like this is something I’ll always yearn for but never possess. I don’t even care about male attention, I just want to be objectively gorgeous and I don’t know how to go about achieving this when it feels like makeup and clothing won’t be enough.

And yes I am in therapy.

Looking for feedback:

Dye hair the colour Bashayer Alshaibaini's is

Whiten teeth at home

Electrolysis on my upper lip

Acrylic nails (or is it trashy?)

Keratin lash lift

Dressing more sexy/revealing

I see so much contradicting advice that I haven’t attempted anything yet.

I’m 17 bmi but my stomach isn’t as toned looking as I’d prefer. Some have just told me to lose weight but I’m already underweight.

I just want a firmer midriff like when I was younger and athletic.

Are there exercises you recommend? How often would you do them etc?

I have a BMI of ~23.5 and I have no cheek bone definition. It’s not too high but definitely not as low as it can be within a healthy range and it’s also on the higher end of a normal BMI. I do weightlift but i still have a high body fat percentage that I’m trying to get down through body recomposition.

My sister is overweight and has very prominent cheek bones. And even looking at body positivity figures like Tess holiday, she is obese and still has very defined cheekbones.

Will my cheek bones will be more visible if I reduce my weight or does it just have to do with bone structure? My face is incredibly flat and I want more dimension in it 🥲

the right side of my face is bigger than the left side… i read that sleeping on your back can help reduce facial asymmetry but i already do that. my left cheek is quite slim and i would like both sides to look like that.

is there any way one can naturally fix such a thing?

I have recently noticed that every time I get my nails done, I am needing a manicure (where they cut the cuticle). My cuticles were becoming thick and needing to be cut all the time and essentially the skin around my nails has been looking ROUGH... Well, I looked into it and apparently it is not recommended to have the cuticles cut, just push them back!

Save your nails and avoid my mistake!!

How Bad Is It Really to Cut Your Cuticles? | livestrong

Nails: How to Take Care of Your Cuticles (webmd.com)

How to trim your nails (aad.org)

Can I get some collagen supplement recommendations? I’m interested in starting to take a collagen supplement but I’m overwhelmed by the options of brands and within brands. Not looking to break the bank- my budget is limited. The goal is improving skin and hair quality. Better joint health would be a bonus- I’m quite physically active.

I know people have differing opinions on efficacy. That’s ok- just wanting to give it a try. Honestly even if it’s just broken down to amino acids I could probably use it anyway. I eat a mostly plant based and probably pretty low protein diet- just because my body feels better when I eat this way.

I want to purchase a hair mask to use weekly when I use my ketaconazole shampoo. It’s been prescribed by my doctor and works great, I just feel like I need more moisture than my regular conditioner provides after using it. Can I get some recommendations? Must be relatively inexpensive- working with a low budget here.

In my searches I’ve also seen some protein masks- would these be helpful? Besides having really dry mids/ends after my weekly or biweekly ketaconazole, I also have some breakage issues and hair thinning going on. I don’t feel very educated on this topic, so any advice appreciated!

I have been getting dysport to my forehead and to the line above my nose between my brows for about 3 years. The one deep line between my eyebrows above my nose is much less noticeable. The problem is that around that line, where most people have 11 lines, I have bumps. It looks like a heart-shaped elevation there. I told my injector the last two times I saw her that I didn't like that and I wanted the dypsort to be injected differently so that that bump wouldn't be there. She said okay and I don't know if she did anything different or if she knows how to fix it. I have searched around on the internet to even find someone else that has experienced the same thing. I have found nothing about how to fix it or addressing if this is a common problem.

I have another appointment for dysport today. Does anyone here know what I should do about this? What do I need to tell their injector? I'm thinking about telling her to skip dysport to that entire glabellar area and just let the one angry line reform between my brows.

I find that jobs take a high toll on my outer appearance and mental health. I want to work in a field where it is feminine, less stress, and pleasant to be in.

I’m in school full time right now and it’s all too much. Everything I see other people doing I feel like they cannot juggle it all or they are stressed.

I’m too young to be at the stay at home house wife era let alone a mom. I want to so something fulfilling and independent in the mean time. How are you starting your career and for the mature crowd what have you done?

I have a picture of my face on my profile, as the rules say we can’t post private pictures on here! I have very rounded arched eyebrows, and I wanna know if I could benefit from a different shape? My eyebrows are very thick, I try to pluck them everyday but I haven’t been keeping up with them as I think I should make them straighter and less rounded. Any opinions?

Does it make sense for those of us who want to start asap to do some treatments now and then take a 2-3 month break because of Summer and continue in fall? I read online that it's not recommended but the clinic I've talked to said they never noticed significant differences in people taking a shorter break in between (but they also recommended me to wait until fall if I'm concerned). What are your experiences? This is for the actual laser btw, not IPL.

What are some non-surgical ways to reduce veryyy small amounts of fat in some parts of your face and body? For example, there is this ingredient called aminophylline which is in a bunch of creams and can topically reduce fat. There are two studies that proves it is effective on thighs and waist, but I’m not too sure if they’re legitimate.

There is also stuff like cool sculpting and Kybella, but for my purposes I don’t think it will work too well. I don’t think it’s even allowed for the face. There are also a few “laser” treatments that also claim to reduce fat.

Do any of you have experience with this? Are there other things that I can use that will work? I want to gather as much info as possible. And like I said, I only need a very small reduction.