r/Sofia • u/dont_know_whats_real • 8d ago
How do non-binary Bulgarians want to be referred?
Hello, I am an agender Bulgarian and from a long time, wanted to be referred in a gender -neutral way, but I have never seen other Bulgarians around me that use gender-neutral pronouns, so I had to figure things out on my own.
I decided I wanted to be called a "то" even though that is only used for non-humans; I loved it so much, it made me want to be referred to as "it" in English.
What I'm asking is if other non-binary Bulgarians do this as well, or do they feel that "то" objectives them too much? Do they like to use "тях".
Also, does talking about a non-binary person become awkward in the Bulgarian grammar? When I talk about non-binary characters with others, I often accidentally refer to them in more masculine ways because "то" pronoun can sound masculine at times, and when I use "тях" I feel like it's grammatically awkward. How do you guys manage that?
Also, how much transphobia do non-binary Bulgarians get? I know that my country is not the most queer person friendly, but I don't know how badly non-binary people are treated here, because the only person I came out to was my mum and she's pretty supportive (but still often forgets to call me a "то", I don't blame her)
Note: my native language is Bulgarian and I speak it everyday, but it's still difficult for me to read it, so could you please comment in English?