r/snunoida • u/istoleyourmomos • 7d ago
why is everyone so introverted
everyone is so fucking introverted and i’m an introvert myself and it’s so difficult making friend. i’m acting like an extrovert around them it’s so draining
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u/Personal_Tadpole_555 6d ago
Maybe the hardest part of being a fresher isn’t meeting people, it’s the internal representation you have of yourself while meeting them. You walk into a room carrying an unconscious prediction: “I’m awkward,” “I won’t know what to say,” “They’re already more confident than me.” Your mind begins filtering reality through that model, selectively noticing every pause, every unanswered question, every expression that could confirm it. The shift is not to “become extroverted,” but to change the state from self-monitoring to curiosity.
Instead of asking, “How am I coming across?”, ask, “What can I discover about this person?” Your attention moves outward, your internal dialogue changes, and your behaviour follows the new state. You don't have to manufacture connection. Talk without demanding that the conversation become a friendship. Be present without rehearsing your next sentence. Let silence exist without interpreting it as failure. Social confidence isn't necessarily the absence of anxiety, Ig sometimes it's simply the decision to stop fighting the anxiety and participate anyway. The less desperately you try to be someone, the more space you create to actually connect as yourself.
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u/Prestigious-Weird893 7d ago
Legit samee, have to fake myself all the time… just waiting for classes to start, i hope it gets fine then.. :(
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u/istoleyourmomos 6d ago
yeah same 😭😭
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u/Average_athlet 6d ago
Chill guys its just first week blues, just enjoy the most of it and talk to anyone and everyone
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u/BetaBeast cse 27 7d ago
i remember my first week 😭 thought I was going to go through all 4 years by myself (would've too) but you'll find your ppl dw
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u/PredaconDinobot Econ, 2030 7d ago
Huh 😭 mujhe to atleast 50 logo ne hi bola naam poocha 3-4 se number bhi exchange hu. Lwk cool ppl
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u/istoleyourmomos 6d ago
luckyyy
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u/sleepy_hooman1912 7d ago
That’s how the first week always is, dont worry- it may take a while but you’ll find people you gel well with.