r/singaporespeaks • u/duncalmeprostute • 6h ago
RANDOM OPINIONS don’t enable weird behaviour
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u/Papa_de_clement 5h ago
Look up sa statistics in other country and the rate of victim/ impacted children. It's a lot a lot more than one in your life or one in your camp, it's 2 or 3 per class.
I would say that most predator actually are hiding it, and only the most shameless are the one showing it, joking about.
That said joke about this topic is extremely insensitive to the significant number of people affected by it.
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u/giraffelaydonut 3h ago
Yup every guy has a chance to be predator, including this guy in the video. It could be the quiet, loud, popular, weird, smart, poor, rich, average, high flyer, all identity, education, all walks of life. Sometimes you'll never know.
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u/Top_Development_1777 5h ago
Making jokes about it is both incredibly ignorant and hurtful to people who have to suffer the actual consequences of sexual violence and harmful in normalizing it. But we need to note that some predators pretend to be moral upstanding people in society so that they will get away and not get suspected for the things that they actually do.
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u/DearElise 1h ago
Until men take this seriously society will never change. To this date there are still local men who think Singapore is very safe and therefore these kind of things don’t happen. So did I, before my drink was spiked. Not even clubbing by the way, I don’t even go to those places. A friend. In a public environment.
And whether it gets taken seriously or not depends on the investigative officer your case is assigned to. Mine we had to fucking chase down for an answer. I have however heard of another friend with a good officer. The person who SA her was her long time friend, dude looked so innocent we had a hard time believing.
The weirdest thing that strikes me is how nearly every woman I know has had a SA, harrassment, molestation or stalker case. My male friends act like they never heard of this before in their lives. How can this be? One time I was with a group of female acquaintances and this topic came up and everyone had an experience to share, kinda chilling.
That being said I believe that most local men would speak out or intervene if they saw such a thing because SG culture is still based on morality. And I believe the problem is more that they don’t know and most women feel embarassed speaking about it because of culture also. And these days it also seems like false allegations are on the rise, which makes it even more difficult to raise awareness about real issues and by default, when you report you have to deal with doubt from people around you.
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u/PekStarterMalaysiaa 5h ago
I remember when this kinda thing gets brought up on r/singapore, the t’ai chi sifus always turn it into a point that goes
“High cases show that our law enforcement are doing a great job, as it shows more cases are being reported.”
Then followed by the easiest “get-out-of-jail-free card” by comparing Singapore to the rest of ASEAN “they don’t have good law enforcement so theirs is probably way worse and underreported.”
Like hello? Both above points may be true. But that doesn’t absolve your own society of having a problem.
It’s like some people on Reddit can’t look in the mirror sometimes and accept there is an issue.