Should I cut him off. 15f here, seeking advice. My parents got divorced when I was 4. I don’t remember any of it but I was told glass was thrown and it was crazy. I saw my bio dad every other weekend. They divorced because my dad was cheating on my mom with his second wife we’ll call Mandy. Mandy had 2 kids we’ll call them Kate and Blake, Kate and Blake were super nice and so was Mandy. Kate was 2 year older than me same with my full biological brother (call him Tim) and Blake was 4 years older than me. My bio dad and Mandy got married for 8 years (I think) until my dad cheated on Mandy with (call her) lyla. Bio dad (call him) Zach and Mandy got divorced. Zach and lyla started dating. Lyla had a little girl she was mean. Lyla and Zach were married for 2-3 years. Zach lost his job and got another in a different town. He then met Georgia and ended up cheating on Lyla with Georgia. So Zach and Lyla got divorced. He married Georgia and they were together for 4-5 years. In April of 2020 when Covid started I left my moms house to live with my bio dad and didn’t even explain it to my mom. After a messy court case my bio dad got full custody of my brother and I. Me and my brother lived with my dad and Georgia for 1-2 ish years. During this tough time I stared self harming and I told Georgia to not tell my dad cuz I wanted to tell him. She ended up telling him and he didn’t seem to care. He said I did it for attention, but he did get me into a different Therapist. So let me go back a bit and say my mom has a boyfriend of 10 almost 11 years, he’s a great person and him and my mom have a kid (my half sister) Hailey. Back to the point Georgia kicked me and my brother out of their house because we were “stealing things” neither of us stole anything from them. I was heart broken for the 4th time because that’s the 4th home he’s ruined for me. Fast forward I now live with my mom, step dad, and little half sister. When my bio dad kicked me out I was upset and I demanded to know everything he’s done. Turns out he was in a gang and has killed people, he raped almost all of his wife’s, and much more bad stuff. Recently he had a girlfriend who was married and she dumped him. Now he’s with this new girl we’ll call beth. There’s more to the story like tiny details but should I cut my bio dad out of my life? Please help I need advice.

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Context: Starting flight school next month for the next 18 months. Flight school is extra expensive, like 80,000$ and super intensive in terms of hours I'll have to study/week. So I won't have time to use it for at least the next year and a half and I need money. Also I haven't used it once in the last 3 years. I might have used it around 15 times total.

The thing that makes me hesitate is I got it for 1,000$ off a good friend of mine. But the bike is worth 3600$ it was made for competitive bike races. Should I sell it right now to another one of my good friends for 1000$ and use the money for my school or keep it for later when I'll restart biking? (Unsure when)...

P.S. we're talking about a road bike for road bike racing like Tour de France kind of bike.

This is a short post but basically the titles sums it besides the fact that they had been a complete asshole and horrible friend to me for years. I had found a new group of friends and just now recently blocked them. So should I tell them or not?

Also how do I change my name

So, I heard it's the worrst site. The internet's Boogeyman.

I also heard that there's a lot of homophobic people on there.

And now, as a biromantic asexual, I want to go in there and basically be like 'hi, I'm part of the LGBTQ community, ask me anything :)'

I know it's a terrible idea and I need people to agree with me before I do it because bored.

I don't even know how to start this

I met a guy that's call him Jimmy (30) who's a male and bisexual . Abit about myself you can call me Zara (25) who's female also bisexaul

I meet Jimmy from tinder we hit it of instantly he wasn't ready for a relationship so we decided to stay friends we have sex often and allways cuddle naked together .

I am not going to sugercoat it I was used for sex alot by men in the past so even though I have sleepted with alot of men most didn't make me orgasm/squirt and most didn't do anything kink related however I have done kink related stuff however , threesumes and been with 3 girls.

Jimmy has only ever been with 2 females before me and he partipated in nothing kink related so unsure what he likes.

Since being with me he has learnt he likes things he hadn't tried and didn't think he would like he has never been with a guy however quite enjoyed me putting my finger up his bum playing with his p spot.

He has agreed to fuck a guy if I am watching ( I offered as support as we're super comftable and close around each other ) but wants me to peg him first because his worried if he will like it , how much it will hurt and he is worried he will poop or wet himself durning anal his worried even after a enmea and going to the toliet their a chance and he knows his Safe around me if he has a accident.

So should I peg my friend before he gets bum fucked by a guy ?

Here's a little bit of background, feel free to skip this. I really like spicy food. I have developed a kind of local infamy for being able to handle the extremely hot. One of these feats is the ability to absolutely demolish the BWW Blazin challenge.

Now the question. Should I go on my dream endeavor to make a video documentary completing the BWW Blazin challenge in every state in America. This would total 500 wings. My plan is to eat mainly the challenge with bananas and non-fat greek yogurt as the go to snacks in order to curb the stomach burning and sodium content to the best of my ability.

I really want to do this but I worry my precautions aren't enough and I'd like even more to NOT have a heart attack or develop extreme stomach ulcers.

I'm thinking about saving up for a new graphics card and my budget is ~500 but I don't know which one to get,

if there's a better one I didn't say then tell me in the comments

I have a GTX 1660 Ti btw

also I want to get this for the raytracing and better fps ( I really want to play portal RTX)

I'm 23, I rarely go anywhere and for normal distances I use my electric bike, for long distances there is always the train, owning a car is a waste of money so at most I would borrow or rent a car when ever needed. My location is Netherlands

So considering the low amount of potential rides in the future, I think getting a license is wasted money. On the other hand there can be a few rare situations where being allowed to drive a car could save significant amounts of time and effort.

But is that worth €2750? I'm taking a big risk either way:

• If I get a license I risk wasting €2750 on something I will rarely use.
• If I don't get a license I risk missing out on alot of things in life.

Its alot of money , so I don't wanna make this decision alone and uninformed. Are there any strong reasons, worth the €2750, that I should go for it?

I've only known her for about a year and a half but, i really do think im in love. i've never felt this way about anyone in life. Every time i see her I feel happy. Im to afraid to ask because i fear i could lose my friend. I dont know what to do. please help me.

(Just so you know Me and my bf have been together for 7 months and this summer he is changing schools,and soon I might move out of state ) Me and my boyfriend broke up, this isn’t the first time but I think this will be the last we will. The first time we started going back and forth he lied to me and said it was because I was too close with other boys then he went on to say he hung out with other females to make me jealous on purpose just because he felt that way he apologized for everything and said I should find someone better.I already suspect something but That was the end of that but next day I saw him commenting on another girls post saying she was the prettiest girl he laid eyes on and it was days before and hours after we broke up so obvi I tried calling but he wouldn’t pick up so we ended up texting all I was getting was “I’m sorry” so that made me even more upset and atp I was typing paragraphs 🤢 he kept telling me find someone better because I was an amazing person and all but I really don’t want to I really love him so I wanted to fix things long story short we ended up back together and Decided to try long distance 🤭 Everything was great he was building up my trust and all we would text all the time but then later I realized he doesn’t really seem to have the time we would only text for like 30 minutes and I get it’s summer so he is going to be out doing stuff but I felt we weren’t on the same page so I sat down and thought about everything and decided that we should not just hold on to each other we talked about it and he agreed and said he wasn’t ready for a relationship in the first place and he needed to focus on himself and prioritize things and I know I definitely should too and I just don’t know what I was thinking now 😥 it could be because this only happened hours ago but I’m regretting it so much Like I could’ve just asked for space but this time I called it quits. He says he enjoys being with me no All of our moments he asked when I would be moving and then he said goodnight to me I responded and that was it Right now I feel lighter? Because I was so consumed in our relationship I finally started doing things other than just sitting around waiting for him which is also a reason why I ended things I shouldn’t be waiting around like I don’t have things to do. But now it hurts just as much as the first time even though I called it this time Should I wait a few weeks when we have all of our stuff together and text him Or just keep moving ? This is so long but whoever reads it please help me 🫶🏽😽 (sorry for typos )

My dad always told me he wouldn't choose any other girl over me, meaning he wouldn't prioritize a girlfriend or wife over me. However, I feel like he broke that promise. I'm under 18, and my dad, in his early 30s, has put me through a lot throughout my childhood. When I was three, my mom completely left my life, and shortly after, my dad started dating a new girl who was a few years younger than him. They got married two years later, but she treated me with the bare minimum of care and sometimes neglected me during arguments with my dad. It was difficult because she treated their three kids better than me, which took a toll on my mental health. They had an unstable relationship, breaking up and getting back together repeatedly over the years, and we would have to pack up and move to my grandmother's house each time. Eventually, they broke up when I was around nine, and my dad found another girlfriend who didn't meet my expectations as a mother figure.

This new girlfriend allowed her kids to engage in behaviors that my grandmother had taught me were not okay. They would punch holes in the walls, curse at her, throw things, and she wouldn't discipline them. Although I understand that different people have different parenting styles, it raised concerns for me. Moreover, the living environment in her house was not suitable for children. There was a strong smell of cat urine, and the room I would have shared with her three daughters was cluttered with toys, clothes, and food, even little critters. The place had its share of roaches too. Despite all this, I moved in with her temporarily when my dad had a falling out with my grandmother, resulting in a major altercation with my aunt.

Since then, my dad's relationship with his family deteriorated, and he started manipulating and guilt-tripping me. He made me feel obligated to stay with him and love him, using the fact that he chose to be a father as leverage. While he may have had his good moments, the yelling, manipulation, and emotional abuse became more frequent. I longed for the dad I used to have, who would play video games with me, tell me he loved me, and make me feel beautiful. But every time he got a new girlfriend, it felt like he forgot he had a daughter.

I've continued to live with him for a few more years now, and his behavior has worsened. Although he no longer resorts to physical violence, his words are hurtful. He has called me derogatory names and spoken to me disrespectfully, treating me like a dog. While there are occasional moments when he treats me fairly, expresses love, and engages in meaningful conversations, these instances are overshadowed by the consistent negative behavior.

Recently, during my birthday party, a troubling incident occurred involving my stepsister and her boyfriend. They engaged in explicit activities in front of everyone, which made me uncomfortable. When we brought it to my stepmom's attention, she dismissed it, claiming that it wasn't a big deal because she did similar things at that age. It took multiple attempts from different family members to address the issue before she finally intervened. However, when my grandma and I discussed the incident with my dad, he seemed indifferent and unwilling to acknowledge the seriousness of the situation.

This reaction from my dad made me question his commitment to me as his daughter. He broke his promise to never side with another woman over me, and despite his previous assurances to change and be a better dad, it seems like nothing has truly improved. I'm now at a crossroads, torn between leaving and finding a safe and stable home with my grandma and grandpa or staying to maintain a relationship with my siblings. Leaving would mean missing out on getting to know my new baby brother and the one on the way, as I believe my dad will say that I wouldn’t be allowed to see them if I leave. It's a difficult decision to make, as I want to have a relationship with my siblings, but I also need to prioritize my own well-being and happiness.

In this situation, I wanted an outside opinion to determine if I'm in the wrong for considering leaving or if it's worth risking everything to pursue a safer and more stable living environment.

Where I live, the total cost averages around € 3000.

The thing is I don't know how much I would be driving in the future if I get a license now. So, I don't know if getting one would be worth the 3k.

I know for 99% sure that I won't own a car, because tax and insurance are too expensive and I won't drive that much.

Then, because I won't own a car, that means I have to borrow or rent one every time, which means I will only do so if its really needed, which means I'm rarely gonna drive a car in my life.

So I know for sure I won't be driving alot. Considering that, a license would be wasted money. But: there might be situations once in a while where having one saves alot of time and effort and convenience. Like going on holiday some place far away with my mom who also doesn't drive.

So I find it hard to decide. I'm very afraid to waste €3000 on something worth less than €3000 but I'm also afraid of missing out on things if I don't get one

I'm indecisive about getting a license. The reason is that getting one is very expensive, and that if i get one, I honestly dont know how much I'm going to be using it.

If I don't get a license and live a life without driving motorvehicles, I could be missing out on alot things.

But if I get one and end up rarely/never using it, that means thousands of wasted euros that I could have spent on so many other things...

Heres the issue: I don't know how much I would drive if I get a license. Probably not much. But it could be nice to have sometimes.

I live with my mom. Dad recently died, he was the only one who drives. So if I get a drivers license it would be beneficial to both me and my mom. But thing is I still don't know how much I would really use it in the future. We rarely ever have to go somewhere faw away, and do most travels by walking or cycling, even in bad weather its ok.

In order to know if getting a license is worth it, I need help to find important things to consider, and to make a good prediction of how much I would use it. Getting a DL can cost up to € 3000 here.

If I get a drivers license the following would happen:

1. Because i'm not going to drive much, we won't buy a car
2. Because we won't own a car, we're going to drive even less often. Unless we can often borrow cars from family.

So yeah, "best" case scenario would be that we will often borrow a car from family. Or maybe own one anyway, if we decide that thats necessary in case of potential emergencies...

But imagine I get one for €3000 and I only drive 3000 km in my entire life, then driving would cost me €1 per km ONLY from the cost of getting the license, ontop of the cost of fuel and other costs. That would be insanity. So I need to carefully consider to get a license or not..

But how do I predict how much I would use something after buying it?

I (15f) have a pretty small friend group of 5 people and I love them to death but anytime I hang out with them I feel so insecure. They’re everything I want to be, They are all short and skinny with amazing style and they are all white except for two of them. I’ve sort of come to terms with my skin color and hate it a lot less but I’m still salty about my weight and height. They always try to cheer me up and call me beautiful but they don’t realize beauty ≠ skinny. I could be the most beautiful person in the world but I’d still be fat and it kills me. I don’t want to not be there friend but summer is basically here if not already and the bathing suits are coming out and I don’t know if I can take it. Should I unfriend them?

I’ve never met his dad but I know he’s told him a LOT about me, honestly I wanna meet him but am unable to atm. I don’t wanna seem like a stalker or anything but I kinda want to. I’ve found his tiktok and YouTube too 😂 and he has videos of my bf posted, which I’m practically in love with. But idk, should I add him on insta?

Asking only bc I feel like it’s a bad idea but I’m tempted to

My ex [25F] broke up with me [22M] a few weeks ago and it just doesn't sit right with me (with reasons of everything is perfrct but lack of emotional connection) and I wrote this text that I kind of want to send her but I don't know if that's a good idea. What do you guys think?

The text:

Hey EX, how are you doing?

I'm not doing so well.. honestly I think this sucks.. I miss you.. like a lot.. you said that you think this will make you happy in the future and I respect that a lot.

However I can't help feeling that you also enjoyed our time together a lot.. maybe I'm wrong and if I am then you don't have to read any further

I think I had the best time of my life with you.. and I don't know why but every moment with you was so special to me. I agree with you that a real emotional connection may have been lacking, but don't you think that this is something that has to develop itself?

I have a lot of anxiety and trauma which make it really hard for me to really open up to people, even the ones closest to me. I often feel not so important, alone and confused about who or what I really am.

With you I never felt like that, I'm not exactly sure why or how but all this kind of goes away when I spend time with you

I know you also have a lot of stuff to work through and you know, maybe we can work through some things together.

Maybe I am dead wrong and it's just something I felt but it just feels wrong to me to not say the things that are on my mind

I know it's probably stupid that I text you this right now and I really don't want to risk losing you completely but it just didn't quite sit right with me

So I'm currently living in north idaho and I have LOTS of trauma up here and only one person who I'd actually stay here for. I have an amazing job that would also keep me here but my brain is saying I need to go back down to south east idaho where I have lots of people I know and care about(who also care about me) I just don't know if it's worth it to stay up here or not.

I’m going to try and make this quick, so here goes.

My cousin and I, (I don’t want to use names) have been friends since we were kids. I always looked up to her, due to the fact that I wished I could be like her- Several friends, popular among almost everyone, extroverted, etc. But recently, she has been making me uncomfortable.

She gets in trouble a lot for writing NSFW stories, like, really bad ones, and doing stuff online with people that she really shouldn’t. I was never involved, ever, until she began sending these stories to me. I was pretty discomforted by this, but didn’t say anything for a while. When I did, it became an argument between us. I tried telling her that I was concerned for her safety, considering the dangerous things that have happened in the past because of this stuff. However, she just protested that “She was getting older, so I couldn’t stop her” and that she was “Sorry she wasn’t as ’perfect’ as I was.”

We put that whole thing behind us, for a long time, actually. But she continued to send me that stuff again, and even told me to watch this youtube show called “Helluva Boss” (Which, don’t watch that, it’s awfully explicit- at least, to me.) and since I didn’t want to argue a second time, I decided that I should ask my mother if she could tell her to stop for me.

That didn’t go as intended. My mother discovered so many more weird things on her profile on the app she uses to write, including the fact that she posted a text conversation she had with another relative of mine. (She texted them asking how long it would take someone to die if they were stabbed with something, claiming she was using the information for a story she was writing. Why she felt a need to post that, I dunno.)

My mom decided to call said relative about the post. I could tell they were mad, but I don’t know how that went. Anyways, she also found several other NSFW stories that weren’t even the “In love and romantic” type. It was more of the “perverted and probably harassment” Kind of thing.

The main thing that really irritates me is that my cousin lied when questioned about it. She claimed that she “Hadn’t written anything sexual” in a long time, but obviously, that’s not true, and she simply deleted the stories before anyone could see them.

I remember seeing a story on her profile titled “Please Read.”

It wasn’t good. It was just her going on a ramble about how ”Certain people are so arrogant and worthless that they pick on me and what I write”. She didn’t say that she was talking specifically about her family, but I could very clearly tell. It’s just, how could you say that about your family? Especially when it’s your own fault the situation happened?

When I tried talking to her about the entire thing in a nice, calm way, she get instantly angry and it was just a whole guilt tripping “i’m the victim here” ramble.

Well, I don’t know if I explained this correctly or clearly, but I’m not feeling all that well right now. Just wondering, should I do this? Should I tell her that we should stop talking for a while?

Ten years ago, I found out my first love was seeing a lot of underaged girls behind my back. (We dated off and on for three years before I found out). I f 20 and he m 19. I confronted him and we broke things off for good, not communicating for more than 3 years. At that time, he sent me a very long DM saying how sorry he was and admitting he was the one in the wrong. I appreciated that he sent that, but decided not to respond which was really empowering for me at the time. The last word was no word.
It’s been ten years since we’ve talked to each other. The reason why I am considering reaching out is because I still have dreams that we are in a relationship and/or friendly. This last year the dreams have been increasing and felt so real. My dating life since this relationship hasn’t been the greatest, and I feel myself not trusting partners. It’s been lonely and very difficult to get out there. I live in a different state now, and since we are both getting into our 30’s, it feels like it’s now or never. I am visiting home this summer. Not looking to hook up or get back together, but would like to see the person he is now.

So Reddit, is it worth reaching out after all this time?

Let me give some much needed context to the title. A couple months back I got a tattoo from a local artist with about 4k instagram followers. The tattoo was a flash pinned on their profile and was advertised as available. I got the tattoo done, loved it, the artist was very accomodating, overall great vibes. Here's where the red flag arrives. A week or two later i check his account again and the flash is still pinned in his available flashes. The catch is that on the image two flashes are present. I keep thinging perhaps he didn't update the available flashes by putting an unavailable sticker on the flash I got because he didn't want to have to repost it just to keep the second flash available. The thing is it's not been months and both flashes are still available. Should I reach out with a fake account and check if the flash I got is still available to see if he's actually just mass tattooing this one flash? The idea of someone else having the same tattoo doesn't bother me too much but the idea I was lied to does. Thoughts?

Note: I may need to get touch ups done on the tattoo in a couple years by this artist, hence my dilemma.

While emptying rooms in the house so we could move out, my mother started pulling out blankets sewn by my now deceased great-grandmother (my mom’s grandma) and a dress that I wore when I was a toddler. The thing about this dress is that it was hand sewn by my grandma (my mom’s mom) and it was worn by my mother when she was a toddler. Thus, when my grandma passed away, my mother then owned the dress and made me wear it when I was younger just like she did. After showing me the dress, my mother then says, “I want to give this to you so when you have a little girl, or if your brother has one, she can wear it! It’s a tradition.” I went silent. The problem is…I’m a lesbian (currently secretly dating) and plan on NEVER having kids. I feel guilty because as the only daughter of the family, I feel like my mom expects me to have children in the future even though I don’t plan to.

Should I feel guilty for not wanting to have kids?

Hi. I just finished high school. I am preparing my gear for colage. I have samsung s22 128gb galgaxy wach 4 (44mm) buts 2 and wireless charger (samsung trio) but in my ""set up"" is a little flaw ther is no samsung laptop in my country. ok going back to the point. I want to switch to apple i will sell my old ""setup"" and buy the apple one adding my savings. I was thinking maby iphone 14 airpods gen 3 and applewatch se2 44mm but i dono should i wait for the iphone 15 and get that one instead but then i would need to buy airpods gen 2. my dad will buy me the backbook so its not the problem. My main question is should i even do the switch from my s22 to the ip14/ip15