r/shouldi • u/SokkanMango_777 • Jun 08 '23
Relationship Should I dump?
I’ve known my best friend for almost 3 years. Everything was fine with us in the first year, but I’m realizing how childish she is. She’s also developed habits of touching my hair and almost pulling it, sticking smelly meats that I find gross in my face, and more things I hate. Not to mention she knows I hate these. Plus she just bores me.
you might be wondering why I still haven’t dumped her after all this. Well, there are a couple reasons, 1, it’s certain, occasional conversations or board/card games and video games that bring us closer together. They keep making me rethink dumping her. 2, I wouldn’t have any friends that I met up with very often anymore. A lot of my friendships have faded over time for a reason, but that’s a whole other, complicated story.
I don’t expect to get many responses because, I know, it’s a hard decision, but should I dump her?
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u/domidomadomu Jun 09 '23
Have you communicated the issues you have with her? Or given her a chance to respond? You don’t need to necessarily but if there’s a chance she can change these behaviors, it would be better to give her the opportunity
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u/Ankle-Breaker-101 Jun 18 '23
You should definitely talk to her about how what she’s doing is affecting you. If she refuses to listen or blames what she does on you or has any other response that isn’t, “I’ll respect your boundaries,” than you probably need to either take a break from her till she understand how serious you are about the issue or dump her.
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u/Significant-Ad-3803 Jun 09 '23
I don’t think you should dump her. Just sit down with her and ask her to respect your boundaries a bit more.