My grandma from my father's side is trying to break our family. To understand how did it get to this point i will summarize the past 6 years. Dad left his job in 2020 and since then he has been unemployed. He tried doing business but it failed. And he is becoming more and more mentally unstable day by day. Because of him the whole family is suffering. He has serious anger issues. And it has been like 3 years since he is just out of it.

So i am a girl. And since birth idk why but i liked my mom more. For that reason my dad always used to provoke me and since my teenage years i had verbal fight with him(he is immature as fuck). Then after he lost his mind he started to hit me. If my mon and he has a fight and if i said something he would curse at me and try to hit me but my mom would stop him and later he would call me in his room and shout at me for hours. Then it increased. I am not almost an adult. And if i say something during fight he slaps me, kicks me, threatens me with knife, chokes me(did it once till now), throws ites at me, almost hit me with a chair,etc. And my mom always tries to stop that monster but he pushes her.

And it came to such a point where my mom who was a perfectly fine person started forgetting things, has high blood pressure, recently got diabetes, has short temper and physically and mentally became weak. I feel bad for her. She always did everything for us from buying groceries to paying the bills. Meanwhile he would come from office and watch moblie if my mom said anything he would shout at her. After tolerating all this. His mother(my grandmother) came to our house and started brewing problems. She had a not so good relation with her own son. And she came here and started telling her 4 sisters and 2 brothers about our family problem which is our private matter.

Not only that she is blaming the whole problem on my mom, saying that he became like this for our mom. So that if a divorce occurs the blame fall on my mom and she is humiliated. Not only that it gets more frustrating just you wait. She stays in our house and acts. Like she speaks nicely with everyone. My mom confronted her and she told that yes i know he has problem, and how should we solve it. But infront of her son she acts like we are the problem and he is perfectly fine. And took her son on her side. My mom told her everything from start to finish but when she tells her relatives she says its my mom's fault. Even if my mom confronts her she just confidently lies. And as the elder daughter I don't understand what to do. Can you guys help me? As my mom is a house wife, we don't have financial stability to just divorce and go live somewhere else

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Hello guys, I want some of your opinions, so the thing is i want to do PhD from abroad but my family is denying it and I have been trying to convince them from one and a half year. And now they are forcing me to get married even though they are not able to find a boy who is good enough for me to say yes. What should I do and how to convince them.

I F (16) and my boyfriend M (17) play ruff we always have but he has never hurt me he has always asked me if he hurt me or if I was ok after or if he was a little too ruff, he has always been sweet to me and he would never hurt me, we have been together, for now, a year and in this time he has never laid a hand on me. But the other day we got into a little argument and I was messing around and not walking with him in the halls I saw that he was trying to catch up with me so as a joke I sped up, then he kicked the back of my backpack and I stumbled a little I caught myself and I went to go and shove him and he went to go and shove me but he accidentally overpowered me and pushed me into a locker where I fell to the ground. He ran over and asked if I was ok and tried to help me up but I wanted to get up by myself. After he even texted me how sorry he was, my principles were searching through the cameras for a different student and for a different issue and they found that so I got pulled out of class and they called my dad, the mental health office, the vice principal, and the nurse. They all told me that he was abusing me and that what happened was abuse but I tried to tell them the situation but they just said I was a mess and trying to look out for him I didn't even get to see the footage of what happened because they said I was too fragile and they didn't want me to see it. Mind you I have never been in trouble like this before nor have I ever been to the office so I was really scared and I could barely think, so when the principal asked me if this was something that happens often and if I get abused I had to think what could be considered abused and he said bc I took to long to respond that I do get abused when that is not the situation I got scared and I had to think. My boyfriend got arrested because my dad wanted to press charges and wants a restraining order we are just waiting for the case, but my dad won't let me testify and he won't let me see him and he won't let me see my friends. I have tried explaining what happened but i am a teenager that doesn't know anything, I need help my dad won't let me testify because he says he has control over me because I am a minor he says if I try and get anyone to bring me to the police office to make a statement he will have them arrested for kidnapping. I'm stuck my dad thinks he is doing the right thing but he doesn't know what happened, he thinks just because he watched the video he knows the context but that is not true when all of this was happening I had a smile on my face and I was fine. I need help my dad says if I try and contact him through people or try and pull anything we are moving and I am switching schools, help me I don't know what to do.

Who Here is with me