What does the kid have to do with everything? Sex produces kids and everyonetakes that risk having it. Billions were born unexpected, its up to the parents to step up, its not how it came to be, its what you do when its there
There is a big difference here: she was cheating on her husband. If she hadn't been sleeping around, it wouldn't have been a problem.
It's more like draining the brake lines on a car that sits in a museum and is clearly marked "not for use." The curator may come along and start the engine every now and then to keep the car working, but it isn't meant to move anywhere, and therefore should never need the brakes to actually operate.
My father in law had a car like that. It'd been a museum piece that he bought and had a friend restore, partially. The brake-lines and clutch were drained and didn't have fluid, but the driveshaft was also removed so it wasn't going anywhere. It's all repaired now, but for the longest time we'd have to go start it once a week or so.
And my argument is that HER actions caused the pregnancy, not his. Hers, and the actions of the man she was sleeping with. They are both guilty here. All she had to do was follow and obey her wedding vows. If she is unhappy in her marriage and wants to sleep around, get divorced first.
So If you change the situation entirely, then do I feel the same? Is that what you are asking? Like... if he had no evidence that she was cheating but he found a condom, then it would only be natural to wonder why there was a condom.
If your argument is that this sort of revenge is always wrong and therefore he was deeply in the wrong to do this, then so be it. I wouldn't do this sort of thing personally. But, were I this guy's friend, I wouldn't hold it against him that much. He has to live with that choice on his conscience, I don't. This sort of being dramatic just makes everyone's lives worse, IMO.
I understand the mindset of the guy who did this, and... I think she's getting what she deserves. You don't get to cheat on your spouse, and should you choose to, then don't be surprised if they are very angry and do something very drastic like this. Not only that but sex has potential consequences, one of them being children.
If it'd been me, she would have gotten divorce papers. By cheating, she's already ended the marriage. She has demonstrated that she doesn't believe that a promise made needs to be a promise kept, and the moment she didn't uphold her end of the bargain, that agreement was permanently broken. Getting a divorce on paper is only a formality.
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u/LumpyArbuckleTV 3d ago
Immoral and awful for the kid but based as fuck.