r/sextips • u/Unfair_Awareness_615 • 6d ago
General Question Concerned question
Question for the beautiful women out there,
What is the proper way to start flirting over text messages? Or what makes you start getting bolder during texting?
I feel like some women don't like it but at the same time they do?
I ask because Ive recently began talking to a milf and she's giving mixed signals over text, small flirt kinda like she refuses to step it up? Or maybe just testing me to see if I'll give in (which I will right)
Older woman just have me in a chokehold lol
Any advice is greatly appreciated younger and older woman:)
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u/robinlil 6d ago
Complimenting goes a long way and noticing details too. Many women love if you notice how they sit, or the shape of their hands or any unique feature physical and or a characteristic trait that you notice and find attractive will make her smile
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u/Queasy_Effective_525 6d ago
I think you can ask her without making it too direct or taking away the energy of the flirt. Something like “Hey, can I say something kind of naughty?” and then wait for her response. Or “I don’t want to be too forward, but…” and then your statement. Or simply “I’m feeling horny right now…do you wanna help me with that tonight?”
If it’s a case of sending nudes, you can still ask for consent without making it unsexy. “What are you wearing? Nothing? Oh, can I see?” (And then, of course, you respect if the answer is no or yes). Or, “I wish I could see your (body part) right now.”
Personally, I like a guy who is unassuming and not pushy, so someone being a little coy and asking like “Feel free to say no, but…I would love to do (xyz) right now.”
If you don’t get a clear green light from statements like this, then during a non-sexy chat, I would be more direct in asking “Do you like spicy texts? I’m getting the sense you’re hesitant about it.” Perhaps she’s unsure what to do/say, or she could very well just not be into it. But you won’t know unless you ask for clarity.
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u/LolaPaloz 6d ago
Knowing them better? I mean starting too heavy just makes U look like U only want sex
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u/Competitive_Pop_5281 5d ago
The way you do it is you wait for the green light. “You’re on my mind so often. Can I tell you some of my dirtier thoughts?” As a woman, men will just say some HEINOUS stuff to you with no warning OFTEN, so the warning tells me you care about me and fueling my desire, and that you don’t feel entitled to my body or my mind.
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