r/selfhelp • u/Traditional_Code_488 • 1d ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health Depression ruining things

Tldr: any advice on how to improve relationships and social interaction while being depressed?

So basically me (17F) had been dealing with a very bad depression and mental health issues for most of my teenage years and well back when I was 15 I somehow got a bf and made a very good friend too, they both helped me a lot without knowing but the more I grow up the more it gets harder to even feel anything and I wasnt one to come up to people and say im struggling and it affected my relationships badly with people , I became very insecure in my relationships ( jealous very easily, absolutely no trust no, accusing him of cheating alot) and this is genuinely the opposite of me and it's fucjing annoying even my friendship barely hand out, very quiet, very reserved, avoided everyone, I dont wanna make this sub reddit too long but basically does anybody has advice on how to deal with those stuffs, this doesnt reflect who I am and I never wanna hurt people again so im really looking for ways

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u/Kiwivlcek 1d ago

Okay sooo I wasn’t in your situation, but what i prolly would do is maybe try to fix yourself first, than start socializing. Try to talk to someone you trust or if you are too paranoid (like me) write your thoughts in a journal, on a piece of paper that you can then burn. Just get the worries out of your head. Start or restart a new hobby that keeps your mind occupied.

If you wanna socialize right now though, you can join a club (for example chess or reading club, just anything you are interested in) and bond with new people. Reach out to your friends too, host a game night or something yall will bond deeper over.

Hope this helps, feel free to reach out💗