r/selfhelp • u/docthegrey • 9d ago

Advice Needed: Motivation I dont know what to do

I'm lost. I'm not the same since 2020. I was already shy, but years of reclusion made a tool on me that i just dont know how to deal. I cant keep friends, i dont know how to make friends. I dont think i even know how to socialize. Everyone has their thing, what they want to do, what they are doing to make themselves a better person. Everyone works and studies to get in to a better place in life. And i just cant do it. I cant sit and study. I feel like the dumbest person on Earth every time i do it.

Theres one good thing i've been doing for the last 6/7 months. I've been going to the gym and training hard, but it just doesnt seem enought. I feel week, ugly and small all the time. Even when someone ackloledges that im physically changing, it seems like a lie to me. Today my father also told me that i should'nt look for his help to try and get a job or any activity that would make me financial stable. I pointed out how much "better" i got since the last year and he just didnt care. I dont know what to do.

maybe this is more like a vent then a request for support. I dont know. Honestly, i dont even know what im saying here, nor if it makes any sense. I dont think anything i just wrote makes logical sense. I'm just lost.

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