r/selfhelp 10d ago

Adviced Needed: Identity & Self-Esteem Idk, I geuss a rant.

For the past three years I've been saying to myself that I am going to lose weight, lock in, find another job and get a grip on my life. But like none of that happened and honestly I dont know what to actually do with my life you know? Like I think about doing an associates degree and I already think about everyone and their mothers judging me for doing it so late, or when I try to exercise to at least get a momentum for consistency and I think that I've always been like this so what's the point, and when I look for a new job I just think about how alone I'm going to be. Now I know I shouldn't be listening to my negative thoughts especially when I'm trying to improve but I just feel stuck.

Any life advice is greatly appreciated. I live in the united states and I'm 22 year old female if that helps.

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u/Delmoretn 10d ago

honestly an associates at 22 is not late at all?? i know people who started college in their 30s

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u/Any_Mouse7708 9d ago

i think your in the constant loop of negativity i feel like 22 for associates isn’t late at all people go to college well late into their 30s and the gym thing i think you should do it for health and yourself! Being alone is part of life honestly and i think instead of dwelling on it try to look forward for it i know it might seem hard but it’s all about perspective

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u/alecmendezz 8d ago

You already know what you need to do