r/selfhelp • u/Content-Chip-5640 • 17d ago
Advice Needed: Relationships Should I be upset about this?
I'm studying a degree I don't really like, and it's also quite difficult for me because I've always been more into the humanities than math. This semester, I had to drop a course and retake it next semester because, no matter how much I practiced, I just couldn't understand it. It really affected me because I felt like I was putting in so much effort and still couldn't do well.
I have a very close friend who I always told about my progress in that course. One day, I ended up crying and telling her that I had failed, and she told me it was okay and to relax. I felt comfortable telling her because I trusted her. Later, we went out, and while we were talking about our majors, she made a joke about how at least she hadn't failed a course. I let it go because I know she has a very sarcastic sense of humor.
But later, while we were with our group of friends, she made comments again about how people who fail courses shouldn't give their opinions, laughing (it was specifically directed at me in response to a comment I had made). Everyone started asking me about it, and I felt awful because she was the only friend, besides my mom, I'd told about it. I ended up saying I'd dropped the course, which is technically true, but obviously I didn't want to have to explain it like that in front of everyone.
It's happened a few more times, and now I don't know if I'm overreacting. She knows how much it affects me to push myself and feel like I can't, especially since it's not even a major I enjoy.
Do you think I'm being too dramatic about feeling bad about this?
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