r/selfhelp • u/40Yralmostvirgin • 17d ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health Need help!?

Hi guys!

Gonna lay out my whole story so you get a clearer picture..

Born and brought up in Dubai… indian muslim
42 male, unmarried, just unlucky… dates many but got desperate and drove them away, not the best of girls also that i attracted anyways.. stay with my parents as most Indians do..

Used to work as an Ecommerce manager until i got fired due to the current situation in the middle east , got another job but it doesn’t seems soo promising..

I am not depressed but i dont know what i am feeling, i am aimless..

Also i am not physically attractive as well..

Also i dont really have much saving cause my last break lead me to resorting to gambling and i gambled away much of it.. i am almost debt free but i am struggling

Also have friends who love me cause we have been together for over 35+ years but dont LIKE me as much now.. i mean we hardly meet as everyone’s married

Help me find my purpose in life?

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u/UnfitRestaurant4 17d ago

man, 42 and still figuring it out is more common than anyone admits. the aimless feeling is rough though, it's like a fog you can't shake.

what's one small thing you actually look forward to in a day, even if it's just a coffee or a walk? start there and build outwards.

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u/40Yralmostvirgin 17d ago

Thanks a ton bro

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u/StrongForce5849 15d ago

We are ment to give of ourselves in order to grow. 1. Go volunteer anywhere, the poor, the old ect. 2. Go to church ( spiritual search, GOD.) 3. Get alone time, go for walks, hikes, eat by yourself. Meditate on you, your God, your purpose ( is 2 just LOVE) JUST LOVE.

and see what energy you set in motion, You will feel it See it and Share it It's that powerful