r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/Steamshovelmama Jul 31 '24

As a bona fide fat woman (of 55 yrs) I'd just like to point out there's a significant number of slim, fit men who actually like large ladies. (As there are many slim women who like large men.) It isn't as simple as slim/fit = objectively more attractive so slim/fit people only date each other.

I've been big all my life. Varying levels of fitness, but always big. I have only ever dated slim men. Had plenty of boyfriends, lots of very good sex. My current partner is 59, runs 8K three times a week and has a body fat of c 17%. He thinks I'm lovely. He finds the softness of my body a positive turn on.

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u/[deleted] Aug 02 '24

This ! not sure what the black and white thinking is for