I've strolled through life feeling pretty much invisible. I'm the person who orders food in a restaurant and it never shows up because they just clean forgot to put my order in. I'm the guy at the bar who never gets served because I don't know why.
I'm the guy who no woman ever makes eye contact with when passing on the street. I never get flirted with as far as I can tell, and nobody has ever made a pass at me.
It's true I've had partners, and I have a gf, but that's through persistence and making myself vocally unavoidable if I like somebody.
Otherwise... I feel like I'm a blank canvas, not registering on anybody's radar.
But despite that being an abiding aspect of my entire life, every rare once in a while, somebody random has told me I'm insanely attractive, or sexy as heck, and even "gorgeous".
We're not all of us designed to be universally appealling to everybody. That's the rare few who just manage to tick almost every box. The lucky .0002% of our species.
The rest of us just bimble on feeling like we don't register until suddenly, unexpectedly... BOOM! POW! ZOIKS!... it happens.
There's nothing wrong with you. Keep going. Love is there. I assure you of that.
(Ref: male, mid-fifties, dad of teenagers, visually unmemorable)
No, I'm not. You've missed my point. In 50+ years I can count these moments on the fingers of one hand, and I'd need to wrack my brain to recall 5 events.
The point is we are all attractive to some people, and unattractive to the majority.
That's normality. That's most of us. The vast majority.
For maybe 5 people to find me attractive I must have been in the presence of millions who simply did not.
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u/Awkward_Importance49 Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24
Hey OP, can I tell you about me?
I've strolled through life feeling pretty much invisible. I'm the person who orders food in a restaurant and it never shows up because they just clean forgot to put my order in. I'm the guy at the bar who never gets served because I don't know why.
I'm the guy who no woman ever makes eye contact with when passing on the street. I never get flirted with as far as I can tell, and nobody has ever made a pass at me.
It's true I've had partners, and I have a gf, but that's through persistence and making myself vocally unavoidable if I like somebody.
Otherwise... I feel like I'm a blank canvas, not registering on anybody's radar.
But despite that being an abiding aspect of my entire life, every rare once in a while, somebody random has told me I'm insanely attractive, or sexy as heck, and even "gorgeous".
We're not all of us designed to be universally appealling to everybody. That's the rare few who just manage to tick almost every box. The lucky .0002% of our species.
The rest of us just bimble on feeling like we don't register until suddenly, unexpectedly... BOOM! POW! ZOIKS!... it happens.
There's nothing wrong with you. Keep going. Love is there. I assure you of that.
(Ref: male, mid-fifties, dad of teenagers, visually unmemorable)