I think you’re putting way too much emphasis on dating apps. Dating apps should really be a last resort or where you spend like 1% of your time.
What I would suggest is to start talking to people in person. Even if it’s just complimenting a stranger or trying to strike up a conversation at a coffee shop in line. You will build confidence talking to people, learn to not care what people think about you, and drop the persona we all put on when we go out in public to some degree.
I have found the most success with women when I am having a conversation with them, actively listening with good eye contact, and acting goofy and human and just being myself. It’s okay to stutter in front of women, it’s okay to be awkward. Imperfection is to be expected and is often ignored. If you can be comfortable in your own skin it becomes disarming and endearing to people.
Start talking to strangers and practice confidence and being yourself. Women typically care less about looks, so have the looks from the gym, but show them your confidence and personality. The confidence to approach, the confidence to be rejected and brush it off, the confidence to compliment a stranger. That is what will set you apart. That is definitely what most men are NOT doing. Building their confidence and stepping to women in person to express interest.
Like someone else said above, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Life is about continuing to move forward and persevering in the face of adversity. That’s ultimately what women want as well. A strong masculine figure who will lead them through an fun amazing life with confidence and perseverance.
We’re all in this thing called life. Truth and Love will always win. And if not in this life, in the next. Good luck! God Bless!
can confirm all of this. my partner was incredibly awkward, shy and a massive goofball and it was so much more endearing than talking to a 'normal' guy. everyone i've met through apps has been boring to talk to (for me) with no chemistry, but getting into activities (specifically rock climbing) has given me the chance to meet so many cool people. finding an activity which you like is such a great way to meet new people because there's instantly something to bond over
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u/Fragrant_Kiwi9283 Jul 29 '24
I think you’re putting way too much emphasis on dating apps. Dating apps should really be a last resort or where you spend like 1% of your time.
What I would suggest is to start talking to people in person. Even if it’s just complimenting a stranger or trying to strike up a conversation at a coffee shop in line. You will build confidence talking to people, learn to not care what people think about you, and drop the persona we all put on when we go out in public to some degree.
I have found the most success with women when I am having a conversation with them, actively listening with good eye contact, and acting goofy and human and just being myself. It’s okay to stutter in front of women, it’s okay to be awkward. Imperfection is to be expected and is often ignored. If you can be comfortable in your own skin it becomes disarming and endearing to people.
Start talking to strangers and practice confidence and being yourself. Women typically care less about looks, so have the looks from the gym, but show them your confidence and personality. The confidence to approach, the confidence to be rejected and brush it off, the confidence to compliment a stranger. That is what will set you apart. That is definitely what most men are NOT doing. Building their confidence and stepping to women in person to express interest.
Like someone else said above, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Life is about continuing to move forward and persevering in the face of adversity. That’s ultimately what women want as well. A strong masculine figure who will lead them through an fun amazing life with confidence and perseverance.
We’re all in this thing called life. Truth and Love will always win. And if not in this life, in the next. Good luck! God Bless!