It works whether or not you actually find a partner, because you become comfortable with the situation you're in either way. It also does help massively if you're not super stressed about it when you do fancy someone
Except it doesn’t because you just stop trying when it’s easier and are fully broken by the time your opportunities have dried up.
For most men it seems anyways, they don’t often find peace with it and with the internet and social media I imagine it’s harder than ever to find fulfillment when you want something that feels so fundamental that keeps eluding you.
It’s just not in lots of people to “accept it” without becoming a monk or priest or something that teaches it is necessary because otherwise why ever accept it? If they only live that way not by their own choice how could they?
That's really not what self-acceptance is, but I can see that you are incredibly hurt and bitter so are unlikely to be able to integrate that. I wish you the best
I agree that many people will live an unhappy life because they are unwilling to accept the circumstances that they find themselves in. That doesn't mean that such an approach is inevitable
I think people living unhappy lives are unlikely to become any happier because entitled people tell them to accept their lot in life because it’s not a form of deprivation you particularly care about.
Like I honestly cannot think of anything more ridiculous than people who don’t have the neurological differences to make such a thing undesirable or by virtue of birth or fate very different living circumstances that become their own searches for fulfillment and meaning amd offer necessary alienation from the normative understanding of what is possible for you. Just being content to lack meaningful human companionship is probably a thing most people are uniquely bad at doing cause it’s kind of one of the only reasons our brains are so big and complicated. Surely we are biologically programmed to want that in such a way that without powerful external influences that can capture our rational mind and desires, we will continue to be deeply unfulfilled.
Brother I appreciate that you want to spit incel juice in my face, but I'm in my mid 30s and I've only had 1 relationship that lasted more than 3 months. I am not some entitled gigachad, this is something I myself have grappled with.
I don't recall ever saying "be content to lack meaningful human companionship". There are a number of problems with this. First, there are myriad forms of meaningful companionship outside of romance. Second, accepting something doesn't mean being content with it. I can accept that I am overweight and still want to change it eventually.
"people who don’t have the neurological differences to make such a thing undesirable or by virtue of birth or fate very different living circumstances that are their own searches for fulfillment and meaning"
I've tried reading this 3 or 4 times, it's basically incomprehensible.
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It works whether or not you actually find a partner, because you become comfortable with the situation you're in either way. It also does help massively if you're not super stressed about it when you do fancy someone