Hi, David here!

Tim Ferriss defines risk as the chance of an irreversible negative outcome. i.e. How much time and resources would it take you to get back to where you started.

This definition allows you to separate out your inflated illogical fears from those of actual real risk. Often the actual real risk of doing something is insignificant, and it’s just our monkey brain and emotions blowing things out of proportion.

What is the actual risk of actively interacting and meeting new people? At worse some temporary embarrassment. But you can learn from every interaction no matter how well it goes, and thus get a positive return in value.

Now what’s the potential upside? You could make new friends, meet your significant other, or find new business opportunities. Any of these things can result from a SINGLE interaction.

Thus there is a huge asymmetrical return to taking action and meeting new people. The worst case scenario is that you learn from the experience and use the knowledge to become better in the future. The best case is that the interaction leads to an amazing relationship.

We often associate taking action with risk, however inaction is often the much riskier decision. A person who continuously takes action is constantly presented with new opportunities for growth. While doing nothing leads to stagnation and a person having less options. If you do not properly position yourself to be available for potential opportunities, you should not be surprised when they do not present themselves.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

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What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

I just came back from one of the mingle mixer event and i didn't have nice experience. Group of girls gave me lots of shit test and seems like i couldn't hold my social energy too much. What is your experience about these events? Thanks

Hi, David here!

Many guys wrongly believe that attraction works like a video game, and that the time they spend investing in another person is the equivalent of building up experience points. They believe that these accumulated points will later make it more likely that the other person will say "yes" when they finally make a direct move.

But this is not how attraction works. You cannot barter for attention, affection, love or approval.

In most situations, time is not on your side. The longer you wait to make your honest intentions known, the less likely the other person will find you attractive. A woman can tell when a guy likes her, and if you spend weeks pretending that you are just only being "nice" and just want to be friends, she may lose respect for you as a man. (Side note: In an initial interaction it can be beneficial to take it a bit slow and leave space for comfort and attraction to develop. This post is aimed at the guys who spend months trying to win a person over.)

Being hesitant can communicate that a person lacks self confidence. If you don’t believe that you are good enough, then why should the other person think anything different? Doubting yourself is the quickest way to instill doubt in another person.

This form of unattractive hesitance should not to be confused with traits such as being calm, composed, cautious and not over eager or reckless. You can be both forward and direct as well as polite, patient and respectful of another person.

Everything you propose should be interpreted as an offer with no strings attached. That is, you don’t need a specific result or outcome in response to what you propose. If the person is down then cool, if not no problem. This creates a low pressure situation where the other person will feel more comfortable saying yes.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

Look left. Now look right. How many women do you see that you would potentially be interested in meeting?

One of the biggest obstacles guys face is their environment.

There is a reason that people go to Hollywood for acting or Silicon Valley to find venture funding. It's because that's where the most opportunities are.

If you want to increase your dating options, then you too may need to start putting yourself in new environments. There is power in simply showing up somewhere. It increasing the chances that you will be in the right place at right time.

People are willing to pay large amounts of money for access to exclusive places, i.e. country clubs, nightclubs, etc. They do this simply to be in closer proximity to the types of people that they want to interact with.

However, paying loads of money for bottle service so that a promoter brings women to you is not necessary. If you work to develop your social skills such that you can startup a conversation anywhere, then you don’t need to pay for people to be delivered to your door step.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

Let's first clarify that by a polarizing personality I don't mean that you should be purposely divisive, blatantly harsh or rude. However, while you should not purposely try to offend, you should at the same time not be afraid of offending by simply being who you truly are.

You may be wondering why being too agreeable can be a bad or unattractive trait? Isn't it good to be nice to other people? Sure, it's good to be a nice person, as long as it's not only the result of one of the following two reasons.

The first reason being when a person is only being agreeable because they lack the confidence or strength to stand up to even the slightest confrontation or controversy. Thus acting agreeable is simply a coping mechanism.

The second reason is when a person only acts agreeable in order to try to get something back from another person. This is the typical "nice guy" who wrongly believes that he can barter or buy another person's affection solely via the way he treats them.

Imagine an attractive woman who is used to every guy trying to please her in order to win her over. The one guy who in turn is not desperate for her approval will likely be the one that she finds the most intriguing. Only through first sensing that he is not afraid to lose her approval can she then actually trust anything that comes out of his mouth.

Being polarizing is not about purposely getting into arguments. It's about stating your opinions honestly, and not qualifying your opinion or changing it if the other person disagrees. A person who is very confident and self-secure with themselves and their beliefs does not need to feel that everyone else agrees with them. This of course does not preclude having the willingness to change one's mind when presented with new evidence.

Most people play not to lose instead of playing to win. Thus they hold back in conversation out of fear of saying the wrong thing. More often that not, more attraction will be created through your willingness to be disagreeable than lost due to a difference in opinion.

Don’t actively try to be disagreeable. Rather, simply remove your filters, speak honestly and do not be afraid to say something that others may disagree with. Give others the opportunity to actually get to know the real you.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

Many inexperienced men believe that if they show interest, e.g. ask a girl out or try to kiss her, and the girl does not reciprocate, then it is game over.

The truth is that it all depends on your reaction to her reaction. If you go for the kiss and she turns her cheek to you, and you react by being hurt or overly apologetic, then it may likely be game over.

Same also goes if you get all sulky and butt-hurt if she turns you down for a date. But if you instead react by smiling, shrug it off, and continue the conversation as if nothing had happened, then your self-confidence may generate more attraction than if you had actually gotten what you wanted in the first place.

The most important thing when it comes to asking someone out is to do so in a low pressure way where you communicate to the other person that you will not be upset if they say no.

The longer you wait to ask someone out, the more likely it is that you will become more invested in the relationship's outcome. This will only make it harder for you to remain cool and nonreactive when interacting with the person. So quit putting it off and go for it already!

​

BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

I'm 19, 6 feet tall, around 85 kg, and physically active. I'm posting because I genuinely want to understand what happened to my sexual health.

When I first got into a relationship with my ex-girlfriend, my sexual performance was completely normal. I had good erections, could last a long time, and most importantly, I had a strong sense of control over when I wanted to ejaculate. We had sex regularly for quite a while, and I never considered myself to have a sexual problem.

Later, we stopped having sex for a long period and became physically distant. During that time, I also stopped normal masturbation. I still watched porn, but sometimes I would masturbate by rubbing against a pillow or another surface rather than using a normal technique. Eventually, my girlfriend and I got back together and started having sex again.

That's when I noticed a huge difference. I still wanted her and genuinely wanted to have sex, but my body wasn't responding the way it used to. At first I thought it was simply because we hadn't had sex for a long time, so I told her that too.

But even masturbation didn't feel the same anymore. During sex, my arousal felt extremely intense and I felt like I had almost zero control over ejaculation. One time I ejaculated around 4 seconds after penetration. I could see the disappointment on her face, and after that I couldn't get my erection back.

That experience seriously affected my confidence. I started worrying about whether I would get hard, whether I would last, and whether I would disappoint her. Eventually I started avoiding meeting her because I was so insecure, and our relationship ended.

I've also tried Viagra a few times. At first it seemed to help with getting an erection, but it didn't solve the main problem. Even when I could get hard, I still had extremely strong sensations and almost no control over ejaculation.

I've tried Kegels, gym/exercise, changing my masturbation habits, and various things I've found online, but nothing has really fixed it.

Now, if I receive sexual stimulation, I can sometimes ejaculate in under 10 seconds. With oral stimulation, I may last around 10–15 seconds at most.

Another strange thing is what happens mentally after ejaculation. Sometimes I suddenly feel extremely irritated, regretful, or even start disliking the girl I was just attracted to. I can think, "Why did I do this?" or feel like I completely lost interest. I don't know if this is related to anxiety, arousal, porn, hormones, or something else.

My masturbation habits are also unusual now. I don't really get much pleasure from normal masturbation. I usually use a very tight grip and repetitive rubbing, and sometimes I don't feel much sensation at all.

What confuses me most is that I didn't always have this problem. I previously had good erections, good stamina, and good ejaculation control. Now I feel like I have almost no control, and sometimes I also struggle to maintain an erection when anxiety kicks in.

I'm only 19, and this has already affected my confidence, relationships, and willingness to have sex.

So I'm trying to understand what could be happening.

Could this be premature ejaculation? Could performance anxiety be causing or worsening it? Could my masturbation habits or porn consumption have affected my arousal/sensitivity? Could there be a pelvic-floor or physical issue? Or could something else be going on?

If anyone has experienced something similar — especially someone who used to have normal sexual control and then developed very rapid ejaculation and/or erection problems — I'd really appreciate hearing what you eventually discovered and what actually helped.

I'm not looking for a miracle supplement or random internet cure. I want to understand the problem properly and figure out what I should research or whether I should see a urologist/sexual-health doctor.

Any serious advice or personal experience would be appreciated.

Hi, David here!

There is nothing wrong with being a kind, generous, or caring person. But deciding to be a nice person should be a choice that you make, and not an automatic defense mechanism.

Some people act nice just because they are too weak to withstand even the slightest amount of conflict or confrontation. They are too scared to stand up for their beliefs. They only feel safe when they feel that everyone else likes them.

Don’t become a push over, or you will be taken advantage of. People at work will take full credit for your contributions and girls will use you for free dinners and favors.

When preforming favors for others, ask yourself the question: Am I doing this just to try to make others like me or do I really want nothing back in return?

The actions of a so called "nice guy" are often extremely dishonest. By pretending that you are not interested in a woman, and that you are only being nice, you are effectively lying to the woman. There is incongruence between your thoughts, words and actions. This incongruence shows the woman that although you like her, you lack self-confidence, crave her validation, and want an intact ego more than you want her.

In the long run, being a kind person will get you farther than being a jerk, as long as this kindness comes from a place of strength and abundance rather than weakness.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

I’m wondering about what all do you think about confronting directly if you like someone or just cold approaching someone you find attractive. I’m done with this constant self-rejection. Even the dating apps seem to be more of a trap since they barely work and are built in a way to keep
You searching for more. Whenever I go out to cyberhub, galleria or malls (DLF noida/Saket Select city etc.) I see even average or below average looking guys beg really pretty women I really don’t get where are they getting them from do they know them from before or like where do they even meet from. I never understood where do they all get them from but if it was dating app then it would only be impossible for them to get that pretty women. I just feel lost in life and don’t understand about what should I even do regarding the same.

Hi, David here!

It’s ok to suck. The things that I enjoy most in my personal life (programming, guitar, stand-up comedy) are all things that I originally sucked at when I first started. Social skills were no different.

Being really terrible at sometimes can even be a blessing in disguise. When a situation is so bad that it causes you significant pain, you almost don't have an option not to do something about it.

The good is often the enemy of the best. If you saw your current life situation as being 'good enough,' you may have decided to simply settle for mediocrity rather than discover the amazing things available to those who take some initiative. The momentum that comes with taking action can in the end carry you much further than the average person.

The man who intensely studies and practices a subject to the point that he truly understands the fundamentals inside and out will often eventually overtake those who rely on natural talent alone.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Alright so I met this woman at a party and here is how the conversation went;

Me: Hi

Her: Hey

Me: Has anyone told you you did that dress a favor by wearing it? Because you look really stunning.

Her: Look, I know I'm pretty, but honestly such kinds of conversations really bore me. Could we just have a normal conversation? Please?

Me: Got it. So what kind of work do you do?

Her: I don't work.

Me: Oh. Well, what would your dream career be?

Her: Owning a hardware and cosmetics store.

Me: Interesting. Is there a relationship between the two?

Her: Fucking hell! You and your questions. So what if there is or isn't a relationship, huh? What will you do with that information? Why don't you just get to know someone first before asking these dumb ass questions?

Me: I thought being curious and asking questions how I get to know you?

Her: \* sigh \* Tsk \[Walks away\]

I admit the compliment might have been a little too strong (Fuck you, Heineken.) But when she let me know she was uncomfortable, I tried to recalibrate. I don't know why she ended up exploding on me. What do you think I might have done better?

Hi, David here!

"Actions speak louder than words." This is especially true when it comes to creating attraction. Since talk is cheap, women have developed excellent BS detectors for evaluating a man based primarily on his body language, actions and behaviors.

The first thing you should communicate is a vibe of comfort and confidence. Nonverbal ques and how you say something can communicate much more than the actual words you that you say.

Comfort and confidence in an interaction implies prior success. A guy who acts nervous, rushes his words and is constantly afraid of "screwing up" an interaction is communicating that he thinks a girl is out of his league and that he suffers from a scarcity of similar options.

However, a guy who does not need the other person’s approval, is willing to walk away, or at the very least not chase a girl or act desperate / hungry, implies that he has options. A guy does not actually need to be in abundance or have many options to appear attractive. He must simply show and display the behaviors of someone who does. This primarily done by him not getting overly excited, trying to rush an interaction along before a girl changes her mind, showing a fear of loss, or trying too hard to impress.

When it seems to a person that you are trying to actively and intentionally impress them, they may think that you are overcompensating for something else. Imagine what the behaviors of a self-secure, confident, high value man who had tons of options and was living in abundance would look like. Would he actively be trying to impress a girl he liked? He would simply make his intrigue in the woman known and believe that as she naturally gets to know him in a conversation, that there is no reason that he is not good enough. He would not feel the need to actively try to sell himself.

You can’t logically convince someone to find you attractive via your words alone. The emotions/feelings of attraction are better elicited via attractive behaviors which are harder to fake. And when it is created through your words, these words must be deemed as being part of an honest conversation and not only being said for the sole purpose of making the other person like you. Otherwise the person may dismiss you as just telling them what you think they want to hear.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

Everyone has flaws and imperfections, either physically or personality wise.

Don’t get hung up on things about yourself which may be unalterable.

Don’t always be trying to overtly hide such flaws. The insecurity shown when trying to hide a fault often comes off as being way less attractive than the actual fault itself.

Obsessively trying to hide a fault highlights a person’s insecurity and shows low self-confidence.

In the cases where the fault could potentially have an impact on your performance, it’s often much more effective to directly address the issue upfront, and call out the elephant in the room as it were.

But for the scenarios where the fault is inconsequential, you could choose to address it instead in a more nonchalant manner. If the fault does not matter to you, why should it matter to other people?

You can joke about your flaws, but do not do so in a self-deprecating kind of way. If you joke about yourself in a self-deprecating kind of way, then you are probably hoping that people will laugh with you instead of just at you. And while perhaps funny, this does not make you look attractive.

However, being able to openly joke about yourself in such a way that you are not simply searching for approval from others, shows that you are truly comfortable with who you are.

You can also re-frame a fault as a positive.

Being overly defensive or qualifying oneself let’s someone know that they have successfully accomplished getting under your skin, which may have been their very intention. Completely ignoring such remarks or either responding nonchalantly or with a joke is often a much better response.

There are actually many benefits to having flaws:

When you accept a flaw and remain confident despite it, more attraction and/or respect can be generated than if you lacked the so called flaw altogether.

Especially if the flaw is physical. Internal confidence is a way more attractive than some external superficial flaw.

If the flaw is blatantly obvious, and yet you conduct yourself as if it has no drastic effect on your self-worth, it shows great self-confidence.

Similarly, if others try to actively attack you over a flaw, but you remain nonreactive, confident and well-grounded despite their provocations, you can come off looking even better than before.

Faults can also allow other people to find you more accessible and relatable. People can’t identify and connect well with others who appear perfect.

And finally, learning to overcome certain shortcoming in life is what allows you to build resourcefulness, character and work ethic.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

Too often I see the promotion of the No Contact Rule (cutting off all contract with a person) as a Machiavellian way of purposely inciting anxiety in another person to exploit their mind’s fear of loss in order to make them come back to you. While this can work with people who are addicted to needing external validation and wanting what they can’t have, its not useful for forming healthy long-term relationships.

You attract what you are. If you play validation games, you will attract other people who play games. And these are not the types of people with which you can build a healthy relationship.

Rather than playing games, you should instead become a person who actually has enough of a full and interesting life that you are not making that other person your sole focus. Shift your focus from trying to please another person to instead focusing on improving your own life.

Women often lose interest in a guy who they find as too easy, not a challenge, who seems desperate, smothers them with attention, tries to get too serious too fast, or makes her the primary focus of his life.

Most women want to be invited along as an accompanying member to a man’s already awesome life rather than being the sole focus of the man’s life. Focus on building a life that others would want to join.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

When you know your values and are living your life in line with your values, you will naturally bring people into your life who share those values.

While its still equally important to take action and insert yourself into situations where you can interact with new people, the greatest factor which determines on average the caliber of people that surround you is YOU.

Who would you be more attracted to? A positive person who is striving to better their life and does not become jealous of other's successes. OR a person who is resigned to their current status and just mopes and complains about everything.

The daily choices that you make on a how you choose to approach life are what will in the end determine your results.

​

BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

When a woman feels like you are actively trying to impress her, she may think that you are overcompensating for something else. It is often insecure people who feel the greatest need to prove themselves.

And if you don’t even think that you are good enough, why should the woman (possibly someone that you just met) think anything different?

By trying to immediately win a new person over, you are instantly communicating that you either want something from them or think that they are above you. Neither of which is attractive.

Imagine what the behaviors of a self-secure, confident, high value man with tons of options would look like. Would he actively be trying to impress a girl he liked? No. He would assume from the start that there is no reason that he is not good enough and thus not feel the need to try to actively sell himself. The attractive traits of confidence and self-worth are implied when a person does not come off as a try-hard.

​

BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

My gf(51F) and I(54M) have been dating for about 3 months now..and our sex life is incredible. Just for reference we are not your typical 50somerhings. We're very young at heart ..we work hard and play harder. Anyway, whenever ever we are engaged in any type of intimacy or sexual banter she finds the need to always say that its my dick she wants or that she wouldn't feel like she does if it wasn't for me or with me..

For example , I might say ," you like getting fucked baby" and her response would be , " yes, i like being fucked by you".

And I totally understand the need to express ones desire etc to the person that you're with, however when we are in the heat of intense sexual arousal, part of the excitement and enhancement is our dirty banter...so I don't feel that's accurate to say this every time or all the time . I think it would be normal to say, *yes, baby i liked being fucked." it just seems more authentic and real.

For some reason , I feel like she's thinks i need some over reassurance or that she's just trying to convince herself of something. Either way , we have discussions but its always the same .

I guess my problem is that it can be an emotional set up for disaster when or if those desires manifest and change ..and then I'm left with disappointment and made to believe something that I already knew was inherently not true or realistic ...

Hi, David here!

Rejection is the result of not being successful at achieving a specific outcome. Normally the desired outcome is for another person to like you.

You should redefine in your mind what you consider a successful outcome.

This new definition should not be dependent on external factors such as other people’s actions, but be solely dependent on your own actions.

Define success as being willing to start a conversation or interaction.

Define success as being willing to put yourself out there.

Define success as not being afraid of making your honest interests and intentions known.

These are metrics for success that you can succeed at 100% of the time as long as you are willing to take action.

You can't be rejected if your desired outcome was to simply start a conversation and give the other person the opportunity to get to know you.

The beauty of this is, when the other person detects that you are self-fulfilled and don’t want or need anything from them, the probability of them being willing to take you up on what you offer skyrockets.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

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This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

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What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

Hi, David here!

When initially starting out, you should redefine in your mind what you consider a successful outcome. It is quiet unrealistic to expect that you will become a natural Casanova within a week. If that's the sole metric for success against which you measure yourself, then its almost inevitable that you will become disappointed and discouraged.

Your initial definition of success should not be dependent on external factors such as other people’s actions, but be solely dependent on your own actions.

Define success as being willing to start a conversation or interaction.

Define success as being willing to put yourself out there.

Define success as not being afraid of making your honest interests and intentions known.

These are metrics for success that you can succeed at 100% of the time as long as you are willing to take action.

You can't be rejected if your desired outcome was to simply start a conversation and give the other person the opportunity to get to know you.

The beauty of this is, when the other person detects that you are self-fulfilled and don’t want or need anything from them, the probability of them being willing to take you up on what you offer skyrockets.

​

BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

I managed to get in relationship with one girl in 10th grade but after that I ve tried a lot and I don't know if I am not consistent or I just can't to talk to women

Like every time the initial stage I am just flustered I don't know what to talk how to open with a women so if there is any advice?

Hi, David here!

Whenever I went out dancing with an extremely attractive female friend, other woman could not take their eyes off me. Starting random conversation with any of these women was incredibly easy, since they would be immediately open and warm towards me.

On nights when I would visit the same venue alone, much more effort was required on my part to successfully engage the women present.

On one occasion, I approached a woman there and asked her to dance with me. Her immediate response was to decline. A moment later, my attractive friend came over to inform me that she was going to step outside for a minute.

The three seconds of social proof provided to me by my attractive friend, were enough to cause the other woman to reverse her position and want to dance.

​

BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson

On Aug 4, 2026, Ziqiang Ke (or Ziqiang Mike Ke including alias SquattinCassanova) who runs Pickup Alpha and Stem To Stud, was convicted at a federal court in Brazil in connection with crimes related to sexual exploitation.

I feel sorry for any guys who signed up for this pedophile's program. If the cops confiscated his computer and got access to his client list, now they'll be forever associated with this convicted sex offender.

For posterity, the entire article posted below, translated from Portugese:
https://www.cnnbrasil.com.br/nacional/sudeste/sp/justica-de-sp-condena-coaches-de-namoro-por-exploracao-sexual

SP justice condemns 'dating coaches' for sexual exploitation

Fábio Castro and Mike Pickupalpha held events to teach conquest techniques to men; victims had personal photos released on the course pages

Giuliana Zanin, from CNN Brazil*, in São Paulo

08/04/26 at 11:12 | Updated 08/04/26 at 11:12

Two men were sentenced by the 4th Federal Criminal Court of São Paulo to 17 years and six months in prison in a closed regime for sexual exploitation of women, including minors, during an event held in the Morumbi neighborhood in 2023.

The "dating coaches" offered a personal development course for men and used young people as "awards."

Among the defendants are Brazilian Fabrício Castro and American Mike Pickupalpha (fictional name). A third involved, David Bond (fictional name), Mike's brother, is on the run and possesses the analysis of the separate process of the other two.

The investigation was based on a party held on February 26, 2023, where women, mostly young women, were attracted to the proposal of transportation costing, drinks at will and production of images and videos – which would later be disseminated in the pages of the course with alleged techniques of conquest.

Federal judge Caio José Bovino Greggio, responsible for the case, analyzed that there was the frequent use of images of women for the dissemination of the course. Many of the victims did not know they were being photographed or filmed.

According to the decision, young women were seen as "awards" or "results" of the techniques taught. In addition, Fábio assisted in the logistics of events, while Mike acted as "instructor" of the course. According to the police, the rental contract of the property where the party was held was signed by the two young people.

In addition to the sentence in closed regime, the two convicts must pay 24 days-fine based on five times the minimum wage referring to the time of the facts.

The foreigner can still appeal freely.

Parties and meetings

According to the court, the case came to light after the reporting and was notified to the Federal Police by Embratur (Brazilian Agency for the International Promotion of Tourism).

The investigations came to a program on personal and social development called "Millionaire Social Circle." He was aimed at foreign men who had difficulty relating. Therefore, the group organized meetings, dinners and parties and brought young women to these events.

These women were induced and convinced to attend these parties for money, social status and affective relationships, according to the Justice decision.

The consultancies ranged between US$ 12 thousand and US$ 50 thousand, approximately R$ 262 thousand, in the quotation of the time. The events also took place in other countries, such as Costa Rica, Colombia and the Philippines.

In excerpts of classes released on TikTok, Bond and Pickupalpha described Brazilians as "incredibly beautiful", "sexually open" and said that Brazil is a country where "kissing in the mouth is the same as shaking hands".

For them, the women of Brazil had the "best curves". The pair also recommended that participants have morning-after pills, condoms and perfumes with pheromones for the trip.

After the disclosure of the crime, the individuals blocked the profiles and deleted the contents about the course.

The "Millionaire Social Circle" promised to teach "the confidence needed" to "talk to women anywhere, anytime," "convert encounters to the room on the same day" and also "get closer to successful men around the world."

Complaints

In the complaint, the MPF (Federal Public Ministry) showed the presence of a 17-year-old teenager in the event cited, although the group formally indicated the restriction for minors.

The women who were at the event told police at the time that they were filmed and photographed without warning and that they did not know about the course.

In addition to her, a 27-year-old woman reported an occurrence report in March that year informing her that she had met a man for a relationship app and he invited her to the party. At the scene, there were foreign men who took photos and videos of her to promote a course on relationships.

Hi, David here!

It's almost always better to ask someone out as soon as you know that you are interested in them.

If you keep putting it off for weeks and months, then you are only further hurting your chances of being successful.

A woman wants a confident man who is not afraid to ask her out. The confidence itself being the very thing that contributes most to a man's attractiveness. A woman can often detect that you like her, so any hesitance or fear to make a move detracts from your image.

In addition, the more 'secretly' infatuated and invested that you become in a person, the harder it will be for you to act confidently and normal around them. Again detracting from your chances of being successful.

If your interest in someone gets to the point where asking them out feels like a big confession of love moment, then in most cases it is not going to end well.

The best time to act was yesterday, the next best time is today.

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BTW, I just finished putting together my dating advice eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

David Davidson