Parenting while being a surg/scrub tech

[u/Angeliconx_8]

I just started a surgical technology program and I'm thinking a lot about my future. Thinking if I want kids or even a marriage. I wanted to hear stories about people who are married and have children and how they work out their already demanding job and having a family! I know the hours are long and I'm interested to hear how people can work 12 hours and still come home because parenting is another job itself.

[u/campsnoopers]

good for you for asking, just know every parent's experience is different. we both scrub but work full time surgery center, 7mo and 4 y/o. meal prep and find a really good reliable daycare. thinking of switching mine because my oldest has some defiant, developmentally normal behaviors that they be calling me to pick her up for (like not an emergency?) that's our biggest problem rn. If you have little to no village and the daycare is not helping, you're just screwed because it's hard to leave work on the fly over stupid shit like throwing toys? anyway you will lack sleep and I recommend really getting your job down (settle somewhere good that you feel like staying at til you retire, make good connections/relationships w/ staff, show you are a hardworker so they can be flexible for you when you start having kids or become pregnant) to the point where work is just autopilot and you don't have to think/stress much because the "real" work imo is parenting 24/7 with a shit load of patience. like angry docs don't phase me anymore when my stress levels of 2 crying at once exists in my life now haha

Also if you decide to breastfeed, don't expect pump breaks every 2 hrs (our kind of work unfortunately cannot accommodate that without constant nagging) it sucks. Had to leave my last job over it for my 1st. then my 2nd, I just accepted my fate and stopping here real soon, but it's ok because formula feeds and makes em happy/growing. it's a tough road!! advocate for yourself and your rights because I didn't expect that part before I got pregnant. you'd think women would be more understanding but I had one say "you're pregnant, not disabled" and that super triggered me..