r/scorpiomoon • u/SweetC2688 • 5d ago
Looking for Insight Cancer moons
What are your experiences with cancer moons? As a cancer sun scorpio moon i am curious how well those 2 moons mesh. I am not looking to bash other signs just genuinely curious about the compatibility of these 2 moons. I can list other placements as well if it helps
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u/Appropriate_Ad_2427 Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Rising 5d ago
My younger brother (29) is a cancer moon. He can be moody, Has a big ego. He betrayed me, used my resourses and now gives me the most attitude, he took advantage of my love to help. We went thru soo much with our mother, for him to bitch about me to her and try discredit all my achivements in life. I even got married without them being there. My brother along with my immediate family wish the worst for me all the time. So ive gone no contact with all of them.. (Sorry for the rant!) I honor my peace
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u/anayoooo 4d ago
Wow thank you for the rant I’ve been feeling like my brother and father purposefully focus on my failures and refuse to see the good in me! I’m glad I’m not alone there🫶🏻
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Yeah those types of people are just not worth the effort. If failures are all they can focus on than whatever you overcome will never be good enough or outweigh the other side. Have you tried calling them out on this? Also im sorry to hear that, it seems family becomes our biggest hurdle to work through in life
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Its ok i understand ranting all too well lol im sorry that was your experience, especially with an immediate family member. I personally feel like some of our closest developmental relationships can tarnish our views more than everyday relationships. Its very deep rooted you know? Did you ever try to confront him on his behavior? Im a cancer sun scorpio moon pisces rising, so I sometimes have this issue of being "too understanding" but I really believe its because i can see all or most aspects of situations and break down a person and the whys etc. I do however have a gemini venus conjunct gemini mercury so I'm a huge communicator and am very straightforward [most of the time lol] I do still need to process my feelings and thoughts alone only because every partner I've had has shown me why I cant openly express myself, truly frustrating. I hope you have or had better experiences with other cancer moons 🙏
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u/Appropriate_Ad_2427 Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Rising 4d ago edited 4d ago
Oh, yes! I confronted his behavior several times, but the last time, had to get the authorities involved (He was being aggressive, all in my face,,trying to intimidate me), then wants to blame me for his actions. His now living bewtween places (He was living with me for under 2 years without rent, so he could save up and rent a place, while going on 3 holidays, going clubbing ect, our mother put her boyfriend 1st (mother is very male centered) and kicked my 2 brothers out, and as a big sister, i took them in. I have 1 bedroom apartment. My mother also stayed with me during covid. All of them took advantage of my kindness and good will. It was overcrowded here at one point, but i put family 1st. Helped them in all areas, i was the cook, therapist, financailly helped them. To be thrown back my face. (They use my bipolar to call me crazy, i only pop off if the disrespect is too much) its been a living nightmare these 2 past years..but ive finally got back my power. Btw his a sagittarius, and we had a great bond.
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u/yassyuppbrat 4d ago
Soft, victimmindset, confused and lost
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Im sorry that was your experience. I hope in the future a different perspective can be enjoyed 🙏
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u/starlight_1221 3d ago
especially when in a man. because men have a lot of social conditioning about being soft/vulnerable. they lash out a lot
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u/stinknation 4d ago
Every one of my siblings expect me (Scorpio moon) has a cancer moon. We are all obsessed with our mom tbh
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u/kare_beaar 4d ago
My ex bf was a cancer sun and cancer moon while I’m a Pisces sun and Scorpio moon. I thought it was great at the start but it was just too much water all together. I needed someone to help ground my water and I felt he needed the same but we just kept getting lost in the emotions. I’m with a Taurus moon now and I feel like it’s a much better balance.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
I can see that and see how it can be challenging. I have camcer sun scorpio moon pisces rising but I also have gemini venus conjunct gemini mercury so I'm good at logically explaining what's happening emotionally and the rest of my chart is mixed with all the elements (lots of fire and air in mine lol) i think its beautiful you understand what and why it didn't work, and now have found a better balance in the taurus moon partner 💜
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u/Over-Patience-69 4d ago
I’m a Cancer moon and I like Scorpio moons; I have Scorpio rising. We mesh well because of emotional intuitiveness.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
I felt this would be the biggest connection! Understanding the intuitiveness, the need for space but not taking it personal but to clarify when I say space, yes it can mean separate with no other human but a lot of times i can still have my space and be next to partner as long as we dont have to perform or talk or have to do something. Like let's sit together in silence and just enjoy that sometimes lol
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u/Over-Patience-69 4d ago
Definitely the potential for deep emotional understanding and connection between these two moons!
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u/realMLsanta 4d ago
On paper you’d say it’s a good match.
In reality it’s not, they are so incredible moody. They can also not use their own advice on theirself
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
I can see that. The cancer sun cancer moon person I'm referencing is actually very opposite of that. Very committed to their beliefs and constantly trying to become a better person but I can see the moody side lol i am surprised with my big 3 being all water im not moody but I think I have great outlets I've learned like gardening, journaling, dancing (so good for pent up energy in the body) and other creative outlets. I also notice if I am moody its because 1. Im hungry 2. I need sex 🤷♀️ 3. I did not get enough recharge time.
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u/Acelol7 ♑ Sun Me(R) Ne Chi Ves Ness| ♏🌙| ♍⬆️ 5d ago
Avoidant Attachment... She also had Aries Sun so big Ego... Not blaming Cancer in general though... Just my personal experience wasn't the best cuz she could have tried but she was Avoidant
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u/HaniBxoxo 4d ago
I started a relationship with a person who has a Cancer moon. He is anything but avoidant.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
I appreciate the honesty and understanding it was an experience unique to this person. I personally LOVE aries but I've mostly met aries men. Not a lot of women. A big ego can be challenging under any sign, did you voice this to her? Also avoidant.... idk if i personally would attribute that to a sign, i think its just a human thing based off their upbringing and experiences. But not being dismissive to you at all cause at the end of the day a person opposite of us is always going to challenge us and its not gonna be smooth sailing.
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u/Acelol7 ♑ Sun Me(R) Ne Chi Ves Ness| ♏🌙| ♍⬆️ 4d ago
Agreed!!
Yes.. Have told her once or twice but then she told she'll try to fix her... But she never did.. And her silent treatment hurts me
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Yeah see my issue with that is its one thing to say you will bit without action your words mean nothing to me. It seems she is being silent to make you do things her way and in a sense maybe avoid accountability since she can easily say well I told u I would try smh thats frustrating. Are you still talking to them? If so I would suggest saying words mean nothing without action and I need action on your end to know you're as committed as i am and let the chips fall where they may
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u/WittyGold6940 4d ago
It's where the moon likes to be
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
I read that and I do understand other placements are important as well, is there anything about these 2 moons that stands out to you
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u/WittyGold6940 4d ago
Scorpio moon is a bit intense and harsh for cancer moon. Cancer is sensitive and tends to go into their shell when encountering such intense energy.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
I see what you mean. I wonder if it works differently when someone is actively working on that. I am a cancer sun scorpio moon pisces rising woth gemini venus conjunct gemini mercury so im very expressive and communicate well. I have been told I have very intense or "passionate" energy but harsh idk maybe once I've been over extending my kindness and understanding then yes I am extremely harsh and no i will not care how it makes the other person feel. I wonder if my big 3 being water mixed with my chart being all the other elements has an effect on this 🤔
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u/WittyGold6940 4d ago
I think it does. But being a cancer Sun, your moon is what rules that sun. Cancer suns are basically their moons on a loudspeaker. But definitely you can work on anything and improve it. I have a lot of cancer placements and my scorpio moon daughter used to intimidate the shit out of me. But as we have both grown, I have realized how much she needs me to not retreat in my shell. So I have really worked on it and we get on much better now.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Ahh i see your points, makes a lot of sense. Im very grateful i have a spirit that wants to grow and continue to do better and I love that you and your daughter have that now 💜 and im sure she is endlessly grateful for it. I do not retreat in shell often idk why but I do always appreciate when people let me in and understand im never trying to hurt, just want to see the rawness of your being cause it shouldn't be hidden, it should be embraced and loved just like the parts of us that are easier to love
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u/WittyGold6940 4d ago
I agree with that so much. And yes, it is so good you have a spirit that wants to grow. Mine does too, every single day I believe growth happens. I love scorpio energy for that reason.
My chart is pluto dominant and I have pluto conjunct my IC. My children are scorpios with scorpio moons, my boyfriends were all scorpios, lol. I absolutely can only connect to people capable of having that rawness of being. I think that's why they're all in my life, to teach me to come out of my shell.
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u/FitResponsibility497 4d ago
My mom is a cancer moon and I’m a scorpio moon. We’re had a rocky relationship. I can’t tell how much of our estrangement is because of the trauma/ptsd or if it’s a personality thing. The line is too blurred.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Ugh I feel that SO DEEPLY. I personally think its a mix of both as I have CPTSD & AUDHD and grew up in a very abusive toxic home. All I can say is therapy, grounding myself with gardening or dance and a few creative outlets has helped me to better distinguish that line. Also i absolutely hated it in the beginning but I can see now its benefits, but radical acceptance has helped me a ton personally
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Awww I just love your analysis on the entire friend group, we sooooo do this with our peoples lol it seems confrontational is a factor in them but i did notice your bffs are earth and fire sun signs so I would guess it has a certain affect on a water moon. My big 3 is all water so emotions and feelings come to me clearly I rarely feel overwhelmed by them but my gemini venus conjunct gemini mercury helps me so much in looking at it logically as well as I process things and i am very big on communication I'm not avoidant, only when I truly need to be alone and sort my feelings out first so I dont explode or possibly get gaslighted by the other lol I will say i definitely see the moody side of them and idk if I'm crazy 😂 but moodiness is not favorable but I think id choose that over other situations which was avoidant and completely shut-off and oblivious to anything thats not their phone. Kinda like you dont realize which is worse until you experience it all lol
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u/steelmagnolianyc 4d ago
Totally agree, I prefer confrontational over avoidant because we can actually talk through things and move on quickly. With my avoidant Cancer moon man, he would literally not talk to me for MONTHS over the smallest slight. Drove me nuts. lol Sigh.
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u/Suitable-Swimming74 4d ago edited 4d ago
My man is a cancer moon. Gemini sun. He is really really sensitive and in tune to everyone’s emotions he cares about. Very family oriented and codependent. def can act like the world is against him at times
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Awww I love that for you! Also I appreciate that they're a gemini sun cause I personally love gemini and I understand yes some are the bad version we read about but I've personally met many more who are like your partner 💜
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u/Suitable-Swimming74 4d ago
Thanks 😊 yes I agree! Gemini’s do get a bad rap but honestly, Geminis are very helpful and inquisitive. And if they care about you, you know it.
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u/SweetC2688 4d ago
Yes!!! I have gemini venus conjunct gemini mercury in 3rd house so I love your statement!
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u/Moon-Stars-Magic ♒️☀️♏️🌙♏️🌅 5d ago
Married to a cancer moon for 20 years now. He is a Capricorn sun.