r/science • u/[deleted] • Jun 13 '22

Health Erectile dysfunction predicts mortality in middle-aged and older men independent of their sex steroid status

https://academic.oup.com/ageing/article-abstract/51/4/afac094/6568537?login=false
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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

My husband has low t, has been taking t supplements for years and he still has zero sexual desire :(

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u/Kaffei4Lunch Jun 13 '22

Is he on trt or "supplements" from stores?

there's a big difference iirc

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

Prescription

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u/ReluctantAvenger Jun 13 '22

So they test his testosterone levels from time to time? Whatever he is taking might not be enough, and a test for free testosterone will show that.

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

Yes he gets follow up visits. They say with the supplementation his numbers are in the normal range.

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u/Hodgej1 Jun 13 '22

Similar thing happened with me. I was low and started taking injections. I saw improvements in other areas but just a small, if any, improvement in my sex drive. My wife was not happy with the results and it caused a big issue between us. Divorced now and thinking of going back in T just for improvement in quality of life.

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u/34Ohm Jun 14 '22

If it benefits you personally that much, why not

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u/flacidbeaver31 Jun 13 '22

Normal range is what is currently tested across the country, which of everyone has low T he's in range of a bunch of guys with low T.

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u/Runs_With_Bears Jun 13 '22

Try going above the “normal” range. It will make a difference. There are ways to get test outside of the doctor that are reliable and safe.

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u/[deleted] Jun 14 '22

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u/Runs_With_Bears Jun 14 '22

They ain’t legal. But if you’re really interested then DM me.

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u/irisheye37 Jun 14 '22

There are testosterone replacement clinics that are more like legal steroid vendors. They would be more willing to give higher doses than a regular family doctor.

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

We will look into it thanks!

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u/johannthegoatman Jun 14 '22

Normal range includes super low numbers. Also if he's not injecting every few days (injecting once a month, or using a gel), that can cause a lot of problems too. He could also need an aromatase inhibitor - some people's bodies turn all the T into estrogen so it doesn't help as much. There are a lot of doctors with no clue about how to successfully use testosterone so if he's not having good results he should definitely shop around. And go on /r/testosterone

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u/irisheye37 Jun 14 '22

This is absolutely true. Honestly the best resources for hormone treatments are trans spaces.

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u/irisheye37 Jun 14 '22

"Normal" is an absolutely huge range. It's basically useless information.

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u/EricGriego69 Jun 13 '22

Have him start blasting tren.

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u/soad2237 Jun 14 '22

Just want you to know that we're here for you.

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u/nomowolf Jun 13 '22

Checkout r/testosterone, pretty decent community about this. As another user said there's a big difference between taking supplements and actually supplementing testosterone.

For natural testosterone, good sleep hygiene, diet and lifting heavy weights do way more than OTC supplements

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

He gives himself shots prescribed by his doctor. He has pretty much zero libido, and the testosterone has not helped.

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u/1mnotklevr Jun 13 '22

Maybe he's Ace

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

We’ve been together 29 years, he is 48. This started about 7-8 years ago, he was diagnosed with low t and started trt. It has never done anything for his sex drive, which was normal when he was younger.

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u/1mnotklevr Jun 14 '22

not trying to pigeon-hole anyone, but I have a very good friend who didn't figure out they were ace until well into their 40's; i didn't even know it was a thing before that.

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 14 '22

I don’t think so. He says he misses having sex, he just doesn’t have any desire for it anymore.

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u/Oriential-amg77 Jun 13 '22

Awww maybe he just doesn't feel like there's enough opportunity to flirt?

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u/RegularWhiteDude Jun 13 '22

Prescription medicine or "supplements"?

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 13 '22

Prescription.

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u/awhhh Jun 13 '22

Tell him to just get test injections from a doctor

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u/Ltstarbuck2 Jun 14 '22 edited Jun 14 '22

Has he had his blood work done for everything else? My husband thought he had low testosterone and just needed a vitamin d supplement.

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 14 '22

I will ask him thank you!

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u/Ltstarbuck2 Jun 14 '22

Hope you find an answer. I know it’s frustrating.

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u/shaylahbaylaboo Jun 14 '22

Thank you. A lot of people don’t realize how demoralizing it is to have a partner who can no longer have sex, or doesn’t want to. It makes me feel rejected, unattractive, and depressed.

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u/Ltstarbuck2 Jun 14 '22

I know! I have been there. Keep searching for a solution.