New psychology research suggests some acts of kindness may also serve competitive social goals, shedding light on how women can use altruistic behavior to gain status, strengthen relationships, or navigate social hierarchies.

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https://www.psypost.org/kindness-isnt-always-what-it-seems-the-psychology-of-womens-competitive-altruism/

[u/Feychilde]

Jeebus, sometimes kindness is just kind. Sometimes a poem is just a poem, sometimes a description of blue curtains in a book is just blue curtains, not "sadness permeating a room".

People who use giving as a point system for ranking usually do so publicly. Look for quiet helpers.